But then again you have black women who feel like theres a shortage of black men either because they're in prison, gay, players and have multiple baby mothers or don't want marriage. So what's left for them? To stick around in a committed relationship and have a few kids without marriage and hope for the best? Do you feel like that screams happy structured black family to you? There needs to be a shift in thinking. We need to advocate for marriage and the black family, it should be something we all aspire to. And we shouldn't use those who are not fit for marriage and parenthood as scape goats. The goal and focus should be on the black family.