International Playa
Playa with a Passport
(35F) was talking to a close friend (34M) yesterday. We’ve both recently broken up from our respective long term partners, so we end up chatting about relationships and future a lot. His previous partner was 28, and she was amazing. They broke up because he wants kids and she isn’t sure yet. Fair enough. So when I asked him “what’s the youngest that you’ll date”, his answer left me shell shocked. He said 23! TWENTY FREAKING THREE! I felt so grossed out for some reason. And then he made matters worse by saying he has a friend that’s 38M who is in a very fulfilling relationship with a 21F. I visibly gagged. Am I missing something here? I personally think a 30s something man dating an early 20s woman is just yuck, and these men are just taking advantage of someone that’s young and doesn’t have enough life experience to make informed decisions. I won’t even go into grooming etc. because that’s another rant in it’s own. Oh also, the youngest this friend would date? 33F 🫠 “because I want time to have healthy kids and women post 35 have high risk pregnancies”. Mind you he is a RESIDENT DOCTOR. This somehow made me feel worse as a 35F that wants kids in the future, but just got out of a 5 year relationship so need to regroup before I can date with the right mindset. This is definitely one of those days that makes me go “ugh men…”
ETA: I don’t want to date my friend. I was just sharing something that made me feel uncomfortable. I am not opposed to age gaps, but there is a difference in a 30s someone dating a younger 20s someone, and a 40s someone dating a 30s someone.
As someone pointed out very correctly, this did trigger me given circumstances. I’m in therapy to work through all of that. But I will die on this hill. A 38 year old dating a 21 year old is NOT OKAY.
Shawty freaking out men her age are choosing younger women
as a smiley
