Being Brought Up By A Single Mother Makes You Stronger

[Scustin Trillberlake]

Can't believe people in this thread are advocating fatherlessness. Social misandry runs deep.

 

[Guess Who]

As a black man who has "succeeded" (grew up in poverty, went to university, and got a pretty good job) having been raised in a single mother household...I will tell you that I much rather would have learned manhood in the home growing up than having my 20's become a clusterfukk of madness as I tried to learn (and am still trying to learn) proper manhood.

I probably wouldn't have dipped into so many women raw, and thought fukking a lot of girls would make me more of a man. I probably wouldn't have trouble respecting women that are emotionally stable. I probably wouldn't look at every woman as an opportunity for sex and keep a roster of women at all times. I probably would be able to commit to one woman in a healthy way. I probably would be more stable emotionally. I probably wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock with a woman who is, not being arrogant, not in my league.

You know how hard my life has been cuz of not having a father growin up? fukk it, yeah, I'm strong--people say that about me all the time, I make a lot of money off it, banking on motivational speaking--but I wish I didn't have to be so damn strong. I wish I had received more guidance. I wish I had someone who taught me how to talk to girls when I was young instead of having to figure it out in my 20's, spend years gaming chicks, manipulating, and lying as I tried to be a player to make up for lost time. I wish I had someone to teach me how to build and fix things and how to drive. Instead, I'm just really good at understanding feelings and shyt, lol.

But yeah, I went to school, got a job, and have a lil cash. I'm a man.

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

I dont like generalizations, sorry.

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[Easy-E]

When the children make it it becomes "I did it all by myself." When the children fail it's "because the father wasn't there." So convenient.

I've always had this problem with single mothers--my biggest problem

 

[marcuz]

As a black man who has "succeeded" (grew up in poverty, went to university, and got a pretty good job) having been raised in a single mother household...I will tell you that I much rather would have learned manhood in the home growing up than having my 20's become a clusterfukk of madness as I tried to learn (and am still trying to learn) proper manhood.

I probably wouldn't have dipped into so many women raw, and thought fukking a lot of girls would make me more of a man. I probably wouldn't have trouble respecting women that are emotionally stable. I probably wouldn't look at every woman as an opportunity for sex and keep a roster of women at all times. I probably would be able to commit to one woman in a healthy way. I probably would be more stable emotionally. I probably wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock with a woman who is, not being arrogant, not in my league.

You know how hard my life has been cuz of not having a father growin up? fukk it, yeah, I'm strong--people say that about me all the time, I make a lot of money off it, banking on motivational speaking--but I wish I didn't have to be so damn strong. I wish I had received more guidance. I wish I had someone who taught me how to talk to girls when I was young instead of having to figure it out in my 20's, spend years gaming chicks, manipulating, and lying as I tried to be a player to make up for lost time. I wish I had someone to teach me how to build and fix things and how to drive. Instead, I'm just really good at understanding feelings and shyt, lol.

But yeah, I went to school, got a job, and have a lil cash. I'm a man.

so much truth, my dude

 

[Easy-E]

@Guess Who

Just, successfull, signed off the "Close Thread Papers"

Nothing else to say

 

[Guess Who]

so much truth, my dude

Life's been hard.

But like Nas said, "my life ain't good cuz of my diamond piece, my life's been good since I started finding peace."

 

[Ain't That Something]

As a black man who has "succeeded" (grew up in poverty, went to university, and got a pretty good job) having been raised in a single mother household...I will tell you that I much rather would have learned manhood in the home growing up than having my 20's become a clusterfukk of madness as I tried to learn (and am still trying to learn) proper manhood.

I probably wouldn't have dipped into so many women raw, and thought fukking a lot of girls would make me more of a man. I probably wouldn't have trouble respecting women that are emotionally stable. I probably wouldn't look at every woman as an opportunity for sex and keep a roster of women at all times. I probably would be able to commit to one woman in a healthy way. I probably would be more stable emotionally. I probably wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock with a woman who is, not being arrogant, not in my league.

You know how hard my life has been cuz of not having a father growin up? fukk it, yeah, I'm strong--people say that about me all the time, I make a lot of money off it, banking on motivational speaking--but I wish I didn't have to be so damn strong. I wish I had received more guidance. I wish I had someone who taught me how to talk to girls when I was young instead of having to figure it out in my 20's, spend years gaming chicks, manipulating, and lying as I tried to be a player to make up for lost time. I wish I had someone to teach me how to build and fix things and how to drive. Instead, I'm just really good at understanding feelings and shyt, lol.

