So that I won't regret NOT doing them when I hit my 30s?
This question came to me after watching a Steve Harvey video posted on here where he was talking about most people in their 30s spend all of their time trying to fix everything they fukked up or didn't do in their 20s. I know most the people on this site are pretty young, but for the older heads, what are some of the things you wish you would have done in your 20s that once you hit your 30s you probably won't/didn't have the opportunity to do?
get ur degree.. even if its in basketweaving. get some type of bachelors, try to go to a state school or university rather than one of those daytime tv commercial colleges.
in reality other than a trade or a skill a business is looking to see if you have what it takes to stick it out, and be accountable. real talk you gain accountability just by completing college. doing what you gotta do to get a legit piece of paper saying bachelors or masters, even if you showed up late or graduated with c's. shyt if you graduate with a bachelors or a masters and work at mcdonalds, i guarantee you you can or would get moved up to manager or something faster than the fry cook thats been working there 2-3 years just punchin in and out, because other than his just showing up and leaving unless he's got a reputable background (school/work history) its proven that youve stuck around long enough somewhere to do something, so taking someone with proven ground versus someone brand new a business is more likely to go to someone with ground. that could be McD's, lowes, walmart, kroger...dont matter.
you dont want to be in your 30s still getting entry level jobs. thats not the business.
1. Never looking at your budget and never making a budget is the exact same thing.
2. The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If you’re not willing to be embarrassed, you’re probably not willing to be great.
3. Feel no shame in seeking help from a counselor or therapist. We all have crap we try to wrap and hide under the Christmas tree. Get rid of it before it smells up your entire holiday.
4. All job listings on Craigslist lead you to a warehouse in downtown LA “wearing something nice with shoes you can walk in”.
5. Don’t ever, ever check Facebook when you’re:
A. Depressed
B. Drinking.
C. Depressed and Drinking.
D. Unemployed.
E. Anytime after 9:17 pm.
F. Struggling with being blessed with singleness while all your friends seem to be blessed with 2.4 kids and that blazing white-picket-fence shining with the glory of Jesus Christ himself.
6. All those amazing college friends you swore you’d never lose contact with after college yeah, well, you might lose contact. Moving all over the country, getting married, having kids, all make that forty-five minute conversation with your sophomore roommate a little more complicated than it used to be over a game of Mario Kart. Making and keeping friends in our twenties takes intentionality.
7. Your twenties will produce more failures than you’ll choose to remember. The key is when you fail, don’t begin calling yourself a failure.
8. Every break up has two break ups. I’m no physicist, but this is a law of physics, of this I am certain. Yes you’ll have the first tearful “It’s over” sitting in the front seat of your Honda or on a park swing. Then 1-2 months later after there’s “been talk”, you’ll have the “real breakup” because she forgets to call like she used to or he checks out the waitress like he’s a judge for Miss USA. And gird those loins because in the second break up there will be a lot more breaking.
9. The Freshman-Fifteen is nothing compared to the Cubicle-Cincuenta. Don’t sit at your computer perched like a Roman gargoyle. Don’t let office birthday cake be forced on you like a cigarette behind your middle school. Bust out before your butt does.
10. And yes, cubicles don’t make sense to anybody other than upper-management. I would be willing to bet that only 3% of all “Cubicle Americans” actually have a positive outlook on life. And half of that 3% is stealing from their company.
11. If at some point between 22 – 27 you feel like you’re six years old again, lost and alone at the San Diego Zoo (it’s a big-frickin-zoo), frantically searching for a familiar face – hold tight, you’re experiencing a bit of a Quarter-Life Crisis. Stay put. Pray a lot. And in no time someone will call your name across the loud speaker to tell you where you can be found.
12. Reckless drinking and reckless flirting have a direct correlation. Friends don’t let friends drive, or flirt, drunk.
13. If you grew up going to church, at some point in your 20′s you’ll probably stop going to church. If you grew up with faith as a central part of your life, at some point in your twenties faith might move to the outskirts of town next to the trailer park and three-legged squirrel refuge. Your twenties are a process of making faith your own apart from your parents and childhood. Sometimes that means staggering away so you know what you’re coming back to.
