Damn you broke down that whole white woman/black man dynamic. A very sick dynamic when you examine it.
About how the relationship symbolizes their contempt for white men and many times each other. That was some deep shyt about the white woman knowing how frail the white man's ego is and how subconsciously they don't really respect them.
And to further elaborate on your point about the "racist is always the fetishist" I've noticed from my experiences that even the most racist of white women will still be attracted to black men in one way or another and it usually manifests itself in the form of this sick fetish that they have for black men for them to even be racist in the first place. I've been around white women who I would never think in a million years would be into black men but after a couple of drinks in them they're the ones knocking on your door and pursuing you in some way or another. I've noticed that White women in general can't really hold their racism towards black men for a long period of time. When you think it about the only thing causing them to harbor these racist ideologies is based off the constant rhetoric they hear from white men painting black men as these savage beasts who are violent lazy thugs lead by their penis. People aren't born racist, they are taught this. The white man's structure all comes falling down for them when their precious white daughters, sisters, mothers and cousins go out here and encounter a black man that does not live up to that stereotype. He's an educated black man who is the antithesis of every stereotype that white women have been fed about black men. He doesn't have any illegitimate kids walking around, is in college or has a good steady job and has a good head on his shoulders. He might have that extra dash of "swag" or charisma that the white doesn't have and is quite attractive. This black man is the white man's worst nightmare because he defies every racist stereotype that has been said by white men and he is very intriguing to white women. Because when white women encounter these types of black men it really throws them off, they must question everything that their fathers told them about us and once they really examine this dynamic it becomes clear to even the most racist of white women that white men have a glaring inferiority complex if they feel the need to constantly dissuade them from messing with black men. This coincides with Walt's post because when he said that white women are masters of playing up the white man's ego and they realize how important this is but they also realize how fragile it is. And that it can be easily broken by just finding black men or other races of men attractive. Deep down white women know this and once you finally examine this whole dynamic you really begin to see that as a whole they really don't respect white men. And this contempt they have for the white man usually manifests itself through sexual relationships where they use black men as tools of sexual aggression towards white men. Some pretty sick shyt if you think about it
FarealI couldn't stand those supersized linemen the same way I can't stand Oscar Gay La Hoya. Like, it genuinely pisses me off that I'm a big, strong dude but there are these giant lineman motherfukkers who could snap me in half; and it really annoys me that a lame ass crossdressing chump like Oscar could beat me to death within 30 seconds.
YO I was reading this like where the fukk did this come from
Against His Religion (continued)
If you've read this far you've got to be wondering, what in the fukk does this have to do with college sports? Well, I got to NYC, spent a day with fam, and ended up spending New Year's with one of my old school homeboys at a Domincan bar in the Bronx that he liked. I ran into this woman I knew from college there, a chick named Tanisha I had been mad cool with and thought about dating, but it never worked out. She had moved to the city after law school, and was at the bar with her roommate, this pretty Dominican shorty.
Tanisha told me she initially had been living in Brooklyn with another chick who went to college with us, you remember Stacey? Hell fukkin' yes, lightskinned broad with the fattest ass on campus. She was dating that one dude who made the NFL, right? He just got paid out the ass, right? Hope she stuck around long enough to collect. Tanisha got quiet for a second. "Yeah, they're still together. That's why we don't live together anymore. I couldn't watch what she was doing to herself." Wait... say what? Shorty on drugs? Cheating on him? What happened? "Last time I spoke to her, she'd had her 5th abortion." 5 abortions? What the fukk? Did they ever think about birth control? "She wanted to go on it, but he said it was against his religion."
It wasn't the happiest New Year's eve, but lord knows I was eager to put the past year behind me. My phone was blowing up with calls and texts after midnight, as per custom. Family, friends wishing happy new year. My girl called, but I just let it ring. Around 2 a.m. Bree called. Me and my homie had ended up in Sin City, getting lap dances among the petty drug crews who used to (and probably still do) set up shop there. I stepped outside to call her back, and when she picked up her voice was mad shaky. Shorty had come home after going to a New Year's party and found her husband dead in their bed. He'd shot himself. The police were on their way. She kept asking me "what am I supposed to do now?" fukk if I had an answer.
