Feminism is about choice. If you want to stay at home and raise 5 kids do so. If you want to be a career women, do so. It should be free of shaming. Chimamanda's speech was about the competitive nature of women. While marriage is important for some women it isn't for others and that is okay if that's what you want.
There shouldn't be any shaming about it. Speaking about the joys of sex within a committed relationship to your husband is the most feminist act in popular culture in a long
time. Since new age feminism has morphed solely into women who take multiple dikks a day wanting to be free of "shaming", Beyonce self affirmation of her life's decisions has people feeling some type of way.
Single Ladies was just about that. She wanted to get married. So she did. The song clearly states it. If you liked it you would have put a ring on it, simply meaning if our love, my sex was so damn good you would have tried to lock it down.
Damn for someone who likes to refute things you really are
.