14. Don’t ever begin dating someone you first met whilst in swimsuits. Doubly-don’t if you’re both in swimsuits whilst holding an alcoholic beverage.
15. Obsessive Comparison Disorder is the smallpox of our generation. 9 out of 10 doctor’s agree this disorder is the leading cause to eating a whole sleeve of Oreo’s while watching Real Housewives of O.C. Say no to obsessive comparison disorder before it starts. Remember everyone’s too busy putting a PR spin on their Facebook profile to care much about yours.
16. Life will never feel like it’s “supposed to”. Being twenty-something can feel like death by unmet expectations. However, let me be so brash to say that you are right now, at this moment, exactly where you need to be. But you’ll only be able to see that five years and thirty-eight days from today.
17. You might have your first kid and realize what it’s like to be young, a parent, and have no freaking clue what you’re doing. And for the first time in your life, you also might actually understand your parents for the first time.
18. Marriage WILL NOT fix any of your problems. No, instead marriage will put a magnifying glass on how many problems you really have. We grow up carrying bags with our insecurities, fears, bad relationships, problems with our parents — you name it. Begin to ditch these bags now. Newly married and living in a small apartment is no place to store a luggage set full of shiz.
19. An assortment of crappy jobs are a twenty-something rite of passage. Figure out what you need to learn there and learn it. If you don’t, an assortment of crappy jobs might be your thirty, forty and fifty-something rite of passage as well.
20. Great ideas alone mean nothing. Your ability to persevere through 16 major setbacks, a lack of passion, forgetting why you started this great idea in the first place, and all the people who allude that your great idea is actually quite terrible — well, that means everything.
21. The grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there and realize it’s because of all the manure.
explore different females, strap up (don't fukk around and have a kid)
play hard (go out on tha weekends, explore tha city, travel if u can)
work hard (go to college, do something constructive, build a good resume working)
be social, build a network, talk to different people wherever u go, don't get stuck with tha same friend day in day out week after week, it will limit your freedom and experiences...
1. Never looking at your budget and never making a budget is the exact same thing.
2. The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If youre not willing to be embarrassed, youre probably not willing to be great.
3. Feel no shame in seeking help from a counselor or therapist. We all have crap we try to wrap and hide under the Christmas tree. Get rid of it before it smells up your entire holiday.
4. All job listings on Craigslist lead you to a warehouse in downtown LA wearing something nice with shoes you can walk in.
5. Dont ever, ever check Facebook when youre:
A. Depressed
B. Drinking.
C. Depressed and Drinking.
D. Unemployed.
E. Anytime after 9:17 pm.
F. Struggling with being blessed with singleness while all your friends seem to be blessed with 2.4 kids and that blazing white-picket-fence shining with the glory of Jesus Christ himself.
6. All those amazing college friends you swore youd never lose contact with after college yeah, well, you might lose contact. Moving all over the country, getting married, having kids, all make that forty-five minute conversation with your sophomore roommate a little more complicated than it used to be over a game of Mario Kart. Making and keeping friends in our twenties takes intentionality.
7. Your twenties will produce more failures than youll choose to remember. The key is when you fail, dont begin calling yourself a failure.
8. Every break up has two break ups. Im no physicist, but this is a law of physics, of this I am certain. Yes youll have the first tearful Its over sitting in the front seat of your Honda or on a park swing. Then 1-2 months later after theres been talk, youll have the real breakup because she forgets to call like she used to or he checks out the waitress like hes a judge for Miss USA. And gird those loins because in the second break up there will be a lot more breaking.
9. The Freshman-Fifteen is nothing compared to the Cubicle-Cincuenta. Dont sit at your computer perched like a Roman gargoyle. Dont let office birthday cake be forced on you like a cigarette behind your middle school. Bust out before your butt does.
10. And yes, cubicles dont make sense to anybody other than upper-management. I would be willing to bet that only 3% of all Cubicle Americans actually have a positive outlook on life. And half of that 3% is stealing from their company.
