Why am I always the blame for everything? 
Black people and Mental health.
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It gets better.Why am I always the blame for everything?
Good to hear.Went to my first session yesterday and it was just
I might actually see some relief of this anxiety it's beautiful
How is everyone?
Brehs,
Sometimes I think I try to hold myself to this unattainable standard. If I do anything that goes against that I feel like I just am down on myself for a while after. Even if what I may have done isn't even bad per se I just can't get over it and it plagues my mind. How do you guys forgive yourself for making mistakes all humans make at one point?
Sometimes I think I try to hold myself to this unattainable standard. If I do anything that goes against that I feel like I just am down on myself for a while after. Even if what I may have done isn't even bad per se I just can't get over it and it plagues my mind. How do you guys forgive yourself for making mistakes all humans make at one point?
I start with very small goals . Stick to that small goal allow time for it to be completed. No time frames. Time is an instrument of torment. be patient with yourself.
Thanks. I'm hoping this feeling will fade soon man. If I could classify it, I would say I'm feeling "guilty" even though I didn't necessarily do anything wrong
I started a small friendly convo with a random young woman today and was able to sense the end of comfortable convo. Proud of myself.
I know this feeling. It is guilt of nott being as great as you wish to be. Or feeling like you aren't doing as much. Start small.
It wasn't super hard but I had to make an effort to be aware of her engagement as to not come off creepy or pushy. Women are fragile i realize.
I'm about done with my mom and starting to see her emotionally abusive ways.
My brother has been acting out..he's 15 and rebelling not getting attention so he is acting..dad died when he was 1.
My mom while a nice person,provides food and shelter but emotionally distant and when angry she flies off the handle and will ssy anything to hurt you.
I never really knew how to guid my brother and was distant but would try to play video games and take him to the movies,WWE...but didn't give him the attention he wanted.
Anyway my brother doesn't listen and has been taken to the psych unit about 4 times in 5months..my mom highkey instigates the situation all the time. My brother doesn't respect her authority at all at this point and my mom is frustrated I get it but resorts to name calling, telling him she hates him, he's a junkie,piece of shyt...and if she has a bad day at work she goes in on him even harder.
It's hard because when I try to bring up why he acting up and mad at her she gets defensive and says I'm taking his side. She says she we always blame her...then she started talking shyt at me about my mental health and how me and my brother could be plotting on her because we're on meds
I told her she instigates the situations,start beating on him,throwing stuff at him trying to provoke him to hit her so she has a reason to get him charged.
Even my uncle has said it that she does not being told she is wrong, and me being her son she doesnt hear it at all.
The cops been called her like 8 times in 5 months and have said she provokes most of the confrontations.
I'm trying to be level headed in all this but it gets hard trying to tell my brother to keep calm and quiet when my mom is provoking him. Like he shuts down and doesn't do what he is told and I suggested to my mom she doesn't have to call him a piece of shyt.
This whole shyt sucks and my mom is a big reason why I don't like home...when I fukked up and was in the process of losing my college housing I tried to commit that because the thought of failing and having to go back home was terrible.
My brother has been acting out..he's 15 and rebelling not getting attention so he is acting..dad died when he was 1.
My mom while a nice person,provides food and shelter but emotionally distant and when angry she flies off the handle and will ssy anything to hurt you.
I never really knew how to guid my brother and was distant but would try to play video games and take him to the movies,WWE...but didn't give him the attention he wanted.
Anyway my brother doesn't listen and has been taken to the psych unit about 4 times in 5months..my mom highkey instigates the situation all the time. My brother doesn't respect her authority at all at this point and my mom is frustrated I get it but resorts to name calling, telling him she hates him, he's a junkie,piece of shyt...and if she has a bad day at work she goes in on him even harder.
It's hard because when I try to bring up why he acting up and mad at her she gets defensive and says I'm taking his side. She says she we always blame her...then she started talking shyt at me about my mental health and how me and my brother could be plotting on her because we're on meds
I told her she instigates the situations,start beating on him,throwing stuff at him trying to provoke him to hit her so she has a reason to get him charged.
Even my uncle has said it that she does not being told she is wrong, and me being her son she doesnt hear it at all.
The cops been called her like 8 times in 5 months and have said she provokes most of the confrontations.
I'm trying to be level headed in all this but it gets hard trying to tell my brother to keep calm and quiet when my mom is provoking him. Like he shuts down and doesn't do what he is told and I suggested to my mom she doesn't have to call him a piece of shyt.
This whole shyt sucks and my mom is a big reason why I don't like home...when I fukked up and was in the process of losing my college housing I tried to commit that because the thought of failing and having to go back home was terrible.
Can your brother stay with you? Or your uncle? Do you have any other family ya'll can stay with? IDK if this helps but would recording your mom antagonizing your brother allow him to get emancipated?I'm about done with my mom and starting to see her emotionally abusive ways.
My brother has been acting out..he's 15 and rebelling not getting attention so he is acting..dad died when he was 1.
My mom while a nice person,provides food and shelter but emotionally distant and when angry she flies off the handle and will ssy anything to hurt you.
I never really knew how to guid my brother and was distant but would try to play video games and take him to the movies,WWE...but didn't give him the attention he wanted.
Anyway my brother doesn't listen and has been taken to the psych unit about 4 times in 5months..my mom highkey instigates the situation all the time. My brother doesn't respect her authority at all at this point and my mom is frustrated I get it but resorts to name calling, telling him she hates him, he's a junkie,piece of shyt...and if she has a bad day at work she goes in on him even harder.
