At what stage in your life do you place "peace of mind" as the most important value . . . .

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

i don't think that works breh. A woman who is feeling you will pretend until you get into a serious relationship with her and then she reveals hertrue character

It's better to assess her character like an undercover detective and let her reveal her true self organically before you get too serious

We've been together for 10 years....

 

[Jalether]

I found out peace of mind is one of the most important things in life when I broke up with an ex of mine. I literally had one of the best days of my life some days after breaking up with her.. nothing happened that day.. no new purchase , no new car , nothing special just chilling at the crib on a day off with no nagging, no responsibilities and freedom of making my own choice without any bickering, judgement or hating ass miserable energy.

 

[Jalether]

We've been together for 10 years....

Isn't that more likely because you were lucky to meet/find the right one rather than you being upfront about your requirement

And congrats btw, 10 years is

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

damn breh

hope you are feeling better now

Thank you breh, i'm okay now.



The crazy shiit is that after an experience like that, you're ultimately damaged goods, mental is on torment status.


Your outlook is different too cuz now i'm still working on myself/esteem/insecurities (the long distance thing was tough, and always thinking she was cheating on me has made me really doubted my perceptions in new relationships).


I'm all fukked up now. Don't trust anyone or anything. I be at restaurants looking at my meals all skeptical, thinking they did something to it (i'm exaggerating a bit, but you catch my mid drift).



But yeah, it sucks that i ran into that type of relationship during the pandemic. You know what it's like to wake up at 3 a.m. just fretting about something you have total control of but you don't out of fear of losing it?



I dunno. I feel as though things happen in life happens to teach you lessons... experiences are the greatest teacher right? Glad i fought through it.



Given what happened and how much growth and compassion i have for those who go through tough times in life, i truly wish happiness, piece of mind and mental health for all my brothas here/the world. Irregardless of race, gender or transitioned things, etc.



There's a fukkin war going on outside a lot of people aren't safe from.



We gotta find a way to make it. Do right... just be better people overall. Momma knows I'm tryna do right by her since her deafth.










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[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

Isn't that more likely because you were lucky to meet/find the right one rather than you being upfront about your requirement

And congrats btw, 10 years is

We met at a gym. She was fresh out of a divorce and my previous girlfriend passed away. We are opposites in a lot of ways but she always had a smile on her face and she's always been easy to talk to.

I told her that to he honest with me about everything and it took her a while to do that because of her past relationships. But once she realized that I wasn't like her other dudes she had a sense of release/relief....now we are literally best friends...From a relationship stand point I'm pretty lucky

 

[BornStar]

Idk tbh...personally I've always been a peaceful person so I always told women from jump that I'm not here to argue with them. From personal experience I can usually tell if a certain woman is right for me or not.

The crazy part about all of this is I tell people all of the time. The two things I require from my partner is to be nice and respectful (workout as well)....but sadly thats hard to find...

Me and my girl are good though, we aren't about drama and we compliment each others flaws

When is the elopement breh that's a keeper.

 

[Strapped]

I don't think it's really an age thing , it's when you get yo money right thing

 

[Rozay Oro]

Right now, rather be single than deal with the nonsensical illogical mind games. When p*ssy comes, back shots and then back to the streets you go shorty.

 

[I AM WE ARE]

This doesn't get discussed enough but we need and deserve peace
Too many times I've had the shotgun in my mouth ready to go or even did suicide by cop, I've had plans for this shyt
Started taking drives to the country and taking time to myself and I've been better
Being a black man, especially a FAMILY man is tearing us up. It's thankless and everything is expected of you.

 

[semicko82]

During the pandemic.



A good personality/head on shoulders/trust worthy > Ocho's, Nueve's and fine Dimes that are stress on the mind.



A vreh was at his lowest point dealing with that shiit... constantly dwelling and concerned about your relationship, living life walking on egg shells. It's fukked up, you invest so much into a relationship and when her true hues expose themselfs... you feel ultimately hella bamboozled. It's really disheartening shiit man, i tell ya.



Fukk all that. I almost murked myself xmas 2020.




Over what... A BYTCH?!?! Brotha, fukk all that.




Crazy to think that prior to that, I was killing it, then got with bonerfide narcissist who killed my soul/spirit and fukkin wallet. Wow. When you start to realize your self worf and how much the world/society needs you... you put yaself on the right plane and realize it's more than just being with arm candy that adds zero value to your life. Stupid bytch! Ugh!



Can't believe this thread is getting me hot and bothered/bromotional



Wow. I might be legit dealing with PTSD. Hence my lunacy and severe mood swings... and delusions.



*runs into wall at full speed*







"Annie are you okay? Are you ok annie..."



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story time

 

[JA_Carter]

The older I get the more this is number one for me. Had to go no contact on my girl for constantly nagging and being ungrateful knowing that I’m under immense stress at work.

The sad things is some women are really good at appearing peaceful initially I think my biggest mistake is making it clear on the first date that consideration is most important to me

 

[Byronml]

I started valuing my peace once I finally realized that the person I was with did not value it at all. It was a painful experience but taught me a lot. If someone doesn't value my peace, or at least seek to be peaceful with me, we have to go separate ways.

I feel that people who are not at peace with themselves look to disrupt it if they see it in others. Misery/Company.

There's an abundance of peace in life and I won't let anyone convince me that I can't have it.

 

[Jaylen Tatum]

In the words of the great Jeff Arnold "I'd rather have peace of mind than a piece of puzzy"