Aye we all been through some shyt.
You live and you learn, can't remain stupid/oblivious forever. Well at least i didnt, thats probably the number one reason to have male friends if you don't have brothers or male cousins to learn shyt from. I've heard it all seen it all and had to go through some of it cause i was stubborn and didnt wanna heed warnings from others as well as the signs that were right un my face.
After a while you keep getting played by these dudes and you have to start blaming yourself, most men are gonna do what you allow them to. You can usually tell by how fast they disappear when you show you aint bout the bullshyt.