But yeah, I went to school, got a job, and have a lil cash. I'm a man.

shyts ring so true for me! Got damn those years learning the game on your own were rough!

I don't know what the fukk op talking bout!

 

[Captain Crunch]

This is the-coli breh. You might get 3 or 4 cosigns on this but it's a popular belief that being raised by a single mother makes you weak and a criminal. According to most people it's "everything that's wrong with the black community."

I was raised in a single mother household(except my father was/is actively in my life) and I can tell you that's not the wave. It's very helpful to have the two sides in the household, the sternness and guidance of your pops w/ the warmth and tenderness of a mother. Not dismissing anyone who's raised by their moms, but to say that being raised by their moms as opposed to being raised by both parents is better is backwards. Unless the two parents are degenerates are not a happy couple, than being raised in a single parent home is not better. Not to mention, you see how healthy relationships work(assuming your mom and pops are a legit couple).

 

[Nintendough]

As a black man who has "succeeded" (grew up in poverty, went to university, and got a pretty good job) having been raised in a single mother household...I will tell you that I much rather would have learned manhood in the home growing up than having my 20's become a clusterfukk of madness as I tried to learn (and am still trying to learn) proper manhood.

I probably wouldn't have dipped into so many women raw, and thought fukking a lot of girls would make me more of a man. I probably wouldn't have trouble respecting women that are emotionally stable. I probably wouldn't look at every woman as an opportunity for sex and keep a roster of women at all times. I probably would be able to commit to one woman in a healthy way. I probably would be more stable emotionally. I probably wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock with a woman who is, not being arrogant, not in my league.

You know how hard my life has been cuz of not having a father growin up? fukk it, yeah, I'm strong--people say that about me all the time, I make a lot of money off it, banking on motivational speaking--but I wish I didn't have to be so damn strong. I wish I had received more guidance. I wish I had someone who taught me how to talk to girls when I was young instead of having to figure it out in my 20's, spend years gaming chicks, manipulating, and lying as I tried to be a player to make up for lost time. I wish I had someone to teach me how to build and fix things and how to drive. Instead, I'm just really good at understanding feelings and shyt, lol.

But yeah, I went to school, got a job, and have a lil cash. I'm a man.

Realest post in the thread. I never once said being raised in a single parent home was easy, fun or anything else but i'm not going to bow down and let a bunch of uppity people mock me or people like me by pulling out statistics that don't apply to me or everybody like me. I never been in jail, no seeds running around, I earned two degrees and only have college loans to pay off. I'm proud of myself as a man.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

As a black man who has "succeeded" (grew up in poverty, went to university, and got a pretty good job) having been raised in a single mother household...I will tell you that I much rather would have learned manhood in the home growing up than having my 20's become a clusterfukk of madness as I tried to learn (and am still trying to learn) proper manhood.

I probably wouldn't have dipped into so many women raw, and thought fukking a lot of girls would make me more of a man. I probably wouldn't have trouble respecting women that are emotionally stable. I probably wouldn't look at every woman as an opportunity for sex and keep a roster of women at all times. I probably would be able to commit to one woman in a healthy way. I probably would be more stable emotionally. I probably wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock with a woman who is, not being arrogant, not in my league.

You know how hard my life has been cuz of not having a father growin up? fukk it, yeah, I'm strong--people say that about me all the time, I make a lot of money off it, banking on motivational speaking--but I wish I didn't have to be so damn strong. I wish I had received more guidance. I wish I had someone who taught me how to talk to girls when I was young instead of having to figure it out in my 20's, spend years gaming chicks, manipulating, and lying as I tried to be a player to make up for lost time. I wish I had someone to teach me how to build and fix things and how to drive. Instead, I'm just really good at understanding feelings and shyt, lol.

But yeah, I went to school, got a job, and have a lil cash. I'm a man.

That's some real shyt.

From the opposite perspective, after reading through this thread, I feel like I owe everything to having a dad that was strict and made absolute sure that I did the following:

• Valued Education.
• Learned a healthy competitive mindset from sports.
• Learned the importance of ambition.
• Learned that loving a woman is possible, but you have to let some go to find the best for you.
• How to drive.
• How to shave.
• How to box.
• How to do car shyt.

I'm not saying this to come off as humbly smug or anything, because I don't mean to. I'm saying this because I'm acknowledging that having my dad around kept me from being a lot like the people I knew growing up with shytty or non-existent fathers that didn't go anywhere near fulfilling their total potential. I just can't believe that anyone would try to discount the importance of fatherhood this day and age. It's as if feminism went from, "We have the right to vote and dominion over our own bodies!!" to, "Men are useless!! Women can do anything a man can do, and do it better in heels!! Can I please get some stronger alimony and child support laws now?"

