20 Signs A Man Is Insecure
Some of you dudes are raging cases of testosterone overdoses, but that doesnt mean youre a real man either. One of the biggest hurdles to true manhood is overcoming your insecurities. And unfortunately, many of our men are far more insecure than our women. Heres a way to check yourself, or the brothers you know, for defects.
1. Control issues He seeks to control his woman by making her think, say, and do, what he wants. What he wants is a pet, not a partner. And even a pet wont do what you tell it most of the time.
2. Overcompensating He compensates for his shortcomings by dealing with several women at one time, none of whom know about each other. He does a lot of lying to keep himself "looking" sincere.
3. Materialism He tries to make himself into a more impressive person by surrounding himself with material things that he can show off. Although this dude may not own a house, he WILL need the newest, hottest care to drive.
4. Appearance Hes worried about appearances more than anything. His woman has to act and look a certain way. He cant leave the house unless he is looking a certain way. Theres nothing wrong with some pride and hygiene, but dudes like this are missing important things (like a bank account) while trying to show off.
5. Support Group Not only is he extremely concerned about what other people think of him, he needs to constantly be surrounded by other people who reinforce and supports what he already thinks.
6. Takes It Personal He thinks someone disagreeing with or criticizing him means that they have a personal problem with him and he takes it personally.
7. Petty Boy He gets emotional about the pettiest of things, but argues that hes right for the way he responds.
8. Baby Boy He finds a woman who will treat him like shes his mother.
9. Big Daddy He treats that same woman like shes his daughter.
10. Avoidance Hes actually scared to try new experiences, but lies and says that hes just not interested in things like that. He avoids any situation where he might not feel comfortable. He also runs from conflicts he cant control. And he refuses to be open about whats REALLY going on with him.
11. Contradiction He uses his words to tell who he is and what he is about, and not his actions. Actually, his actions usually contradict what he believes about himself.
12. Loud He talks real loud, for no reason, as if he needs attention.
13. Insecure Woman He finds a woman who is insecure enough for him to control, and the only time they get along is during sex. Sex is the insecure womans safety net.
14. Overdoes it He drives in tiny nails with a sledgehammer. And he usually misses. In other words, he tries to overdo everything to make himself seem more important, more powerful, more whatever than he really is. If he cant hack it in the white mans world, hell exaggerate his presence in a world of his own.
15. dikk Issues Hes honestly worried about whose dikk is bigger or smaller than his. But he swears hes not gay, either.
16. Jealousy Even if he has a 2008 BMW, hes still jealous of people driving a 2009 BMW. He tends to hate more than motivate.
17. Trendy He waits until other people think something is hot before he feels the same way.
18. Low Standards He often goes after unattractive women because he subconsciously believes that they have lower standards and will thus accept him. He avoids women and other situations that require someone to be sure of himself. He acts like its all about sex, but its deeper.
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20. Lies He lies about things that dont even matter, just to reinforce the positive (false) image of himself that hes trying to put out.
Sound familiar? This may describe one of your partners (or many of them) or (if youre a woman) the man in your life. What can you do? Sadly, not much. You can point it out, and hopefully theyll change. But most of the time, a mans insecurity will keep him from even seeing your point. Your best bet is simply to find new company.
Insecurity is a dangerous weakness. Eliminate it or avoid it.
20 Signs Shes Insecure
Its funny how most insecure women scream "Im not insecure" the loudest. Here are my observations about insecurity, and if the shoe fits, fix your feet. To be fair, I may not be insecure, but I can be impulsive, insensitive, inappropriate, indecisive, and a ton of other words that stare with "I" (but not impotent). But Im Me . So I just cant be insecure.
1. She says she NOT insecure about ANYTHING, very loudly (reassuring herself shell believe it)
2. She attempts to control what you do and where you go (A control mechanism intended so you only answer to her)
3. She attempts to change your friends, or puts them down (another control mechanism)
4. She wont leave the house without makeup on or a jazzy outfit (not comfortable with herself as she is)
5. She uses makeup to make herself look COMPLETELY different from her natural appearance.
6. Shes attempting to redecorate herself as a white woman (blonde hair, light makeup, blue contacts, self-hating attitude)
7. Shes scared to have feelings for you, or has other walls up.
8. She always putting down other women (being comfortable with yourself allows you to not feel like youre competing with every other woman)
9. She spends a lot of time drunk or high (staying in a haze to escape her reality)
10. Shes been abused, traumatized, or victimized and NEVER dealt with it (thus never healed)
11. She needs the lights off to have sex (insecure about her body)
12. Shes a germaphobe, hypochondriac or a paranoid schizophrenic
13. She constantly needs attention of any kind, negative or positive
14. She cant spend quite time alone enjoying herself
15. She needs to be on her cell phone throughout the day (her way of never being alone)
16. She uses material things (clothes, cars, money, etc) to make her feel valuable and confident
17. She draws attention to what she feels are her BEST features, but they are all physical (but whats under the surface?)
18. She makes assumptions about who youve been with or what youve been doing (jealous paranoia is hell!)
19. She argues about everything (another unhealthy way for her to feel some sense of power)
20. She checks your phone, reads your email, attempts to kill your ex, or cuts off your penis
If the shoe fits, it must be legit. But dont look at this list as a means to condemn women. The truth is that almost all women of color are insecure to some extent. Its natural. Just as our men are bashed into running from responsible manhood, our women have been scrutinized, dehumanized, objectified and hypersexualized to the point where they worry about the most minute details as if they can determine how much of a woman she is. A woman isnt a woman because of how skinny she is, how pretty she is, or how much other people love or like her but our women have been led to believe that. So of course theyre insecure. So work with em. And tell em to work with you. Cause a lot of times the items on this list can apply to men to! Were all f*cked up. Lets fix us.
Weve all got to grow up together.
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"If men as individuals surrender to the call of their elementary instincts, avoiding pain and seeking satisfaction only for their own selves, the result for them all taken together must be a state of insecurity, of fear, and of promiscuous misery." ~*Albert Einstein
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