That's what I'm saying. You guys make it impossible to change because you don't see it as a woman doing something to help herself you see it as a hoe that didn't make another guy wait making you wait and you're gonna leave her.
No, that isn't how it is. She can change on her own, she don't need a man's validation, so a woman should do it despite how we feel.
My personal feeling is if there is some aspect she was generous with, whether sex, attention, indulging in activities, etc with a past partner, and what I get is
sexual stonewalling, flakiness and less attention, a lack of desire to participate in my chosen activities, etc...but she got crazy stories of how her and Jahmal was
wild and spontaneous yet im not able to cultivate that side of her, then I don't feel we are a match. Either I am not stimulating that side of her or she just isn't feeling
me. As folks on the coli and real life say, im not "that nikka" to her. You have to understand, imagine you befriend a guy who talks about all the romantic shyt he does
for women, down the line you guys feel a spark and give something a try, and he feels like he doesn't need to or want to give you goofy napkin messages with your lunch,
he doesn't walk with you on the boardwalk holding hands like he professed he loved to do with other women...everything you expected was not there. How else are you
supposed to take it other than he wasn't feeling you like he was everybody else.
I didn't tell my ex how much more I did for her during our short time together than I did others
she was special in ways I didn't see in others, so she got things and
admissions no other woman ever has. I am sure there are some chicks I talked to who would feel pretty pissed at that, especially if I go from adventurous dates to netflix and
couch surfing.
Bottom line, if you chose the life of hoeing, you can't blame people for not wanting to be bothered. One of my best friends was an alcoholic. Love that breh. You think imma trust his
ass to run a liquor store for me though?
We judge people for all kinds of things, Juicy, so stop getting hung up on the sexual side.
