As a man: Pursuing financial/developmental success before a permanent relationship, or vice versa?

[IAmGettingAMailOrderBride]

House first then mail order bride

 

[Scuti]

as if you got a choice
permanent relationship dont exist without financial success

Spoiler

otherwise how they gonna take you to the cleaners for that 50%

 

[philmonroe]

very true. when you're 23 years old and shyt...you can't really fault a woman for wanting to choose a guy with a car, his own place and all that if he got it like that over a dude with JUST potential / a plan.

another thing though is theres always the risk that after dating a girl either you may be separated by going to different schools, career pursuits, or just wanting to experience dating/sex with other ppl. most ppl aren't mature enough at that young age M or F to do real long term relationships

Exactly cats want chicks to choose them like we still in HS when they themselves aren't doing that. We all have qualities and qualifications that have to be met unless you are desperate so I don't fault them at all. Truth be told most people only complain when they don't fit them qualities. Think if a chick says you have to be over 6ft to talk to her you think a 6'5 dude going to complain or care about that? A dude wanting a chick with a fat ass you think a chick with a fat ass going to say that's wrong? We can go on and on but y'all understand my point.

 

[mamba]

Get your life and money right, first.

Women will always be around. You don't have a biological clock. A new crop of 18 year olds rolls off the assembly line every day, breh.

 

[2Quik4UHoes]

Whichever comes first, but it doesn't have to be an either/or type thing. Sometimes having someone support you like that helps in your grind, everybody's different.

 

[MikelArteta]

I take the other side of the coin. Dont pass up a great woman because your not "stable", a great woman that vales you will build with you.

Success. Status, money does not get you a great woman, does not get you loyalty.

I say live your life, life can always change in an instance.

 

[2Quik4UHoes]

I take the other side of the coin. Dont pass up a great woman because your not "stable", a great woman that vales you will build with you.

Success. Status, money does not get you a great woman, does not get you loyalty.

I say live your life, life can always change in an instance.

Exactly. It's no exact answer to this, just take the path that's best for you.

 

[Couth]

Why not both?

 

[HoloGraphic]

You should always be pursuing your career. Career is latin for "life's work".

You commit to that fully, and the woman you need will be attracted to you and you will be in the best position to reciprocate. Get your shyt straight.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

I dont see why you can't be in a relationship and pursue money at the same time

For me it wouldn't work because most women are selfish. I was putting in 40 hours a week at work and 50 hours a week studying for career shyt. I had chicks tell me I studied too much and I introduced them to the bushes. Women want a man that's already successful, but they don't wanna deal with what it takes to get him there.

 

[KravenMorehead™]

Why not both?

My thing is, how do you know if she'd still be there if the financial factors were different. Which path is better, factoring that in...

 

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