Discuss: issues with your parents

[SeveroDrgnfli]

why was this a problem?

My brother and I were not on good terms. He tried to burn me alive in my sleep. I remember he set my mattress on fire thinking I was in the top bunk. I walked into my room and saw him throwing my books and awards into the fire. He burned the house down that night. I knew I had to steer clear of him after that. I wanted to go to college. I was sure he was going to jail.

 

[Lewis Black]

Weak ass nikkas lol

My dad was a legendary soldier in the 80's and in the 90's he was cloned giving birth to three of my brothers. We argued a lot and I ended up killing him.....twice. I killed my brother too, he was wild

 

[ridedolo]

Me too. I stopped asking for presents when I was 13. I think my mom fell back because of it. Do you think your parents were too hands off some times because they perceived you as independent?

nah i think i just proved to them at a young age that i could be responsible. i started taking the train to school at 7th grade alone (or with friends my age), which looking back is pretty insane. especially considering the high crime during the 90s in nyc. but we did it with no huge issues so i think that kinda set the tone. i started working at 17 and stopped asking for stuff and was pretty much allowed to do what i wanted within reason. started traveling with my friends at 19 on my own dime so i think my parents always looked at me as independent and somewhat serious. plus once i got older i didnt need them for much, besides food and shelter of course

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Only problem I have with my parents, was the academic pressures they put on me. Sometimes I would break down in fear because I didn't get the grades that they wanted. To be honest, even though I had my greatest moments and experience in college; I really didn't even want to go in the first place.

My parents literally threatened to never have anything to do with me if I didn't go to college. Anything under a bachelor's degree and I couldn't talk to them. The pressure was just too much at times. That's why even though I grew up in Queens, I still got a campus dorm. I couldn't take it anymore.

My father only time he said he was proud of me is when I finished school ( Only time).

My mother also has put extreme pressure to get a MS degree or a MBA. Again she keeps threatening to stop talking with me because of it. It's so insufferable at times. I remember those breakdowns, so they could at least acknowledge me.

I know this is very insignificant to other people problems. Just wanted to get this off my chest.

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

To be honest, even though I had my greatest moments and experience in college; I really didn't even want too go in the first place.

My parents literally threatened to never have anything to do with me if I didn't go to college.

Ditto. My mom is furious I didn't graduate from Cal. She tells everybody she knows how much I suck. I dropped out because college scared the shyt out of me. Did you consider that the age you had your greatest experiences and moments had more to do with it than where you were at that age?

 

[Max Power]

I wanted to go to college.

I dropped out because college scared the shyt out of me.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

My mom decided that after living 50 years, 30 years of marriage, and 7 kids she wants to look ratchet smh

My mom wore natural hair for most of my life and now she gets multi color weaves


Watches Love and Hip hop and Real Housewives of Atlanta

Talk like a 17 year old ratchet teenager
My dad just laughs at this shyt but its not fukking funny

And my sisters enable her

 

[Drake is God]

my mum is a whore and my dad is a degenerate.

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

Sometimes things aren't what I expect them to be. I picked the best school I could go to. And the class sizes and size of the university was too much for me. I prefer small schools.

 

[ThatTruth777]

I love my parents, its just minor shyt. It really don't matter who I talk to but if its a discussion about something that can be of conflict.. it can slowly devolve into an argument. I don't have a problem with arguing but when he can't admit or concede points that are better than his own, its frustrating. Its like bruh.. you wrong, I'm right.. fukking admit it without relying on how long you been on this earth and how that supersede anything!

Personally, I have no issues with them but at least 2 of my 3 brothers seem to have issues that are unresolved with my dad that simply won't go away if said out in the open.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

I had to run my pops fade once when I was 21. I moved out the next week and never looked back

 

[Reginald Noble]

No wonder you go easy on BW.

I find that most Brothers that have a dream like view on BW actually had a terrible relationship with their Mothers. It is some sort of sick inverse psychological reaction.

I hold most BW to an extremely high standard because my mother and grandmother remain star examples of how a BW should be and conduct themselves.

They raised me well and to be critical of any Woman. I find brothers that were abused and left alone by their mothers continue to perpetuate a condition where they are seeking Black Women's approval.

It is very similar to Black Women looking for the Daddy they never had. I am starting to understand why some of these Brothers refuse to date out, they are still looking for their Mother subconsciously and obviously their Mother is Black.

You need to get psych help to get you out of the rut so you can move forward with your life and find a Woman - and not a Mother to replace the one you never truly had.

We all seek partners similar to our parents in some respects. But in the Black community we really do seek out partners to be the parents we never had of the opposite gender.

 

[Sassy]

Yeah, I have an issue with my mom.

I have an issue of the possibility that i may not see her in this world anymore.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

My mother has no filter and she feels the need to speak on things that she has no idea about. Everything that comes across her mind, she thinks that she absolutely has to vocalize it She can be dead wrong and still yap off. She sees it as a virtue or something

She's also a control freak on some things and I've always been extremely stubborn, resistant and independent. Our personalities never really meshed but


My father is everything I don't want to be and I'll just leave that like that. We don't speak



It could be way worse, so I don't complain

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Ditto. My mom is furious I didn't graduate from Cal. She tells everybody she knows how much I suck. I dropped out because college scared the shyt out of me. Did you consider that the age you had your greatest experiences and moments had more to do with it than where you were at that age?

Sorry you dropped out of Cal. But with me I went back to college after a two year hiatus ( The recession hit); Graduated in 2006, the recession hit the next year for us. When I went back to St John's in 2010, I think the age difference me being 22, helped make me appreciate everything more. So I guess the age helps made me appreciate it more. But my parents pressure is still insufferable.

But to be honest my parents still have some hate for me for going to St John's anyway. Which actually hurts.