Not to say my parents were horrible "over protectors."
But, the problem was; my father worked so hard so that we wouldn't grow up like he did (low income Southern family with a bunch of siblings), that he forgot pressure makes diamonds as well as bust pipes.
Too much "MAKE A's, B's" & "YOU GOING TO COLLEGE." But, no "you need to socialize, more" or "you need to play a sport" or "you need to do something after school." All he cared about was us studying and staying home.
Granted, my parents got divorced and he just couldn't run as all around and hold down a job by myself. I can't blame him for that.
But, the problem is; he's still doing it (leaning on college degrees and getting corporate jobs, but, not gaining actual skills) to my high school senior aged sibling.
Our parents got to understand; in the new economy, the jobs are disappearing, not being created.
The number one greatest thing, though; he didn't celebrate holidays and we were never taught to be materialistic. Yes, my dad is the classic cheap black man
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He's semi-retired and had a great career, but; he's gotta understand he didn't get those things being coddled and made afraid to take risk in life.