Do women actually need marriage in 2021?

[Afro]

Black community my ass

Hate to see it.

Just a bunch of single folk running around saying I don't need ya

 

[Afro]

Been saying humans will bring about then end of humans, and I wouldn't be bothered if people uninterested in marriage were also uninterested in children but that's not the case. Single mothers are some of the most selfish people on the planet but it's not talked at all.

As already said the American Black Community is dead White Supremacy killed it but black women were a compliant accomplice.

And nikkas and bytches got the nerve to ask how fix issues but don't even have the ability to make proper family units. More reason to flee Babylon

Interesting. Men are their own downfall.

It was a team effort

Because neither one wants to "fix" anything so here we are

 

[SheWantTheD]

They don't NEED marriage but they damn sure NEED male attention and male energy.

 

[Software]

Less stress

Less stress for her yes

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

A woman’s value doesn’t depend on how she treats/rears/is able to raise other peoples children. The scenario also doesn’t benefit her lol

I never said it did.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Interesting. Men are their own downfall.

the irony of the whole post/elephant in the room is that the man preaching to the chick in the tweet wasn't married himself. aint no fun when the rabbit got the gun but the tweeter didn't even claim GMS

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Been saying humans will bring about then end of humans, and I wouldn't be bothered if people uninterested in marriage were also uninterested in children but that's not the case. Single mothers are some of the most selfish people on the planet but it's not talked at all.

As already said the American Black Community is dead White Supremacy killed it but black women were a compliant accomplice.

And nikkas and bytches got the nerve to ask how fix issues but don't even have the ability to make proper family units. More reason to flee Babylon

Dead beat fathers are just as selfish for not sticking around and playing a role in their child’s life. It takes two to make a baby. If only one is taking care of the child, because the other is off doing his own thing, the blame is not just to the woman in the equation it’s also to the man who left the equation incomplete. Not every single mother is single by choice, some are raising children completely own their own because the man does not want to parent the child they helped create. Hence the common question y’all ask in many threads “where’s the father?”

Furthermore have you seen our divorce rate? Our divorce rate is currently higher than our marriage rate. The dysfunction is seen in our marriages/relationships just as much as it is in the rate of single parent hood in our community.

Marriage at this point functions as a business contract—and both parties want to get something out of it. But numerous articles have shown that for the average black couple, there aren’t many benefits being gotten—even in the case of children. Children benefit from a two parent home, but that is assuming it’s a functional healthy marriage. If the divorce rate is as high as it is in our community, one can naturally conclude that there are many marriages that aren’t functional or healthy which leaks onto the child, especially since eventually those marriages lead to divorce anyway.

The goal should not just be marriage in itself but healthy, functional marriages that offer benefits to both parties, in addition to the children.

the failure in our community is just as much to blame on the men as it is the women. And on a site that often promotes GMB, it doesn’t make sense to chide women for not wanting traditional marriage either—even if the reasoning differs between the two sexes the conclusion is the same. Yes I understand that it seems particularly selfish for women who don’t value marriage to have children in less than ideal situations.

But there are still many bw who do want marriage, and want to have children in two parent homes. So if a man values marriage and wants that too, rather than focus on the women who do not, why not focus on the ones who do?

 

[Bossino]

Dead beat fathers are just as selfish for not sticking around and playing a role in their child’s life. It takes two to make a baby. If only one is taking care of the child, because the other is off doing his own thing, the blame is not just to the woman in the equation it’s also to the man who left the equation incomplete. Not every single mother is single by choice, some are raising children completely own their own because the man does not want to parent the child they helped create. Hence the common question y’all ask in many threads “where’s the father?”

Furthermore have you seen our divorce rate? Our divorce rate is currently higher than our marriage rate. The dysfunction is seen in our marriages/relationships just as much as it is in the rate of single parent hood in our community.

Marriage at this point functions as a business contract—and both parties want to get something out of it. But numerous articles have shown that for the average black couple, there aren’t many benefits being gotten—even in the case of children. Children benefit from a two parent home, but that is assuming it’s a functional healthy marriage. If the divorce rate is as high as it is in our community, one can naturally conclude that there are many marriages that aren’t functional or healthy which leaks onto the child, especially since eventually those marriages lead to divorce anyway.

The goal should not just be marriage in itself but healthy, functional marriages that offer benefits to both parties, in addition to the children.

the failure in our community is just as much to blame on the men as it is the women. And on a site that often promotes GMB, it doesn’t make sense to chide women for not wanting traditional marriage either—even if the reasoning differs between the two sexes the conclusion is the same. Yes I understand that it seems particularly selfish for women who don’t value marriage to have children in less than ideal situations.

