"Are you always this quiet?"

[EA]

There’s always this misconception that introverts are social pariahs that don’t know how to interact with people when that couldn’t be further from the truth. The reality is that we reserve our social battery for the people that matter to us. Thats before including other dynamics like race and gender. If you’ve ever been the only black personality in your department, you know how that goes.

I remember when I let a colleague follow me on IG and she was like “Based on how quiet and reserved you are in the office, I wouldn’t have expected you to be as outgoing as you are” and I straight up said that I don’t come to work to be sociable

 

[Fanservice]

Dont know your situation but this is only a problem Handsome Gang experiences..

Forreal they never ask the short fat butterball breh with a flat top “How come you never talk to us?? “

 

[Jazzy B.]

There’s always this misconception that introverts are social pariahs that don’t know how to interact with people when that couldn’t be further from the truth. The reality is that we reserve our social battery for the people that matter to us. Thats before including other dynamics like race and gender. If you’ve ever been the only black personality in your department, you know how that goes.

I remember when I let a colleague follow me on IG and she was like “Based on how quiet and reserved you are in the office, I wouldn’t have expected you to be as outgoing as you are” and I straight up said that I don’t come to work to be sociable

It's definitely true.

Y'all can't even in engage in small talk and think saying "hello" and asking about a co workers weekend is "weird"


Then y'all will be the first to CRY when they start isolating you/bad talking you/fire you

 

[maxamusa]

OP if you have a reputation for this; you might have to play the game if you don't have authority.


If its just one annoying person dont sweat it

 

[TAYLONDO SAMSWORTHY]

Maybe they wanna make sure you’re not a serial killer

 

[AAKing23]

Some truth here....women especially sistas will ask why u quiet when they find u cute or attractive enough. If u totally unattractive....they wouldn't really care like that.

Yup, I’ve heard the “Why are u so quiet” phrase along with the following so much from females:

”You should talk more”
”Hey stranger”
”Are you new here?”
” I don’t know how I haven’t noticed you before, I definitely would’ve noticed you”

IYKYK

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

It won't kill you to be a little more social.

If they ever gotta lay people off, the first ones to go are usually the quiet ones nobody gives a shyt about.

This. I don’t know why some of y’all are adults and think you never have to stretch yourself or try to improve a bit. Work is more about relationships than work. That doesn’t mean everyone needs to go in and be BFF’s or hold big conversations with everyone, but you can make polite convo, chime into a convo going on around you, and just seem a bit more approachable.

 

[maxamusa]

Yup, I’ve heard the “Why are u so quiet” phrase along with the following so much from females:

”You should talk more”
”Hey stranger”
”Are you new here?”
” I don’t know how I haven’t noticed you before, I definitely would’ve noticed you”

IYKYK

What kind of cologne you got









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just playing

 

[maxamusa]

This. I don’t know why some of y’all are adults and think you never have to stretch yourself or try to improve a bit. Work is more about relationships than work. That doesn’t mean everyone needs to go in and be BFF’s or hold big conversations with everyone, but you can make polite convo, chime into a convo going on around you, and just seem a bit more approachable.

You said it best; that stuff matters a lot.


If you don't play the game it can slow your progress in your career big time.


it is what it is.

 

[EA]

It's definitely true.

Y'all can't even in engage in small talk and think saying "hello" and asking about a co workers weekend is "weird"


Then y'all will be the first to CRY when they start isolating you/bad talking you/fire you

I‘m a project manager so I have to talk throughout the day in various meetings, presentations, etc. If I wanna go get lunch by myself and chill at my desk in between meetings instead of canvassing the office for small talk, that shouldn’t be a problem for anyone

 

[BigMoneyGrip]

I've probably made this thread before but this has got to be one of the most annoying questions that can be asked at work. I actually think coworkers who ask this question are untrustworthy. I'm here to work, when I come in I say good morning to EVERYONE even when I don't feel like speaking. I then proceed to do what I get paid to do. I don't mind conversing and I speak when im spoken to but you always got that one person who thinks that is not enough and they lowkey seem to be trying to make an issue of it. Is it like a way of trying to start a conversation for them? Do they not realize that their tones and inflections of their voice are lowkey aggressive and accusatory?

"Are you always this quiet"
"Do you ever talk"
"You don't be saying nothing"

I be wanting to say "fool I gotta make sure this baby doesn't have a seizure for over 5 minutes, I can't afford to chit chat or entertain you". It's not like I haven't spoken to them either because I literally greet EVERYONE before I start to work. I don't get it and maybe I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill but the shyt is annoying.

Work at Walmart Dogset brehs

 

[Ku$h Parker]

I dont get Paid to talk to ya,im only here to Get Paid,Word to Marshawn Lynch
Didnt see 'be a Social Butterfly' anywhere on my Job Descript

 

[Fillerguy]

I had this coworker say it to me on Friday an hour before our corp xmas party. He thought I was new.... I got 5 years on him.
Didn't realize his little ass gay until like 5 mins in. It's always the small ones. He was pulling shyt I would pull on a woman....on me.

I was on the fence about going but that solidified my decision. I left that office as soon as possible.

 

[Weaver31]

This. I don’t know why some of y’all are adults and think you never have to stretch yourself or try to improve a bit. Work is more about relationships than work. That doesn’t mean everyone needs to go in and be BFF’s or hold big conversations with everyone, but you can make polite convo, chime into a convo going on around you, and just seem a bit more approachable.

You are absolutely correct....people's social and conversation skills are not that good as a collective nowadays.

I actually love talking with coworkers. I just don't like how some are messy. I also don't like how cacs do and treat some of us....true snakes in the grass.

 

[Dwight Howard]

If I don't feel like talking I don't feel like talking. 90% of the time my own thoughts are more interesting/important than anything my coworkers talking about. No offense but small talk not necessary when you tryna meet deadlines in life in general