Why do people think it’s the child’s responsibility to fix a bad relationship with their parents?

[Colin X]

I was thinking about this for awhile.


Then the shyt with 50 and his son came about and it reignited the


You got people saying if Marquis wants a good relationship he should “man up” or some shyt.

But not even just them two, I see it a lot. That “it was in the past” and “forgive your parents for their mistakes”.



Shouldn’t the PARENT be the one coming forward and saying sorry and admitting how much they fukked up in the past? Why is that the kid’s job?


They didn’t ask to be here, but you couldn’t keep your sick to yourself or your legs closed and you fukked up their life and now they don’t like you. That sounds like the parent’s problem

 

[Elle Seven]

IMO, it is because most adults are grown children with their own issues anyway.

They go thru life, never seeing their own issues and go on to have children and continue the cycle.

Add that to the fact that, in the black community, elders will demand (versus command, thru their actions and example) respect and compliance - whether they deserve it or not - and you have the making for the scenario you just described.

Instead of the parents being introspective and realizing how they might have failed their kids because they didn't get their own selves straight first, they just expect love, honor and respect by virtue of they simply procreation the child.


Then again, I might be projecting like hell

 

[FlyGuy]

IMO, it is because most adults are grown children with their own issues anyway.

They go thru life, never seeing their own issues and go on to have children and continue the cycle.

Add that to the fact that, in the black community, elders will demand (versus command, thru their actions and example) respect and compliance - whether they deserve it or not - and you have the making for the scenario you just described.

Instead of the parents being introspective and realizing how they might have failed their kids because they didn't get their own selves straight first, they just expect love, honor and respect by virtue of they simply procreation the child.


Then again, I might be projecting like hell

I see that shyt with my boy and his mom (first bolded). She really fukked his mental up. She's done him so dirt and he still sees her as a positive example when it comes to shyt. He payed rent and she still ain't wanna give him a key, would lock him out, didn't let him wash clothes there, and he couldn't leave until morning once he was in.

I wouldn't be able to


Second bolded I had to get over with my parents. They did terrible as far as rearing goes, and I used to blame myself thinking if I had been more receptive it would have worked better. Last year I just realized they suck

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

he went around taunting his own father hanging with his detractors in public.

the kid is not innocent. that's some disloyal disrespectful shyt.

however 50 cent is just a terrible human being on average. He lives like an Island and beefs with everyone.

behaviour is also inherited... like father like son.

 

[raoulduke187]

I'm a person and I don't think that