11. If at some point between 22 27 you feel like youre six years old again, lost and alone at the San Diego Zoo (its a big-frickin-zoo), frantically searching for a familiar face hold tight, youre experiencing a bit of a Quarter-Life Crisis. Stay put. Pray a lot. And in no time someone will call your name across the loud speaker to tell you where you can be found.
12. Reckless drinking and reckless flirting have a direct correlation. Friends dont let friends drive, or flirt, drunk.
13. If you grew up going to church, at some point in your 20′s youll probably stop going to church. If you grew up with faith as a central part of your life, at some point in your twenties faith might move to the outskirts of town next to the trailer park and three-legged squirrel refuge. Your twenties are a process of making faith your own apart from your parents and childhood. Sometimes that means staggering away so you know what youre coming back to.
14. Dont ever begin dating someone you first met whilst in swimsuits. Doubly-dont if youre both in swimsuits whilst holding an alcoholic beverage.
15. Obsessive Comparison Disorder is the smallpox of our generation. 9 out of 10 doctors agree this disorder is the leading cause to eating a whole sleeve of Oreos while watching Real Housewives of O.C. Say no to obsessive comparison disorder before it starts. Remember everyones too busy putting a PR spin on their Facebook profile to care much about yours.
16. Life will never feel like its supposed to. Being twenty-something can feel like death by unmet expectations. However, let me be so brash to say that you are right now, at this moment, exactly where you need to be. But youll only be able to see that five years and thirty-eight days from today.
17. You might have your first kid and realize what its like to be young, a parent, and have no freaking clue what youre doing. And for the first time in your life, you also might actually understand your parents for the first time.
18. Marriage WILL NOT fix any of your problems. No, instead marriage will put a magnifying glass on how many problems you really have. We grow up carrying bags with our insecurities, fears, bad relationships, problems with our parents you name it. Begin to ditch these bags now. Newly married and living in a small apartment is no place to store a luggage set full of shiz.
19. An assortment of crappy jobs are a twenty-something rite of passage. Figure out what you need to learn there and learn it. If you dont, an assortment of crappy jobs might be your thirty, forty and fifty-something rite of passage as well.
20. Great ideas alone mean nothing. Your ability to persevere through 16 major setbacks, a lack of passion, forgetting why you started this great idea in the first place, and all the people who allude that your great idea is actually quite terrible well, that means everything.
21. The grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there and realize its because of all the manure.
1. Never looking at your budget and never making a budget is the exact same thing.
2. The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If youre not willing to be embarrassed, youre probably not willing to be great.
3. Feel no shame in seeking help from a counselor or therapist. We all have crap we try to wrap and hide under the Christmas tree. Get rid of it before it smells up your entire holiday.
4. All job listings on Craigslist lead you to a warehouse in downtown LA wearing something nice with shoes you can walk in.
5. Dont ever, ever check Facebook when youre:
A. Depressed
B. Drinking.
C. Depressed and Drinking.
D. Unemployed.
E. Anytime after 9:17 pm.
F. Struggling with being blessed with singleness while all your friends seem to be blessed with 2.4 kids and that blazing white-picket-fence shining with the glory of Jesus Christ himself.
6. All those amazing college friends you swore youd never lose contact with after college yeah, well, you might lose contact. Moving all over the country, getting married, having kids, all make that forty-five minute conversation with your sophomore roommate a little more complicated than it used to be over a game of Mario Kart. Making and keeping friends in our twenties takes intentionality.
7. Your twenties will produce more failures than youll choose to remember. The key is when you fail, dont begin calling yourself a failure.
8. Every break up has two break ups. Im no physicist, but this is a law of physics, of this I am certain. Yes youll have the first tearful Its over sitting in the front seat of your Honda or on a park swing. Then 1-2 months later after theres been talk, youll have the real breakup because she forgets to call like she used to or he checks out the waitress like hes a judge for Miss USA. And gird those loins because in the second break up there will be a lot more breaking.
