At What Income Level Is a Man Entitled to a Mistress?

[Bushmaster69]

I don't give a fukk if I was one. All this proves that you're a double standard loser. I ain't pandering, I truly believe this lol

Sure.

 

[Bushmaster69]

Im saying nothing wrong with that if that is ur culture or a culture u wish to subscribe to. The flag on play only comes in when u start trying to deceive those into that lifestyle who arent with it.

Why take both them and urself through all that when its no shortage of women who would be cool with that arrangement?

Call me crazy or a simp or whatever but im not trying to shut my eyes at night next to a woman who hates/resents the fukk out of me. Not when its woman out there who were born into and raised to actually appreciate such customs. i value my peace of mind above all other earthly desires.

Aight.

I respect your opinion. You clearly aren't pandering. You mean that shyt.

However, mine opinion is that a man of means doesn't need permission, and if his wife doesn't allow it, then he should cheat respectfully. If she does allow it, then cool.

If a woman doesnt add the only one man one woman part in their marriage contract then a man shouldn't be restricted.

This is where will just have to agree to disagree.

 

[UnQuantized]

I've never believed in having a sidepiece or sneaking aroundBut I have never been a baller, so I imagine if women are throwing it at you, it's hard to maintain disciplineWomen are in a catch 22. The men that they are most attracted have so many options that it is unrealistic to expect them to not step out. Women tend to flock to men that are already pre-selected, so it's a symbiotic relationship, what do they expect

 

[Shadow King]

Well theres that too i suppose. Even then u could still find a partner on that same traditional image projecting wave. In fact u would think that would simplify things. Yall both acknowledge the fact u are only in it for the image. No need for anyone to get their feelings hurt. Though i personally draw the line at bringing children into such an arrangement. Id rather adopt in a situation like that one. At least then the child is getting a shot at normal life. U arent creating a life together to bring into a sham family.

Its still selfish and counter productive to deceive a chick when u could just as easily find one who would open to such an arrangement in this day and age.
Seems like playing with a persons emotions and heart is only inviting problems at the end of the day.

I'm not one who cosigns doing things for image so I can't really agree. Nor do I think an adopted child would be any more "normal" than the one you made in this situation. That's half-stepping to me and probably worse.

You're also making it too easy to find that person. It's not easy to set that arrangement because of the social norm I spoke already.

 

[AceMan]

Better question, bruhs;

At what income would you allow yourself to be in a sexless marriage?

Exactly

 

[Bushmaster69]

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[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

Aight.

I respect your opinion. You clearly aren't pandering. You mean that shyt.

However, mine opinion is that a man of means doesn't need permission, and if his wife doesn't allow it, then he should cheat respectfully. If she does allow it, then cool.

If a woman doesnt add the only one man one woman part in their marriage contract then a man shouldn't be restricted.

This is where will just have to agree to disagree.

Not trying to pander by any means. i just try to live my life as practical as possible breh. And for me the concept of marriage basically comes down to companionship. Id rather just be single than to live with a woman who hates me. Walls, locks and doors were designed to keep the enemy OUT.

Call me scary but i aint finna lay down and sleep next to one no matter how much estrogen is flowing through their veins man. Id rather just as soon be single than have to worry about having an enemy within. Its no limit to what a scorned woman is capable of.

On the flip side ive done the whole open relationship thing too. It really wasnt so bad. In my case she would literally go out and bring chicks home to us. I definitely got more cheeks with her assists than i could have ever accomplished solo. So it has its advantages. Its not like trying to cuff her was going to get me any less cheated on.

In the end i broke it off cause i just couldnt see starting a family in such a situationship. It was fine for what it was. But i couldnt take her serious as a full on life partner.

My wife may not be bringing me home randoms, and she is far from perfect but she is a loyal friend. I dont feel unsafe or insecure around her. I dont feel any feelings of taking out a life insurance policy with her as the beneficiary. For a man of anything but means that in and of itself feels like a pretty win.

But as u said agree to disagree. Im not finna tell the next man how to live. Do what works for u breh.

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

I'm not one who cosigns doing things for image so I can't really agree. Nor do I think an adopted child would be any more "normal" than the one you made in this situation. That's half-stepping to me and probably worse.

You're also making it too easy to find that person. It's not easy to set that arrangement because of the social norm I spoke already.

Breh i wouldnt have the first clue about any of these dynamics. First and foremost in a relationship im looking for a companion. Anything out my mouth in regards to these types of situationships is purely speculative.

I just think its silly in the year of our lord 2024 where everyone has access to the discovery channel and see the consequences in real time of men and women who play fast and loose with folks emotions, if im going to fukk outside the marriage im not finna marry someone who isnt wit it, for my own peace of mind.

Not finna get set up by no scorned woman. Not finna catch some bullshyt DV case. Not finna have the courts weaponized against me in any way shape or form when if nothing else i could just stay single. But to each their own.

 

[Shadow King]

Breh i wouldnt have the first clue about any of these dynamics. First and foremost in a relationship im looking for a companion. Anything out my mouth in regards to these types of situationships is purely speculative.

I just think its silly in the year of our lord 2024 where everyone has access to the discovery channel and see the consequences in real time of men and women who play fast and loose with folks emotions, if im going to fukk outside the marriage im not finna marry someone who isnt wit it, for my own peace of mind.

Not finna get set up by no scorned woman. Not finna catch some bullshyt DV case. Not finna have the courts weaponized me on any way shape or form when of nothing else i could just stay single. But to each their own.

I don't disagree with any of this. What I'm disagreeing with is the ease of finding that person (especially woman), and ease of carrying that life for an extended time.

But I'm also GMB and am prepared to "die alone" so my vantage point is different.

 

[Ghost Utmost]

Got damn you niqqas are dense.

The income level is a factor. Women flock to resources.

Also, grown women have sex with convicts and high school students. Cause they are attracted to that alpha male. Young niqqa that's got visibly good DNA.

THIS HAS BEEN TRUE SINCE A MILLION YEARS AGO.

Even other large mammals do this. Most wild mammals do not pair off as a nuclear fam. Most have a few boss males which fukc most of the females. And the weaker males don't get to mate at all.

JUNGLE RULES NIQQA

Dough can get women to spread. But that visceral DNA thing will make a woman risk everything for a male they find attractive.

The only dollar fig is the number you are willing to put out. On low income levels a simple bill pay per month can get a woman to put out. Like. Paying her cell or letting her whip a whip of yours.

On higher income levels you may have to pay rent or support her kids.

There no 'deserve'

 

[kaldurahm]

Id say 200k+. I think it's reasonable to expect rich men to have a mistress/girlfriend. 200k ain't rich but it's solid, you're still in probably top 15% of earners.

I have an uncle who rakes in millions on a yearly basis, he said he has a mistress for stress relief; he's a CEO. That doesn't mean he has a kid with the mistress or do anything exceptional. I think at that level its reasonable but if you just regular, average dude, probably not worth the risk. Too much against you. If my uncle gets a divorce as a millionaire, yes he loses a lot but he can still earn a lot of that back, plus he can get the right lawyers where he won't lose much. If you're a regular dude, you can end up losing.. a lot. Is it worth it? Probably not.

Me? Working 9-5, let's say I have wife and kids? Like a poster said before, when you cheat on your wife you also cheat on your kids. Too much to lose for it to be worth it. So I think money is a factor.

Yes you can be broke with a side-piece/girlfriend? But what's the point? At certain level I'm more concerned with getting money up then having a side-piece or even a girlfriend for that matter.