The craziest part about all of this is that men are necessitated to be ambitious, tough, proactive, and are otherwise completely valued based on what they can do or what they've done. It's kind of a crap shoot to be a man, but before, at the very least, men were honored and valued for what they brought to their families and society. Now? We're just ATM machines and hated for our "overly aggressive" nature. The same nature that they rely on for income, scientific invention, and artistic inspiration.

 

[ThaBoyBam]

As a black man who has "succeeded" (grew up in poverty, went to university, and got a pretty good job) having been raised in a single mother household...I will tell you that I much rather would have learned manhood in the home growing up than having my 20's become a clusterfukk of madness as I tried to learn (and am still trying to learn) proper manhood.

I probably wouldn't have dipped into so many women raw, and thought fukking a lot of girls would make me more of a man. I probably wouldn't have trouble respecting women that are emotionally stable. I probably wouldn't look at every woman as an opportunity for sex and keep a roster of women at all times. I probably would be able to commit to one woman in a healthy way. I probably would be more stable emotionally. I probably wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock with a woman who is, not being arrogant, not in my league.

You know how hard my life has been cuz of not having a father growin up? fukk it, yeah, I'm strong--people say that about me all the time, I make a lot of money off it, banking on motivational speaking--but I wish I didn't have to be so damn strong. I wish I had received more guidance. I wish I had someone who taught me how to talk to girls when I was young instead of having to figure it out in my 20's, spend years gaming chicks, manipulating, and lying as I tried to be a player to make up for lost time. I wish I had someone to teach me how to build and fix things and how to drive. Instead, I'm just really good at understanding feelings and shyt, lol.

But yeah, I went to school, got a job, and have a lil cash. I'm a man.

The bolded is pure truth Would have been dope to have a navigation system. I had to learn everything the hard way. Trial and error. Fortunately, I had a grip of male role models in my life, my pops was "around" as well. But majority of the time I was the only dude, so I did what I thought was right. I don't have any kids, but thank God for penicillin

 

[RicanFury]

this some bullshyt. if anything it makes you a weaker man. i was raised by a single mother. try asking your mom to teach you how to rie a windsor knot, how to put on a condom, how to navigate the streets when people test you. A woman can't raise a proper man. and i love my mom to death. As much as she gave me, as much as she tried, there are things only a man can teach a son. no way around it.

 

[Data-Hawk]

Don't know what that says about you when thinking about a 2 parent household you assume there's a dude beating his wife.





While you all were out looking for manhood, trying to prove it by doing dumb shyt, I was watching it everyday via my pops, grandfathers, uncles.

I didn't have to look for manhood because I knew what it was. Providing for your family, teaching your kids, making sure their provided with knowledge and info so they can grow up to have a better life so you can in turn do the same with your kids. Even if those couples in my family were no longer together, the men made sure to stay involved and take care and provide.

A single action doesn't make you a man, it's a series of decisions that result in providing for those around you and making sure that it becomes ingrained in the young ones under you.

And being an underdog doesn't mean you have more heart. It just means people think you don't have a good chance at winning because history and/or statistics show that you don't win often.

 

[Scustin Trillberlake]

As a black man who has "succeeded" (grew up in poverty, went to university, and got a pretty good job) having been raised in a single mother household...I will tell you that I much rather would have learned manhood in the home growing up than having my 20's become a clusterfukk of madness as I tried to learn (and am still trying to learn) proper manhood.

I probably wouldn't have dipped into so many women raw, and thought fukking a lot of girls would make me more of a man. I probably wouldn't have trouble respecting women that are emotionally stable. I probably wouldn't look at every woman as an opportunity for sex and keep a roster of women at all times. I probably would be able to commit to one woman in a healthy way. I probably would be more stable emotionally. I probably wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock with a woman who is, not being arrogant, not in my league.

You know how hard my life has been cuz of not having a father growin up? fukk it, yeah, I'm strong--people say that about me all the time, I make a lot of money off it, banking on motivational speaking--but I wish I didn't have to be so damn strong. I wish I had received more guidance. I wish I had someone who taught me how to talk to girls when I was young instead of having to figure it out in my 20's, spend years gaming chicks, manipulating, and lying as I tried to be a player to make up for lost time. I wish I had someone to teach me how to build and fix things and how to drive. Instead, I'm just really good at understanding feelings and shyt, lol.

But yeah, I went to school, got a job, and have a lil cash. I'm a man.

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