AITA for not buying a birthday gift for my coworker?

[Gloxina]

Dude, sometimes you have to play the game. Get a little $10 nail kit or whatever at the drug store or on Amazon and keep it pushing.

Now your boss thinks your an a$$hole and will be taking other people’s side over yours down the line when other BS comes up. Smh

 

[BunchePark]

all that fake culture building shyt only happens on jobs where they ain't paying shyt

when everyone getting money the culture builds itself

they about to make y'all have a bowling night next


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but yes I agree you fukked up at first by agreeing to do some shyt and then not doing it and then looking crazy when it was brought to ya attention

secondly don't nobody need to tell you to quit shyt if they ain't paying ya damn bills

 

[JBQH]

Once you say No stick to your No. You said yes though, so do this one and don’t do anymore. Been in many environments like this and declined certain things. Your No has to mean No though and they’ll learn.

 

[Remote]

I hope OP didn't quit a job over a $5 gift.

 

[Jesus H. Christ]

I started working as a tutor at an elementary school a couple months ago. I work a total of 50 hours a week (I help run the after-school program) and I get paid minimum wage.

My workplace have a "birthday buddies" thing where we're matched with other tutors in my company and we have to buy them a gift on their birthday from their wish list. A month ago, I got matched with one of my coworkers but I forgot to buy her a gift. She never mentioned it to me and everything seemed fine. Then a few days later, my boss pulled me aside and told me that my coworker was upset that I didn't buy her a gift. I told my boss, I'll get it when I can. Fast forward to this Friday and my boss texted me after work saying that I needed to buy her a gift by Monday and I should try to apologize to her for forgetting.

I kinda don't want to buy her a gift. I feel like it's doing too much for pretty much a stranger. I'm there to work and then go home. And I don't give a fukk if she didn't buy me a gift on my birthday. Her wish list includes birria soup, jewelry, press on nails, and stuffed animals. I told my friends about this and they said they not paying me enough to do all that and the job in general it's not worth it and I should quit. Only reason I haven't quit yet is that I grown attached to the kids I tutor and have in my after-school program and I feel guilty leaving. But the long hours, low pay, and constant snitching by my coworkers (my boss came to me about complaints about me from other coworkers a few times) is making me frustrated. So am I the a$$hole?

Birria soup? Is she Mexican?

 

[JadeB]

Birria soup? Is she Mexican?

Yeah

 

[DJ Paul's Arm]

The fukk is AITA?

 

[JadeB]

The fukk is AITA?

Am I the a$$hole? It's a subreddit

 

[Jesus H. Christ]

Yeah

Thou shalt not lavish costly gifts upon harlots, for such indulgence finds no favor in the eyes of the Lord. Verily, Jesus did not condone such profligacy. If thou desirest to partake in luxury, seeketh not to ensnare the unsuspecting, but rather, earn thy blessings through righteous means.

Not the a$$hole. Just focus on your job and passion to teach as you have said in first post.

 

[4-Rin]

I hope OP didn't quit a job over a $5 gift.

He's standing on business. Be jobless and homeless over $5 brehs

 

[humminbird]

Aren't these usually optional?
thank god my job doesn't do this
I had one job that did the Secret Santa thing but I wasn't there long enough to do it. I was going to make up some excuse to avoid it
well I guess I did after all

 

[FeverPitch2]

You're tryna be hard over $5, breh.
Not only that but you're putting a target on your back at work.
You're obv young as hell and don't realize the politics of the workplace.
You caused a controversy and generally made shyt harder on yourself at work and for what exactly? What did you gain?
Buy the gift, apologize, put it behind you, and look for a better paying less stressful job..

 

[FeverPitch2]

A lot of people get a bug up their ass about Secret Santa at work or school.
The gifts are usually capped at $20 at the absolute most.
I don't get why mfs raise their blood pressure about this.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

A lot of people get a bug up their ass about Secret Santa at work or school.
The gifts are usually capped at $20 at the absolute most.
I don't get why mfs raise their blood pressure about this.

breh idk how these folks would survive in a corporate environment where there is actually like committees plotting social events on the regular. my job had like 10 events these past few weeks (typical holiday season).... shyt is draining but im leaving here doin sumn

 

[Yinny]

He's standing on business. Be jobless and homeless over $5 brehs

Cardboxing on bidness


Jokes aside I hate so much when menial-paying jobs force you to bond specifically by spending money they know they don’t pay you enough of. Coworker happy hours to buy cxx a gift because they exist/had a child/etc. While nice, they shouldn’t be at the level of assumed to opt-in. Especially for people who don’t have it.

Hes def passive aggressively resisting the request and will only look worse than if he at the outset made up a solid reason for not participating.

If the company thinks bdays are so important, why y’all not fronting the cost of the gift? Y’all can go do trust falls. Coffe coats etc.

Roundabout as*hold, yeah but overall, nope.