Listen I've been a nerd that women weren't even checking for damn near all my life. Had glasses. Had no swag or game. Then when I got older...things got better. Then I had a nervous breakdown during college and tried to kill myself. Then I gained weight. Then I dedicated 42 weeks of life of my life to get in shape and I did get in the best shape of my life and looked and felt great. But I still was nervous around women cause I didn't have money.
N! Ggas don't get it. There is no such thing as true love or natural game if you're someone like me. You need money and money is tied to getting sex...and I've always had people get in my way that are so uncomfortable by my presence they wanna stop me from doing anythibg.
Anyways I don't give a fukk what people think...none of you know what I really do with myself or how I operate. You can't change me...that's my issue and what I'm trying to do with myself. I just bucking hate how all of these misc wanna be motherfukkers want to impose upon people how others should go about their lives when the source of my frustration has been trying to obtain the basics. Shyts maddening.
I'm not like yall and I don't wanna be like yall. I'm content being me even with the shyt I've been through. Take it how you want.
First of all fam, I wasn't coming at you trying to boss up or out "alpha" male you, I'm coming at you with compassion and encouragement, recognize that. While I haven't walked in your shoes specifically I have lived a life trying to navigate a lot of the same issues you have.
Secondly, you're not really understanding why people may be uncomfortable with your presence, it ain't lack of money or any of these ideals you have in your head that need to be lived up to. People don't get uncomfortable around you because of "game" or lack thereof...they get uncomfortable because they feel your discomfort.
The shyt is dripping off of you fam, people may not even know why you're energy is repulsive but they respond accordingly. And I don't mean repulsive as in "ugly" but as in pushing away opportunities to achieve the things you want by feeling undeserving. "They", whoever they may be can't give you what you feel you are missing, it's self generated...your circumstances simply reflect your state of mind which is obviously negative and troublesome.
But yea, this is a sensitive issue breh, not trying to embarrass you or anything, just concerned and wise enough to know that pain like this doesn't subside without having an outlet.
Inbox is open my nikka.
Ask Eminem how that worked out. Lots of people hate their moms. You have to respect who they are for the time they put in for you, you have to respect that they carried you for 9 months, but you can also acknowledge that you wouldn't have anything to do with your mom if she was just someone you met.
It's not about whether you'd have anything to do with your mother if she was just someone you met, it's about how your relationship with your mother sets the tone for how you relate to women overall...it's very telling considering we aren't even ranting raving about a certain type of women, but women in general.
There is evidence suggests that memories can be formed in the womb..when I said you see through your mothers eyes, eats what she eats, hears what she hears, I meant just that. You have already experienced life from behind the eyes of a woman and who that woman is...how she see's herself and how she relates to men, all play a role in the foundation for how you relate to women and yourself as a man.
He said the men in his mother's life talked to/about her the same way he talks about women because...she's a woman...to him that's how the exchange is supposed to go...this isn't something he picked up through personal experience. You'd be surprised how many young men who have barely been in relationships or even interacted with the opposite sex on any meaningful level can tell you all about relationships.
I work with a lot of young guys who have this skewed sense of reality and it really stems from lack of self love and responsibility (not blame)