But there are still many bw who do want marriage, and want to have children in two parent homes. So if a man values marriage and wants that too, rather than focus on the women who do not, why not focus on the ones who do?

For the most part we'll have to agree to disagree, women are the gatekeepers of life, and most men can spot a future/potential deadbeat a mile away women still choose them and procreate with them that's their fault. I knew 45 was a moron when I was 6, I always accept a POS (piece of shyt/pieces of shyt) is POS and they are pragmatically dead to me and I ignore/don't associate. Those who follow, hang with, date or prop up POS are either too stupid to make their own decisions or also POS. When it comes to creation of life with divorce and abortion laws the way they are it's always going to be the woman's fault and no one can move me off that proverbial square. With power comes responsibility/accountability and since women are notorious for struggling with the bolded there's always been latent sentiment that women have to have someone over looking their choices AKA not being fully independent.

Ironically in the places women have gained independence and equality, family structure has declined. If people don't want to do rearing children in the most effective way 2 parent household where the parents are together and exclusive gov marriage or not, they really need to just not. But as aforementioned this where people particularly women's selfishness comes in. You're not unique. I'm 23, I've come across at least 30+ women my age or younger that have explicitly said they want a baby, but the baby daddy, can just go do whatever. Only difference is most of them come from broken homes.

The answer to your bolded question is obvious as the stats have shown there's not enough to go around if more black men are looking for LTR, than black women are the dudes out in the cold will be trying to flip the be who aren't interested, wrong or right. It's either that date out or die alone. Really that simple. I've opted to die alone and adopt some black kids.

I have no personal venom for you, any ill will is toward what your lifestyle suggests for others in the community, but granted I have to keep in mind Amerikkkan Black folk lost when they integrated.

 

[Bossino]

It was a team effort

Because neither one wants to "fix" anything so here we are

This is flawed logic in 2021 as in the first world men can't tell women en masse to do anything regardless of how beneficial it is for them, without being sexist, chauvinist, misogynist pigs so I'm going to have to agree to disagree, boss

 

[Ahadi]

Shortsightedness but be the first ones screaming black power on this forum and across multiple social media platforms

Meanwhile other groups bypassing black folks with precision
They understand what marriage means and nikkas/bytches still having this tired argument
Only group of people that celebrate dysfunction
Stand tall in pride of just being a baby momma but not a wife
Let that dumb shyt sink in
Any woman talking that hoe babble is just that
Straight like that
fukk your feelings and the bytch ass simps holding you in honor for poor decisions
Black community my ass

Yup. Other groups also put the “culture / community” above everything.

Rupa may not like Hadji, but they understand this is for the betterment of their culture.

Arranged marriages / standards are key. No bs about “I just want a baby not a man, or GMB”

 

[Action Mike]

This is the entire west now not just the states

 

[Crude]

It depends on what she wants.

Most women want a couple of kids, a nice home, and a man they can depend on to help should the financial burden, occasionally fix shyt around the home, and live in d*ck to occasionally blow their back out.

Most of them end up chasing Chad and Tyrone’s validation and leaving the guy they probably should have chosen with his messages on read and looking crazy.

 

[Afro]

This is flawed logic in 2021 as in the first world men can't tell women en masse to do anything regardless of how beneficial it is for them, without being sexist, chauvinist, misogynist pigs so I'm going to have to agree to disagree, boss

Fair, but I'm not trying to tell women anything.

I'm looking for just one to deal with who hasn't been drinking the "kool-aid" so to speak.

Any woman that calls me any one of those labels can kick rocks.

Just got home from a good date, so maybe I'm biased atm

 

[Bossino]

Fair, but I'm not trying to tell women anything.

I'm looking for just one to deal with who hasn't been drinking the "kool-aid" so to speak.

Any woman that calls me any one of those labels can kick rocks.

Just got home from a good date, so maybe I'm biased atm

Eh I ain't mad at ya, best of luck good breh

 

[Curufinwe]

Yes because all those OF and prime years fly. And passed 40's gettig older by yourself is hard.
The Coli poster are too young to feel it. But in 15 years Black American will end end like Japan: lot of alone elder people with less and less kids.

It's the supreme white people plan: crush the minority demography.
All destructive black behaviour is leading to tis catastrophy.