Malt-O-Meal
Banned
Yo LSA can be a pain sometimes, like any site of course, but it got me thinking since this happens in real life. So the issue was about the bar being set low for black fathers, the thread wasn't even about that but someone brought it up smh. So this poster was saying how people in the black community praise black men for being fathers like it shouldn't be expected. The poster was like how she's the only sibling who's father is in her life and it annoys her how everyone is amazed, or something like that. How she was essentially disgusted/baffled how in he black community the bare minimum was celebrated amongst us regarding black fatherhood.
I'm like, bish I know you aren't criticizing black men when your mother has multiple children by multiple men. Like how do you look down your nose at black men when your mother ain't living right? Plus she has never been married to these men. Like how sway? I've heard this in real life too, thank goodness not by many but still.
How can you have one child by a deadbeat and continue the pattern? You have no right to say anything because you're half the problem. That poster's mother is a big part of the problem. She and others like that are choosing crappy people, repeatedly. It's like they refuse to see it or can't.
And the same goes for fathers who have baby mamas, multiple at that. It's like they don't see they are the reason the problem exists. You can slip up once, but all your kids have different dads/moms and none of them are good? How do you not see you're a willing participant in this dysfunction? How do you fix your mouth to criticize the other side? And apparently they pass this down to their children, like the poster, because they don't see it either.
This is more a rant, but feel free to comment.
A side note, i find this topic insulting to those of us, which are many, who have great fathers in our lives who go above and beyond. Not to mention many of us don't have these baby mama/baby daddy situations in our family. These people need to take this up with their parents and stop painting us all with a broad brush.
I'm like, bish I know you aren't criticizing black men when your mother has multiple children by multiple men. Like how do you look down your nose at black men when your mother ain't living right? Plus she has never been married to these men. Like how sway? I've heard this in real life too, thank goodness not by many but still.
How can you have one child by a deadbeat and continue the pattern? You have no right to say anything because you're half the problem. That poster's mother is a big part of the problem. She and others like that are choosing crappy people, repeatedly. It's like they refuse to see it or can't.
And the same goes for fathers who have baby mamas, multiple at that. It's like they don't see they are the reason the problem exists. You can slip up once, but all your kids have different dads/moms and none of them are good? How do you not see you're a willing participant in this dysfunction? How do you fix your mouth to criticize the other side? And apparently they pass this down to their children, like the poster, because they don't see it either.
This is more a rant, but feel free to comment.
A side note, i find this topic insulting to those of us, which are many, who have great fathers in our lives who go above and beyond. Not to mention many of us don't have these baby mama/baby daddy situations in our family. These people need to take this up with their parents and stop painting us all with a broad brush.
