Deadbeat Moms

[Bunchy Carter]

I would like to have a child or two or three (depends on how much capitol I have later on in life) when I get older; but I would perfer to raise the child by myself. I also thought about adoption; when I get older. But I was thinking; is there a such thing as a deadbeat mom, which she would have my child but she would leave and let me raise the child by myself.

But on the other hand I don't want a child out of wedlock and a female would not just marry me (with a prenupt) and have a child, get divorced and let me have the kid, and she won't get no money from the divorce.

I had asked two of the homegirls and they both started laughing lol they like no; because women want to be mothers, they said they want to be mothers also, but not like that lol. I was like not all women want to be mothers.

 

[KinksandCoils]

A child needs her/his mother don't take that away from them because you want to be selfish.

 

[twan83]

I would like to have a child or two or three (depends on how much capitol I have later on in life) when I get older; but I would perfer to raise the child by myself. I also thought about adoption; when I get older. But I was thinking; is there a such thing as a deadbeat mom, which she would have my child but she would leave and let me raise the child by myself.

But on the other hand I don't want a child out of wedlock and a female would not just marry me (with a prenupt) and have a child, get divorced and let me have the kid, and she won't get no money from the divorce.

I had asked two of the homegirls and they both started laughing lol they like no; because women want to be mothers, they said they want to be mothers also, but not like that lol. I was like not all women want to be mothers.

U don't want that my 2 kids have that and it has effected them granted they are better then when it first happen but no matter what a kid needs their mom and father whether they are together or not doesn't matter but as long as they are in the kids lives is all that matters

 

[cheek100]

My bm is a deadbeat. I don't get shyt from her. I have 2 girls and they have a halfass relationship with there mom but she don't contribute shyt.
It was weird seeing it from the "other side" at first but I'm use to it now.
It does effect the kids, it's true they need both parents full time. I just hope they don't continue the cycle. Trying to raise a queen without a queen mother is fukked up.
So far they doing aight tho.

 

[BujuBoombastic]

Every child needs a mother and a father in their lives.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

is there a such thing as a deadbeat mom

Yes. And I am not going from what I've seen on tv. I saw kids at school growing up with ain't shyt mothers. Ones who send their kids to school in a fukking hoodie when it's cold outside. Sending their daughter to school in a skirt when it's snow on the ground and her legs are bare. The momma got a rotation of dudes going in & out her door and she got a daughter looking at this. The heifer don't got a job. She sells her link and barely got enough to feed her kids. Kids wearing dirty clothes, house is filthy.

fukk..: i have a laundry list of trifilin ass women who have kids.

 

[agnosticlady]

Yes. And I am not going from what I've seen on tv. I saw kids at school growing up with ain't shyt mothers. Ones who send their kids to school in a fukking hoodie when it's cold outside. Sending their daughter to school in a skirt when it's snow on the ground and her legs are bare. The momma got a rotation of dudes going in & out her door and she got a daughter looking at this. The heifer don't got a job. She sells her link and barely got enough to feed her kids. Kids wearing dirty clothes, house is filthy.

fukk..: i have a laundry list of trifilin ass women who have kids.

Yup! I've seen many cases like that. There are two little girls in my neighborhood that the mother doesn't watch AT ALL. Also, we live in a society where the mother can never be the bad one. She can always be forgiven if she does wrong. On the other hand when a father does something wrong people do not have a hard time putting the blame on him.

 

[agnosticlady]

Yes there are deadbeat moms. I have seen it multiple times in my short life. I've seen mother's smack their kids in front of teachers for having bad grades but they are not putting any effort into helping the child succeed. There are mothers who are way more concerned with how cute their daughters and sons look instead of what's going on in the child's life. A parent can be a deadbeat whike physically present in the child's life. Yes there are women who abandon their kids. I think its best to find a woman who is selfless and more interested in being a mother and not just having a kid. You can pop out a kid within a few hours, but being a mothers is a part of life and takes many years even when the child becomes an adult.

 

[Blackout]

I would like to have a child or two or three (depends on how much capitol I have later on in life) when I get older; but I would perfer to raise the child by myself

What made you specifically want that?

 

[Bunchy Carter]

What made you specifically want that?

A couple of my homies have children and take care of their kids; but because of the court there not allowed to see their children anytime they please. One of my homies pay 1200 a month for one child and only get to see him; 1 weekend a month, he fought in court and wanted more time but the court said no.

I said to myself I not going to have the court tell me when I can see my child; I want to be around my child all the time and take care of it. One of my homies ex-fiancee took off with his children and moved to new york and he can't do nothing about it. I not trying to go through that; my homies tell me all of the stuff and I like that's bullshyt, 18 years of bullshyt.

 

[VFib]

A couple of my homies have children and take care of their kids; but because of the court there not allowed to see their children anytime they please. One of my homies pay 1200 a month for one child and only get to see him; 1 weekend a month, he fought in court and wanted more time but the court said no.

I said to myself I not going to have the court tell me when I can see my child; I want to be around my child all the time and take care of it. One of my homies ex-fiancee took off with his children and moved to new york and he can't do nothing about it. I not trying to go through that; my homies tell me all of the stuff and I like that's bullshyt, 18 years of bullshyt.

What would lead the courts to make this decision?

 

[Scarface sniffin cocaine]

It's best that child have both parents breh

 

[Rawtid]

There are plenty of deadbeat mothers but it will be hard to find a woman that will willingly give a child to the father.You could try to find a surrogate where they use your sperm and impregnate the woman and she has the baby for you with no strings attached. You sign a bunch of legal paperwork in case the woman tries to get attached and change her mind.

I don't believe that a child needs a mother and father, more than it needs positive male and female role models. While I strongly believe in marriage, I don't feel it's the best nor only situation to consider before you have a child. I believe that it takes a village and if you have a strong support system in your family, then you will fair well as a father and your child will as well. Don't deny yourself fatherhood waiting for the "the one" if you are financially and emotionally able to support a child, then go for it. Just because a person is married, doesn't make them a good parent. With all that said I don't agree in just having children all willy nilly, but people who deny themselves the pleasure of being parents because they are waiting to be married just seems sad to me.

 

[Taadow]

Don't deny yourself fatherhood waiting for the "the one" if you are financially and emotionally able to support a child, then go for it.

There is no emoticon for the face I made reading this.

 

[Rawtid]

There is no emoticon for the face I made reading this.

Marriage isn't the end all be all to parenting. Just because you're married doesn't make you good parents.