The first time he weaponized the police against me with a false report that led to a false felony arrest, he told them I assaulted him with a firearm and I was arrested for that but never charged. During questioning I was asked to give my side of the story but all I said was "I will not be on record speaking negatively about my father", as I was raised to not talk to police and also never speak about the family outside of the family
However this is not an isolated incident though and since then I had kept my distance but at times during his visits he would whip out the phone and literally hold his finger over the dial pad as if this was his personal weapon
This is my father's playbook and he's utilized it in a vicious divorce against my mother and her extended family
He's been arrested for domestic violence and also for creating false police reports
Fast forward 7 years and he is on his way to visit me on short notice. He had just concluded his trip to my sister's house in Georgia and was now visiting me in California, this is his usual summer travel plan because he is an educator in the Alaskan school system
On short notice I was a bit unprepared and am going through an experience where a beloved pet is ailing and I asked him cordially if he could consider extending his stay at my sister's or if that's not possible would he be okay staying in a room nearby that I would get for him, he responded briefly only to let me know that I had pissed him off
Now today he shows up at my locked gate, angry that the gate is locked. I go out there to unlock it but I had brought up the wrong set of keys and this enraged him and he immediately started waving his phone around and said do I got to call somebody here and this time I didn't waver and I didn't yield I said if that's what you need to do you're going to need to do that and we're going to see what happens and they came and this time I went inside the house and I came back out with a stack of his criminal record and I in the most polite tone ask the police officer to take a look at what we had here and that is as follows
Background :
His police record begins with a felony arrest on the Mexican border in 1972, trafficking marijuana - squandering his law school education and breaking his family's heart to see him convicted and placed in a federal penitentiary in Virginia at 22 years old
Alternatively at 22 years old his father was a heavyweight boxer
And at 22 years old I was an active recording artist putting my album together, albeit as cringe worthy as it was this highlighted my motivations and ambitions to create and produce. It was because of his own failures at 22 and me not living in his image or in some way he could live vicariously through, or the fact that I am more a phenotypical expression of my mother's side than his, resulting his relationship toward being that of overlooking me or undermining me
He got out of prison and fell into education
He met my mother when she was his student and he was her teacher
They had my sister and then me 10 years later
But has also been arrested in each decade for violence ranging from domestic violence to assault and aggravated assault and petty theft extending from his "hustles", which most of my childhood was dedicated to riding alongside him in these. This man was born in 1950 and these arrests extend into his 60s
At 8 years old I saw him almost get in a fight with my mother's boyfriend and in response I slashed my mother's boyfriend's tire and took his gold chain and delivered it to my dad, I did this with no instruction
So to see my father betray me as soon as I had my own motives and initiatives and no longer lived in his image was heart breaking .
And even though he called the police on me at my own home - threatening to destroy my business in the pet care service realm as I am housing animals on stays and absolutely can not be arrested while doing so
It hurt me to see the cop turn their focus toward chastising him and then seeing my father walk away defeated
Alternatively I realize he has absolutely no remorse in this and is likely somewhere between here and Las Vegas absolutely seething in anger toward me
This is a developing story and I will update soon
However this is not an isolated incident though and since then I had kept my distance but at times during his visits he would whip out the phone and literally hold his finger over the dial pad as if this was his personal weapon
This is my father's playbook and he's utilized it in a vicious divorce against my mother and her extended family
He's been arrested for domestic violence and also for creating false police reports
Fast forward 7 years and he is on his way to visit me on short notice. He had just concluded his trip to my sister's house in Georgia and was now visiting me in California, this is his usual summer travel plan because he is an educator in the Alaskan school system
On short notice I was a bit unprepared and am going through an experience where a beloved pet is ailing and I asked him cordially if he could consider extending his stay at my sister's or if that's not possible would he be okay staying in a room nearby that I would get for him, he responded briefly only to let me know that I had pissed him off
Now today he shows up at my locked gate, angry that the gate is locked. I go out there to unlock it but I had brought up the wrong set of keys and this enraged him and he immediately started waving his phone around and said do I got to call somebody here and this time I didn't waver and I didn't yield I said if that's what you need to do you're going to need to do that and we're going to see what happens and they came and this time I went inside the house and I came back out with a stack of his criminal record and I in the most polite tone ask the police officer to take a look at what we had here and that is as follows
Background :
His police record begins with a felony arrest on the Mexican border in 1972, trafficking marijuana - squandering his law school education and breaking his family's heart to see him convicted and placed in a federal penitentiary in Virginia at 22 years old
Alternatively at 22 years old his father was a heavyweight boxer
And at 22 years old I was an active recording artist putting my album together, albeit as cringe worthy as it was this highlighted my motivations and ambitions to create and produce. It was because of his own failures at 22 and me not living in his image or in some way he could live vicariously through, or the fact that I am more a phenotypical expression of my mother's side than his, resulting his relationship toward being that of overlooking me or undermining me
He got out of prison and fell into education
He met my mother when she was his student and he was her teacher
They had my sister and then me 10 years later
But has also been arrested in each decade for violence ranging from domestic violence to assault and aggravated assault and petty theft extending from his "hustles", which most of my childhood was dedicated to riding alongside him in these. This man was born in 1950 and these arrests extend into his 60s
At 8 years old I saw him almost get in a fight with my mother's boyfriend and in response I slashed my mother's boyfriend's tire and took his gold chain and delivered it to my dad, I did this with no instruction
So to see my father betray me as soon as I had my own motives and initiatives and no longer lived in his image was heart breaking .
And even though he called the police on me at my own home - threatening to destroy my business in the pet care service realm as I am housing animals on stays and absolutely can not be arrested while doing so
It hurt me to see the cop turn their focus toward chastising him and then seeing my father walk away defeated
Alternatively I realize he has absolutely no remorse in this and is likely somewhere between here and Las Vegas absolutely seething in anger toward me
This is a developing story and I will update soon