It's hard because when I try to bring up why he acting up and mad at her she gets defensive and says I'm taking his side. She says she we always blame her...then she started talking shyt at me about my mental health and how me and my brother could be plotting on her because we're on meds
I told her she instigates the situations,start beating on him,throwing stuff at him trying to provoke him to hit her so she has a reason to get him charged.
Even my uncle has said it that she does not being told she is wrong, and me being her son she doesnt hear it at all.
The cops been called her like 8 times in 5 months and have said she provokes most of the confrontations.
I'm trying to be level headed in all this but it gets hard trying to tell my brother to keep calm and quiet when my mom is provoking him. Like he shuts down and doesn't do what he is told and I suggested to my mom she doesn't have to call him a piece of shyt.
This whole shyt sucks and my mom is a big reason why I don't like home...when I fukked up and was in the process of losing my college housing I tried to commit that because the thought of failing and having to go back home was terrible.
NoirDynosaur
Yurrrrrrrrrr
Elements of my mentality
- Magnesium Carbonate (Blog - The Definitive Guide To Magnesium & Magnesium Supplements) The world lacks an abundance of this crucial mineral
- Meditation/Deep Breathing Techniques. Your heart rate indicates what emotion you're undergoing. When you sense danger worry or envision stress, your heart rate elevates like a sports car. When you take deep breaths, it removes the anxiety and neuroticism (Relaxation Techniques: Using the Relaxation Response to Relieve Stress)
- Adopting a Victor Mentality
Victor is short for Victory. Let me quote the late Marcus Garvey.
Life is a battle, we're all destined to prosper and progress.
(https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.fo...-your-victim-mindset-to-a-victor-mindset/amp/)
- Learning about Psychology/Logical Fallacies
Psychology lowkey...is very crucial because its teaches one...how a persons acts, how a person thinks, how a person feels, social conditioning, etc
Logical fallacies is important because we live in a world where common sense and critical thinking is absent and scarce. You'll notice how people attack the person instead of the issue. Logical fallacies shows how common faulty reasoning is and guides you to avoid making mistakes in a debate.(Purdue OWL: Logic in Argumentative Writing)
- Responding instead of Reacting. Reacting is based on fear while Responding is based on mindfulness (thinking it through) (Learn to Respond, Not React : zen habits). Humans in general... will shyt test to elicit a reaction out of you. If you don't react, you pass the test. If you react, you fail the test. All of this is purely subconscious.
- Zinc
(Best Zinc Supplement - July, 2018 Reviews & Top Picks | Pure Path)
Just a few tips I wanted to share
- Magnesium Carbonate (Blog - The Definitive Guide To Magnesium & Magnesium Supplements) The world lacks an abundance of this crucial mineral
- Meditation/Deep Breathing Techniques. Your heart rate indicates what emotion you're undergoing. When you sense danger worry or envision stress, your heart rate elevates like a sports car. When you take deep breaths, it removes the anxiety and neuroticism (Relaxation Techniques: Using the Relaxation Response to Relieve Stress)
- Adopting a Victor Mentality
Victor is short for Victory. Let me quote the late Marcus Garvey.
(Quote by Marcus Garvey: “If you haven't confidence in self, you are twic...”)
Life is a battle, we're all destined to prosper and progress.
(https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.fo...-your-victim-mindset-to-a-victor-mindset/amp/)
- Learning about Psychology/Logical Fallacies
Psychology lowkey...is very crucial because its teaches one...how a persons acts, how a person thinks, how a person feels, social conditioning, etc
Logical fallacies is important because we live in a world where common sense and critical thinking is absent and scarce. You'll notice how people attack the person instead of the issue. Logical fallacies shows how common faulty reasoning is and guides you to avoid making mistakes in a debate.(Purdue OWL: Logic in Argumentative Writing)
- Responding instead of Reacting. Reacting is based on fear while Responding is based on mindfulness (thinking it through) (Learn to Respond, Not React : zen habits). Humans in general... will shyt test to elicit a reaction out of you. If you don't react, you pass the test. If you react, you fail the test. All of this is purely subconscious.
- Zinc
(Best Zinc Supplement - July, 2018 Reviews & Top Picks | Pure Path)
Just a few tips I wanted to share
I have schizoaffective disorder bipolar type. I experience tactile, auditory, visual and olfactory hallucinations as well as pretty intense manic and depressive episodes with a nice side of obsessive compulsion, delusion, paranoia, dissociation, tics and anxiety. It’s tough and feels lonely. I wish black people would discuss mental health way more then they do.
There is a culture of mental illness that goes unaddressed in all parts of the diaspora. Psychosis, depression and anxiety run deep in my family tree and no one told before I had to be taken to a psychiatrist for meds.
We need to start talking about this stuff. And stop mystifying it as well. Being mentally ill does not make you a bad person. Stop with that. As a race of people who’ve seen slavery, colonization, imperialism and extensive psychological warfare, how can we not discuss mental health. Love each other. And take the steps to care for your psyche.
There is a culture of mental illness that goes unaddressed in all parts of the diaspora. Psychosis, depression and anxiety run deep in my family tree and no one told before I had to be taken to a psychiatrist for meds.
We need to start talking about this stuff. And stop mystifying it as well. Being mentally ill does not make you a bad person. Stop with that. As a race of people who’ve seen slavery, colonization, imperialism and extensive psychological warfare, how can we not discuss mental health. Love each other. And take the steps to care for your psyche.
This is a space you can speak your peace unfettered.