9. The Freshman-Fifteen is nothing compared to the Cubicle-Cincuenta. Dont sit at your computer perched like a Roman gargoyle. Dont let office birthday cake be forced on you like a cigarette behind your middle school. Bust out before your butt does.
10. And yes, cubicles dont make sense to anybody other than upper-management. I would be willing to bet that only 3% of all Cubicle Americans actually have a positive outlook on life. And half of that 3% is stealing from their company.
11. If at some point between 22 27 you feel like youre six years old again, lost and alone at the San Diego Zoo (its a big-frickin-zoo), frantically searching for a familiar face hold tight, youre experiencing a bit of a Quarter-Life Crisis. Stay put. Pray a lot. And in no time someone will call your name across the loud speaker to tell you where you can be found.
12. Reckless drinking and reckless flirting have a direct correlation. Friends dont let friends drive, or flirt, drunk.
13. If you grew up going to church, at some point in your 20′s youll probably stop going to church. If you grew up with faith as a central part of your life, at some point in your twenties faith might move to the outskirts of town next to the trailer park and three-legged squirrel refuge. Your twenties are a process of making faith your own apart from your parents and childhood. Sometimes that means staggering away so you know what youre coming back to.
14. Dont ever begin dating someone you first met whilst in swimsuits. Doubly-dont if youre both in swimsuits whilst holding an alcoholic beverage.
15. Obsessive Comparison Disorder is the smallpox of our generation. 9 out of 10 doctors agree this disorder is the leading cause to eating a whole sleeve of Oreos while watching Real Housewives of O.C. Say no to obsessive comparison disorder before it starts. Remember everyones too busy putting a PR spin on their Facebook profile to care much about yours.
16. Life will never feel like its supposed to. Being twenty-something can feel like death by unmet expectations. However, let me be so brash to say that you are right now, at this moment, exactly where you need to be. But youll only be able to see that five years and thirty-eight days from today.
17. You might have your first kid and realize what its like to be young, a parent, and have no freaking clue what youre doing. And for the first time in your life, you also might actually understand your parents for the first time.
18. Marriage WILL NOT fix any of your problems. No, instead marriage will put a magnifying glass on how many problems you really have. We grow up carrying bags with our insecurities, fears, bad relationships, problems with our parents you name it. Begin to ditch these bags now. Newly married and living in a small apartment is no place to store a luggage set full of shiz.
19. An assortment of crappy jobs are a twenty-something rite of passage. Figure out what you need to learn there and learn it. If you dont, an assortment of crappy jobs might be your thirty, forty and fifty-something rite of passage as well.
20. Great ideas alone mean nothing. Your ability to persevere through 16 major setbacks, a lack of passion, forgetting why you started this great idea in the first place, and all the people who allude that your great idea is actually quite terrible well, that means everything.
21. The grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there and realize its because of all the manure.
1. Never looking at your budget and never making a budget is the exact same thing.
2. The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If youre not willing to be embarrassed, youre probably not willing to be great.
3. Feel no shame in seeking help from a counselor or therapist. We all have crap we try to wrap and hide under the Christmas tree. Get rid of it before it smells up your entire holiday.
4. All job listings on Craigslist lead you to a warehouse in downtown LA wearing something nice with shoes you can walk in.
5. Dont ever, ever check Facebook when youre:
A. Depressed
B. Drinking.
C. Depressed and Drinking.
D. Unemployed.
E. Anytime after 9:17 pm.
F. Struggling with being blessed with singleness while all your friends seem to be blessed with 2.4 kids and that blazing white-picket-fence shining with the glory of Jesus Christ himself.
6. All those amazing college friends you swore youd never lose contact with after college yeah, well, you might lose contact. Moving all over the country, getting married, having kids, all make that forty-five minute conversation with your sophomore roommate a little more complicated than it used to be over a game of Mario Kart. Making and keeping friends in our twenties takes intentionality.
7. Your twenties will produce more failures than youll choose to remember. The key is when you fail, dont begin calling yourself a failure.
