I’m finally ready to take this step. I have enough children. I’m not telling my lady shyt, this is for me.
Your body. Your choice. I recommend the no scalpel method. I put a video in the spoiler in the OP. Doesn't really hurt much and doesn't leave behind visible scarring on your scrotum. I have very tiny dark spot the size of maybe a piece of rice where the Doctor made the incision. With pubic hair and my skintone nobody but me can really tell i ever had a vasectomy. Not even noticeable.
My advice if you don't want your lady to know is to plan the actual procedure when she's away for three or more days. Just because recovery is fast but somethings you won't be able to hide like blood leaking from the incision in the shower, swollen scrotum, walking funny for a few days, you can hide your pain meds but it's a chance she might find them. Or you can take off a week and book a hotel, airbnb, or something just so you can heal.
Mine was done in three steps the initial doctor visit, the actual procedure, and the follow up.
The first visit is to meet the doctor let him/her look at your junk to see if he's comfortable doing the procedure, second is the actual vasectomy, and the follow up is to see if you healed up ok. Can look for highly rated Doctors in your area online.
Edit- Each time you visit the doctor I would recommend you trim you pubic hairs if you dont already.