My general philosphy is, there is SOMETHING beautiful about every woman if you look in the right way. I try to find what that is when I can and hone in on it. This makes my interactions with women much more ideal across the board, not just with women I'd want to fukk on.
And as some have said, there is a difference between sex appeal and beauty and how one percieves either of those qualities. There are gorgeous women that have zero sex appeal (to me) at least because I'm a very instinctual/sensual person. Nice to look at but they don't make me feel anything. Then there are women who aren't really pretty but still have that magnetism.
When someone, particulalry a woman is grounded and comfortable in their sexuality, they can have a whirlool effect on the people around them.