Black man with epic beard says "Happy wife, happy life" = toxic

[jay83]

Yeah I’m not engaging in this shyt in 2025. My life and relationship are fantastic because I’ve worked on it in a way that works for us. Social media is making people absolutely miserable and it pains me to see so many people I care about regularly obsessed with the dumb things random nobodies say.

The Sitting in your car relationship advice gurus.

 

[GreenGhxst]

This is kind of a no shyt I'd rather be the bad guy than feel bad 9/10 times


Wasn't always like this but life be lifing

 

[Gloxina]

Not even 24 hours into the new year, another talking head for the naive and the desperate.

This is a good message tho.


I actually have 1 guy in my family right now who honestly is probably the nicest guy in the fam, fully providing AND the primary caretaker of the kids while his wife literally does NOTHING. His mom wouldn’t tell anyone else how much of a monster ol girl was until it was too late. Now everyone’s trying to give him advice and help him go through with the divorce but he’s going to get screwed.

If she were even a good mother I wouldn’t be as upset, but she’s literally a shytty mother.


To me their case is extreme because this dynamic doesn’t exist with any other couple in the family, but it’s a problem. He needed to put his foot down or leave years ago.


I say all that to say, I understand the need for this message.

 

[Gloxina]

My neighbor says that shyt in front of his wife but spends an hour in his driveway in his ride everyday after work
Or tries to catch up with me if he sees I’m walking my dog to avoid going in the house
Dude wants to leave so bad but he an old school and ain’t trying to give up that 50 of everything
2 years from retirement
Plus he has a 100% from the Navy
So if he files them papers
Like I tell my old lady
Pissed off wife
You doing something right

 

[Luke Cage]

This mantra actually works if you want to keep a marriage intact at the expense of your personal happiness.

But if you also want to be happy in your marriage its a terrible mantra.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Marriage is about compromise, not one person always getting their way. Both people work to ensure each other’s needs are met. This is why you have to be with someone who is on the same page.

 

[Fill Collins]

Black people shouldn't say shyt like "epic beard"

 

[Givethanks]

The problem with this is, dude's are not marrying women that actually make them happy.

My cousin told me, his girl and himself both track each others locations, he tried to play it off by saying it's to make sure she's safe but his tone said, "she doesn't trust me".


her family says they have to have a big wedding that's he's gonna have to drop at least 20k on, when he wants to elope and use the bread on a house. I asked him if they're paying for it, he looked at me like


He even casually dropped, "oh my girl answers my phone or reads my messages... she'll just be like "big business is texting you" and he'll tell her to reply. I asked him what if I text you, "are you going to the study group with the big titty arab chick tonight". What are you gonna tell your girl? What's even more crazy is he doesn't even do that to her


My girl doesn't throw a fit when I ask her to do something for me, she doesn't tell me "No" because she likes that I have hobbies and other interests that don't involve her, she's very supportive of my professional development, I love her family and do anything for them and vice versa. We have the similar policial and religious beliefs. She's perfect.

Keep it simple, why date/marry someone who doesn't make you happy on the simple side of things, because that's your foundation.

 

[doublenegative]

When I see this clip, I don't hear a message. All I see is another Kevin Samuels clone.

This is inaccurate.

 

[Diondon]

Henpecked spouse, we off that
That's why husbands typically die before their wives
Just stressed into the grave
I don't wanna be the guy that leaves work, goes to a bar until they close
Cause I dread going to my own damn house

 

[feelosofer]

Marriage is a balance. I want to make my wife happy because I love and care about her but as such she does things that make me happy. Nothing wrong with making your wife happy just don't lose yourself in the process or have it come from a place of placating her or from a place of fear.

 

[Plankton]

This is inaccurate.

Read post #15.