Idk I think there's a bit more to it than just men not finding her attractive.
I've seen men thirst after some hideous creatures. Like literally deformed, mentally challenged women.
I think what's going on is that she's rich.
So that means she's in areas and circles where the men are also high quality and thus have better options than her.
If she was living in the hood, no matter how she aged, there would be men trying to get at her.
True, but it wouldn't be men of his caliber, in fact it probably wouldn't be the type of men Ayesha would want.
She's okay looking(average) and that's not even a bad thing, but when it comes to other basketball wives who are more attractive and have more sex appeal, she really can't compete. And that's okay too, because she wanted to be known for being a good wife. But, with that being said, she's not known for her "looks" or for being his sexy wife. She's known for being his
good wife. Again it's partially based on the image she's gone with, but it's also because she isn't sexy in the way these other basketball wives who show "skin" are.
The other issue is that, she sees the type of women that approach her husband. They're attractive, sexy groupies--some look better then her too. So when you add it all up, the fact is she isn't being hyped up for her looks, her sex appeal, or anything of the sort--makes her feel like a "plain jane". Despite the fact that this is the image she put out to begin with(which again it's respectable imo and should be the image she wants to portray anyway).
In any case, I have a feeling, that after having three kids, the weight issues, and being in that industry, seeing all these other wives getting hyped up for things she isn't, it probably is making her insecure. Deep down, she feels like she isn't really the "best" Stephen could get physically, and she feels threatened by that. Just like a man ideally wants to feel like he's the "best" option and first choice for his wife, a woman wants to feel the same. But people aren't saying she's sexy, or beautiful, or any of the sort, they're saying "she's a good wife"... That worked when she was younger and had one kid, and social media wasn't as "big", but now? Obviously she's become insecure, for all the reasons I listed above.