"You have to love the stranger your wife may become" - My Brother's pre-marriage Counselor

[Stuntone]

Can someone help me understand this?


I was discussing my relationship with my brother, who's married and very religious so is his wife. I tell him how things have changed and the up and down. He ends up telling the in premarraige conseling, he was told he has to love the stranger his wife my become. I was baffled then and still battled now.


Has anyone else heard of something like this?

 

[DaddyFresh]

People get new life experiences and change breh . Nobody stays the same.

 

[Bushmaster69]

I mean your wife is not going to be the same person every 10 years, but in no way is she supposed to become a stranger. Y'all are supposed to evolve together. If that doesn't happpen then divorce may be inevitable.

You shouldn't have to live with a stranger into old age. That's wild.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

Nobody is forcing you to get married

Some of ya'll need to nut up and get some act right, mfers be scared of shyt that ain't even major just know it by proxy

 

[King_Sage]

The whole notion of growing apart is real... If you aren't growing together, then

Hope this don't come across as sexist, but men and women change at different rates.. External factors and internal factors that are chemically induced as we age..

Ever heard a breh say their S/O changed after the baby?

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Spellcheck my brethren

Yeah I guess.. idk if I would want “strange” but I thought that was what marriage is about… Growing together aka living through the changes that will inevitably happen


Doesn’t mean you or your bytch go Doja Cat weird or some shyt.

 

[King_Kamala61]

Ahhh the briar patch

Not for everyone

 

[Chip Skylark]

You and your wife will change. It’s natural and normal which is why you should enjoy being around each other more than anything.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

That’s probably the realist shít someone could tell a young man about marriage.

 

[cyndaquil]

Depends how big the change is. There's a difference between changing through life experience and becoming a whole different person. Mental illness be unveiling itself out these folks man

 

[cheek100]

Real spill

 

[Diondon]

She gon switch up on you.
In some form or fashion. Hope its not too severe
while men seek familiarity and routine
women will critique themselves constantly and seek change

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Gah damm 2 threads on marriage nikka today!!

This nikka hate Black women.
This nikka stay trying to disparage marrige!
This nikka stay mad at mafukkas buying new sneakers!
This nikka been talking about buying the same Audi for 10 years!





the coli is autism spectrum central.

 

[I'm Blackman]

it makes sense.

People change...you have to fall in love with the new person in a sense.

 

[concise]

This nikka been talking about buying the same Audi for 10 years!