Child support is one thing but any of y'all divorced brehs gotta pay ALIMONY?

[Gloxina]

Pretty much.



You can tell majority of dudes on here base all their knowledge of divorce on athletes and entertainers they don’t know.

I’m telling you.

The average divorced woman ends up broke as shyt unless she has a career and can support herself and her child/children.
Child support ain’t even anything to brag about unless you had a child with a man making some real serious money.

Now I won’t lie, the men in my fam do make 100k+ so when some of them got divorced,
But that was mainly child support, not alimony because their exes have great careers as well.

 

[Eastside Get The Money]

Yeah I got a few California brehs going through it right now. One might OJ his bish within the next year no lie

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

i paid a dude like 500$ parting gift when we broke up because he had lost his job not long before that and was down bad (not the reason why we broke up though)

if you f with someone the long way, idk why that would change when yall broke up..... unless it was on bad terms

but uh..... i would get a prenup if i got married. f all that

 

[No1]

Limited alimony for someone to go back to school or something because they gave up opportunities to be a house wife or whatever makes sense. But the idea that someone has become accustomed to a certain lifestyle and that they are entitled to that lifestyle going forward is insane to me. Even the logic of - if you have kids you want them to have the same conditions regardless of which parent they’re with doesn’t hold water with me. Supposedly the child will hate being with the less well off parent or will look at them differently so you have to make things equal - or that’s the supposed logic. That’s why so many people fight so hard for custody or joint custody besides just wanting to be around their kids - if you have any means and you’re not the primary parent - you’re on the hook for maintaining an entire lifestyle to maintain “equality” between the parents in the kid’s eyes.

Bottom line, prenup if you have any sort of money at all.

 

[Yagirlcheatinonus]

I’m telling you.

The average divorced woman ends up broke as shyt unless she has a career and can support herself and her child/children.
Child support ain’t even anything to brag about unless you had a child with a man making some real serious money.

Now I won’t lie, the men in my fam do make 100k+ so when some of them got divorced,
But that was mainly child support, not alimony because their exes have great careers as well.

I can honestly say from experience if you want to be in your child/children life and you are a decent individual the courts really not on the woman’s side like most would believe. The courts looking out for the best interest of the kid. If you put insurance on your kid and request visitation that’ll bring down your child support amount you owe. Most courts will grant you visitation as long as you’ve been in the child’s life and you’re fit to be a responsible parent. Thing is child support and custody court handled in two different courts two different matters most dudes don’t like courtrooms so they give up and women win by default a lot of times.

 

[Ed MOTHERFUCKING G]

if you f with someone the long way, idk why that would change when yall broke up..... unless it was on bad terms

...because we're broken up no longer partners....

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

...because we're broken up no longer partners....

that doesn't mean the love and care goes away. do you even be friends with the people you lay and make kids with?

 

[Gloxina]

I can honestly say from experience if you want to be in your child/children life and you are a decent individual the courts really not on the woman’s side like most would believe. The courts looking out for the best interest of the kid. If you put insurance on your kid and request visitation that’ll bring down your child support amount you owe. Most courts will grant you visitation as long as you’ve been in the child’s life and you’re fit to be a responsible parent. Thing is child support and custody court handled in two different courts two different matters most dudes don’t like courtrooms so they give up and women win by default a lot of times.

Completely agree, and this is how you can usually tell a dude didn’t care enough to really try to be in his child’s life. Active fathers who want joint custody ain’t getting turned down by the courts

 

[Gloxina]

that doesn't mean the love and care goes away. do you even be friends with the people you lay and make kids with?

Once they’re done with the woman there is no concern for her well-being lol

Which is why courts had to be involved; so men couldn’t throw their wives in the street penniless while they moved on to someone new

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

That’s why so many people fight so hard for custody or joint custody besides just wanting to be around their kids - if you have any means and you’re not the primary parent - you’re on the hook for maintaining an entire lifestyle to maintain “equality” between the parents in the kid’s eyes.

this doesn't make a lick of sense if you are a good parent. you aren't taking the other parent out of your child's life just to save a few hundred dollars a month.... wtf

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Once they’re done with the woman there is no concern for her well-being lol

Which is why courts had to be involved; so men couldn’t throw their wives in the street penniless while they moved on to someone new

mfers be scorned out probably only got married to keep steady puss around.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I can honestly say from experience if you want to be in your child/children life and you are a decent individual the courts really not on the woman’s side like most would believe. The courts looking out for the best interest of the kid. If you put insurance on your kid and request visitation that’ll bring down your child support amount you owe. Most courts will grant you visitation as long as you’ve been in the child’s life and you’re fit to be a responsible parent. Thing is child support and custody court handled in two different courts two different matters most dudes don’t like courtrooms so they give up and women win by default a lot of times.

you already talking like a fukking loser. Imagine producing a child and having to ask for permission to be a fukking parent

 

[Womb Raider]

Nah but I ain’t getting married in this lifetime

 

[x-factor7]

In my state, since I was married 4 years (which is considered a short-term marriage), by some weird calculation, only had to pay 11 months of alimony (they call it “maintenance” lol). Paid that shyt off in 2 months just to get it out of the way and move on.

I agree it’s bullshyt, and the judge was a fakkit but I consider it lucky it was not a big amount.

 

[Yagirlcheatinonus]

Completely agree, and this is how you can usually tell a dude didn’t care enough to really try to be in his child’s life. Active fathers who want joint custody ain’t getting turned down by the courts

Well they take in certain factors such as how active the father has been in the child’s life, how much he’provided, and believe it or not his circle. The courts wanna know everyone the man has in his life ie his spouse, his family and their relationship to the child. Even if there’s a history of abuse from the man against the woman and she say he’s violent. The man can still get supervised visits with his child. The problem is the process of going through courts takes an emotional toll on you most men don’t wanna go through it they’ll rather deal with the woman. But it’s always best to get everything in writing through the courts cause that’s a legal document.