Being non-reactive is a cheat code in life

[Piffiztheanswer]

Always pausefor a second.

Realize how ridiculous ppl are and the reactions they are tryna provoke. Internalize the fact you control ypur response and reaction. These ppl have no power over you.

 

[inndaskKy]

Give us grace,as black men our culture glorifies solving problems with violence. And we have adopted an ego based around not being p*ssy. Not to mention not learning our triggers through our astrology.


OP has the indifferent and unnaffected part down,but left out the "indifferent AND RIGHTEOUSLY unnaffected part". Pretending to not care can be a recipe for disaster. Righteous black men allow the spirit to move us. And the spirit understands 95% of issues dont deserve to be taken seriously. And most dont deserve you creating an issue behind. But theres always a time to react,and fist and feet can be valuable teaching tools

You kill me with that smilie every time

 

[Clayton Endicott]

It's easier said than done especially in this cesspool, but one must learn to subdue their passions. SMIB .

 

[moniemane]

https://www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/watchtower-study-may-2020/Mildness​-How-Does-It-Benefit-Us/ we no

 

[Admiral Ackbar]

For real for real .

The need for closure and getting the last word are the worst reactions. They keep your attacker in power over you. Don't react and their words and actions cannot be weapons.

But do retaliate and don't show your next moves.

 

[semicko82]

What type of people are you around that's trying to get a bad reaction out of you?

 

[hood b. goode]

*unreactive nikkas

 

[Lurkio]

this a half truth

knowing when to check a mf is also valuable

 

[SupaHotIce]

The only thing this doesn't work with is work life in my experience.

My work life is more unstable than a pregnant woman's emotions I have more problems at work than people who don't do shyt at work or have an attitude.

Those of us that are truly calm get painted antisocial, dismissive, rebellious, and all kinds of shyt because people are so used to a reaction, whether its aggression or being flustered and embarrassed

 

[SHO-NUFF]

OP, you are correct, and its some ticked off individuals in here, just at the mention of the topic, lol


You learn this when dealing with narcissists, but it's called "Grey rocking", where you basically leave the aggressor to keep talking to themselves, you don't overreact, and eventually they learn they can't farm shytty vibes from you....emotional vampires.....if they can't get it from you, they will move around

On the next point y'all tryna make: beatings are reserved for those who can't stay in their own emotional lane, and fukk up badly enough to touch

You don't get a verbal checking at that point, cause that's all you actually wanted in the beginning.

You don't get what you want, lol

 

[Still Benefited]

The only thing this doesn't work with is work life in my experience.

My work life is more unstable than a pregnant woman's emotions I have more problems at work than people who don't do shyt at work or have an attitude.

Those of us that are truly calm get painted antisocial, dismissive, rebellious, and all kinds of shyt because people are so used to a reaction, whether its aggression or being flustered and embarrassed

Good point,some bosses hate if you act like you dont care if they fire you or not,and are unmoved by their threats,speeches and fear tactics

 

[Belize King]

I had a Mech Lead last year cursed me out last year. South African CAC.

Hes one of those “alpha”, talk shyt all day, lead by being loud type. He and I never had issues.

So the toolbox was a mess and he tries to blame me when he signs off on it everyday.

He saw I wasn’t moved by his hissy fit, I stated the facts, and stood by my word.

He ran off and started blaming somebody else. I told him about himself and his language towards me. He apologized, we dapped, I accepted and we moved on.

Imagine if we got into a shouting match. That’s exactly what he wanted. I’m not that guy.

My Wife hates it. She wants me to be mad and emotional with her.

 

[SHO-NUFF]

The only thing this doesn't work with is work life in my experience.

My work life is more unstable than a pregnant woman's emotions I have more problems at work than people who don't do shyt at work or have an attitude.

Those of us that are truly calm get painted antisocial, dismissive, rebellious, and all kinds of shyt because people are so used to a reaction, whether its aggression or being flustered and embarrassed

That's why your work and rep gotta be A-1, or you gotta be committed to walking on they ass....The a$$holes are gonna try and poke holes in your boat, when you don't uphold the current power dynamics

 

[Da_Eggman]

Gandhi entire philosophy basically

 

[Pazzy]

As someone who has that delayed response issue, its a plus and negative depending on the situation