so ive been lurking for a good year and heard a lot of good advice and opinions also heard a lot of savagery and fukkery.
anywho
I've been having trouble sleeping my wife and I have are in a bad position at the moment. here it is, we got together young and she's a full time stupid now I've been support us financially for about 8 years now and I have spoiled her the entire time (bad on my part
I assume now ) I work a lot so I have neglected my husband "duties" from time to time (mainly work related) i thought I was doing it with good intentions because we are in a good place for our age home cars career growing with each passing year. I love her like no other and care for her like no other. I feel like she takes me for granted at times. I feel like I have outgrown her. I understand people change where I stand in this marriage is I would do whatever it takes to save it. I know believe that is the wrong answer. we've had our problems in the past and I believe I have shown more willingness to grow together as partners. couple years back it got bad too I was depressed and I witnessed her be very careless with our marriage/partnership at the time. we married young ( i didn't think is was I bad idea i have goals and I knew what I wanted when I made the decision part of me still wants it ) we got through it ( i feel it was mainly me trying to guide her in what I believe is the right direction ) she then realized at that time she was being a poor wife/partner and worked on it and we got past it. following years were great in my opinion. we kept moving up each year she has never worked but part times for couple months at a time during her college breaks during those times she saw her income as "her income" by paying her bills for those brief months she thought she was contributing equally (mainly credit cards ) ive always covered everything and glad to do it for my family. marriage to me is fully committed no one is perfect but if i see something that I did bothered her i would work on it or try to change it not just for her but becuase I wanted to make sure my wife is happy and im willing to make that happen. fast forward this year. we had problems coming back in, same is a couple years back. that made me really unhappy and question my marriage i feel i put 110% into it but am started to accept that she is not as committed as i am to this marriage (very sad to say) thats why i im writing this now i dont want to lose the person who means the world to me but feel its damaging me more then it is making me happy. its so tough for me to let go it really is. i wish that was not the case but im afriad if we "work through it" i will only get back to this same outcome. this is why i feel i have outgrown her. she still debates/changes what she wants to do for a career/future (i support her how i can with that) i have my life set (or so i thought) i know what i want to be happy and im sadly realizing change is the only answer for me to feel happy/appreciated/supported the way i would like to be. so i told her i dont want her to change and be forced to be someone she is not. if shes not willing herself to eliminate/change what bothers me its ok. i know she can try to but returns back to the same over time. i know what makes me happy and the hardest part is accepting that separation might be the best option for me to be happy and stop these bad feelings but it is the last thing i want to do. what hurts the most is how i feel it doesnt hurt her as much as it does me. i try and try but i dont think thats the right route to take this time.
anyways thankyou for taking the time i just had to let it out somewhere im not a person who expresses thier feelings ever but it feels nice to let it out.
anywho
I've been having trouble sleeping my wife and I have are in a bad position at the moment. here it is, we got together young and she's a full time stupid now I've been support us financially for about 8 years now and I have spoiled her the entire time (bad on my part
I assume now ) I work a lot so I have neglected my husband "duties" from time to time (mainly work related) i thought I was doing it with good intentions because we are in a good place for our age home cars career growing with each passing year. I love her like no other and care for her like no other. I feel like she takes me for granted at times. I feel like I have outgrown her. I understand people change where I stand in this marriage is I would do whatever it takes to save it. I know believe that is the wrong answer. we've had our problems in the past and I believe I have shown more willingness to grow together as partners. couple years back it got bad too I was depressed and I witnessed her be very careless with our marriage/partnership at the time. we married young ( i didn't think is was I bad idea i have goals and I knew what I wanted when I made the decision part of me still wants it ) we got through it ( i feel it was mainly me trying to guide her in what I believe is the right direction ) she then realized at that time she was being a poor wife/partner and worked on it and we got past it. following years were great in my opinion. we kept moving up each year she has never worked but part times for couple months at a time during her college breaks during those times she saw her income as "her income" by paying her bills for those brief months she thought she was contributing equally (mainly credit cards ) ive always covered everything and glad to do it for my family. marriage to me is fully committed no one is perfect but if i see something that I did bothered her i would work on it or try to change it not just for her but becuase I wanted to make sure my wife is happy and im willing to make that happen. fast forward this year. we had problems coming back in, same is a couple years back. that made me really unhappy and question my marriage i feel i put 110% into it but am started to accept that she is not as committed as i am to this marriage (very sad to say) thats why i im writing this now i dont want to lose the person who means the world to me but feel its damaging me more then it is making me happy. its so tough for me to let go it really is. i wish that was not the case but im afriad if we "work through it" i will only get back to this same outcome. this is why i feel i have outgrown her. she still debates/changes what she wants to do for a career/future (i support her how i can with that) i have my life set (or so i thought) i know what i want to be happy and im sadly realizing change is the only answer for me to feel happy/appreciated/supported the way i would like to be. so i told her i dont want her to change and be forced to be someone she is not. if shes not willing herself to eliminate/change what bothers me its ok. i know she can try to but returns back to the same over time. i know what makes me happy and the hardest part is accepting that separation might be the best option for me to be happy and stop these bad feelings but it is the last thing i want to do. what hurts the most is how i feel it doesnt hurt her as much as it does me. i try and try but i dont think thats the right route to take this time.anyways thankyou for taking the time i just had to let it out somewhere im not a person who expresses thier feelings ever but it feels nice to let it out.
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