Easiest way to win a war is to have your enemy fighting themself. Stop playing along just because it's expected of you.
Humble yourself, be honest with yourself above all things, know your talents and flaws, address the flaws, learn acceptance, love yourself, love your people, recognize and cauterize infections without self-pity, move past the distractions contentedly, take yourself beyond your previous limits every so often, learn new things, work toward your goals, teach those coming after you to reach for goals beyond where you made it.
Simple.