Deflecting responsibility

[Elle Driver]

black women had higher rates of marriage than white women until the 1970s... I wonder what happened.

Go on.

 

[Taadow]

false, she's mad because the bar is so low that people respect him for doing his default job as if it's something abnormal.

Fucc "the bar" and what people think about it - she should cherish her father being there instead of
manufacturing reasons to resent him.

 

[Matt504]

Fucc "the bar" and what people think about it - she should cherish her father being there instead of
manufacturing reasons to resent him.

how did you reach the conclusion that she resents her father, did you misunderstand what you read in the opening post?

 

[Taadow]

how did you reach the conclusion that she resents her father, did you misunderstand what you read in the opening post?

I actually didn't say she resents him, because I don't know her relationship with her father.

What I said was, she's "manufacturing reasons to resent him".
It seems the view she has of her father is filtered through the lenses of something he has no control over (how others treat him).
And instead of focusing on her own relationship with him, she seems hung up on "the bar".

But whatever - fucc me, I don't know her...

 

[Matt504]

I actually didn't say she resents him, because I don't know her relationship with her father.

What I said was, she's "manufacturing reasons to resent him".
It seems the view she has of her father is filtered through the lenses of something he has no control over (how others treat him).
And instead of focusing on her own relationship with him, she seems hung up on "the bar".

But whatever - fucc me, I don't know her...

She doesn't appear to be manufacturing reasons to resent him. her issues are about people praising her father for ... doing his default job as if fathers aren't typically involved in their children's lives and that's probably the experience of the people praising her father for doing what their fathers have failed at.

 

[Taadow]

She doesn't appear to be manufacturing reasons to resent him. her issues are about people praising her father for ... doing his default job as if fathers aren't typically involved in their children's lives and that's probably the experience of the people praising her father for doing what their fathers have failed at.

Okay.

 

[Critical Distance]

Go on.

second wave feminism war on poverty legislation.

 

[Elle Driver]

second wave feminism war on poverty legislation.

Wouldn't you say that affected black families as a whole?

There's a book called from the war on poverty to the war on crime which argues that what you're saying started well before then.

 

[Critical Distance]

Wouldn't you say that affected black families as a whole?

There's a book called from the war on poverty to the war on crime which argues that what you're saying started well before then.

marriage is the nucleus of the family, so yes.

it may have started before the period i mention, but the marriage rates were high until the 70s which was what I was correlating it too.

but yeah, i might have to check that book out.

 

[Elle Driver]

marriage is the nucleus of the family, so yes.

it may have started before the period i mention, but the marriage rates were high until the 70s which was what I was correlating it too.

but yeah, i might have to check that book out.

I think the cracks started to show earlier but it caused irreparable damage by the 70s until now.

Something needs to change.