How many years ago was all of that? Does it matter? Time is an irrelevant concept when we talk about tragedy, suffering, and loss. We carry our loss and suffering into bars, down cold streets, along highways, and most significantly into the deepest corners of our hearts and minds. Loss never quite leaves us, even when we think we've put it out of our minds. You always know when you meet someone who is carrying a profound and unspeakable loss inside, it's in the eyes, the occasional hesitation in speech, the barely detectable reactions to certain songs, certain situations. We rarely articulate it, because there aren't really words to make sense of that sort of thing. Even now, in typing this out, I was thinking by the time I reached the end there would be some connection I could make, some thread that would tie it all together and deliver an ultimate insight. But all I have is this: a woman who lost a child and couldn't recover; a woman who ruined a relationship when she thought she was saving it; a woman who decided being with a professional football player was worth abortion after abortion after abortion; a man whose religious belief didn't permit birth control, but was fine with terminating pregnancies.
Trying to figure out how to distill meaning from that winter, I keep coming back to two things. I think about Josephine the terrier being the only being I encountered that winter who seemed to know how to provide love without any weird, fukked up contingencies. And I can see Bree standing over the hotel bed, studying the map she'd laid out. She thought the world was wide open, when really it was closing down on her. I think about how quickly one single road out of many can become the singular road you take; how abruptly one way a life might turn out can become the entire life. I think about how to run away is just as dangerous as to stop moving altogether. I think about all that death, all that loss, and how fortunate it is that I'm one of the people from that winter who got back on the road and carved out a brand new journey; how lucky I am to still be going strong.
i'm calling bullchit on these stories.
*disclaimers: this shyt might be long, jump around, and i might ramble/go off on tangents, so apologies about that up front*
aight, after 3 cups and relaxing on them sticks, I think i'm finally in the right state of mind to respond to 'preacher man'... @Walt that story touched on so many topics and emotional spots, I don't know where to begin...so i'm just type and let it flow, whatever comes out, so be it....
- 1st let me say RIP to your boy rome...to lose someone you click with, that becomes a partner like that, aint never an easy thing...it hit home and how you reacted (initially, in the back of the Volvo, and even now) is an example of how most brothas in that situation would...starting at young ages, we get desensitized to so many fukked up things in life, that we tend to become numb...so when shyt initially happens, it doesnt hit us like that...it's not till later on, after life has piled on enough shyt, till you release all that pent up emotion...
- the part about your uncle and his daughter....man, that shyt was so touching and great examples of life teachers...him teaching you to hit the curve (which was more a lesson for life than it was just hitting a curve ball), beautiful...him continuing to teach during that fukked up situation he experienced, beautiful...that shyt was powerful, I just hope muthafukkas realize how powerful it is....i mean, you and he both knew he was in a fukked up spot, but to keep the situation as calm as possible, to help you more so than himself, he talked about something he knew you'd connect to...not only that, if those were his last moments, it was something that would allow him to give those last words of wisdom to help you live a better life....I mean, that's just fukking beautiful....we (blacks) need more shyt like that...we need more of the elder teaching (not preaching) to the youth earlier on about life...and not just the fukked up things in life...we need more women talking to young girls about what it means to be a woman...maybe then they'd stop being emotional and fukking (i mean that literally) punching bags to any guy that comes along and gives them attention....we need more men talking to young males about what it means to be a man...maybe then we'd stop being emotionless, cookie cutter stereotypes that we pattern after a fictional being entertainers (mostly rappers) create cause no other male figure was there...yea, we tend to have our boys and the older cats that are around the way that help us, but guess who they patterned themselves after in most cases? yep, that same being created by those same entertainers....which leads me to the part about his daughter being a great life teacher...and this is more so a salute to you walt...the fact that you didn't hit her over the head with that blunt dose of reality about the flowers, was a beautiful thing....you continue to let her be a child, enjoy the innocence of life, and be amazed by the flowers...our people tend not to do that...instead of encouraging our youth to follow their dreams and try to achieve the impossible, we tend to introduce them to the harshness of life as quick as possible...which causes them to age...we ruin life for them...
- to continue with the last point, it trips me out to hear us talk about what it means to be a man...to be a man, you gotta follow a certain guideline, and if you dont, you not a man...the reason why it trips me out is because the shyt we're taught about being a man, is usually the opposite of what our male counterparts of other ethnicities are taught....but we don't learn that maybe we didn't have to follow that guideline so tightly until after life has kicked us in the ass and the our counterparts are sitting there pointing, laughing, and/or shaking their heads...i'm stop there cause that's off topic...
...damn, I just threw myself off about whatever else I was gonna say lol...guess i'll stop there and pick it up another time when it comes back to me....