8. Every break up has two break ups. Im no physicist, but this is a law of physics, of this I am certain. Yes youll have the first tearful Its over sitting in the front seat of your Honda or on a park swing. Then 1-2 months later after theres been talk, youll have the real breakup because she forgets to call like she used to or he checks out the waitress like hes a judge for Miss USA. And gird those loins because in the second break up there will be a lot more breaking.
9. The Freshman-Fifteen is nothing compared to the Cubicle-Cincuenta. Dont sit at your computer perched like a Roman gargoyle. Dont let office birthday cake be forced on you like a cigarette behind your middle school. Bust out before your butt does.
10. And yes, cubicles dont make sense to anybody other than upper-management. I would be willing to bet that only 3% of all Cubicle Americans actually have a positive outlook on life. And half of that 3% is stealing from their company.
11. If at some point between 22 27 you feel like youre six years old again, lost and alone at the San Diego Zoo (its a big-frickin-zoo), frantically searching for a familiar face hold tight, youre experiencing a bit of a Quarter-Life Crisis. Stay put. Pray a lot. And in no time someone will call your name across the loud speaker to tell you where you can be found.
12. Reckless drinking and reckless flirting have a direct correlation. Friends dont let friends drive, or flirt, drunk.
13. If you grew up going to church, at some point in your 20′s youll probably stop going to church. If you grew up with faith as a central part of your life, at some point in your twenties faith might move to the outskirts of town next to the trailer park and three-legged squirrel refuge. Your twenties are a process of making faith your own apart from your parents and childhood. Sometimes that means staggering away so you know what youre coming back to.
14. Dont ever begin dating someone you first met whilst in swimsuits. Doubly-dont if youre both in swimsuits whilst holding an alcoholic beverage.
15. Obsessive Comparison Disorder is the smallpox of our generation. 9 out of 10 doctors agree this disorder is the leading cause to eating a whole sleeve of Oreos while watching Real Housewives of O.C. Say no to obsessive comparison disorder before it starts. Remember everyones too busy putting a PR spin on their Facebook profile to care much about yours.
16. Life will never feel like its supposed to. Being twenty-something can feel like death by unmet expectations. However, let me be so brash to say that you are right now, at this moment, exactly where you need to be. But youll only be able to see that five years and thirty-eight days from today.
17. You might have your first kid and realize what its like to be young, a parent, and have no freaking clue what youre doing. And for the first time in your life, you also might actually understand your parents for the first time.
18. Marriage WILL NOT fix any of your problems. No, instead marriage will put a magnifying glass on how many problems you really have. We grow up carrying bags with our insecurities, fears, bad relationships, problems with our parents you name it. Begin to ditch these bags now. Newly married and living in a small apartment is no place to store a luggage set full of shiz.
19. An assortment of crappy jobs are a twenty-something rite of passage. Figure out what you need to learn there and learn it. If you dont, an assortment of crappy jobs might be your thirty, forty and fifty-something rite of passage as well.
20. Great ideas alone mean nothing. Your ability to persevere through 16 major setbacks, a lack of passion, forgetting why you started this great idea in the first place, and all the people who allude that your great idea is actually quite terrible well, that means everything.
21. The grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there and realize its because of all the manure.
Some knowledge being dropped here...I might go beyond the scope of your question but why not (yes, I'm still bored at work)
1. Travel. As much as you can, wherever you can, it brings you SO much to be able to spend time abroad, open your perspectives, understand other points of view, discover yourself outside of your comfort zone. Ideally, I would say move abroad for about a year, even if on some volunteering/studying/crap job, you'll learn a ton and it's something that gets harder to do with every day that passes. I can't think of a more interesting thing to do in life than discover another country.
2. Linked to 1: learn a foreign language. Not only is it an economical plus (even if people will tell you "Everyone speaks english". First off, it's not true. Second, if you speak English and German, and a German has to do business with someone, who do you think he's going to choose between who speaks his language and who doesn't?) but it also makes you discover SO much about yourself/your language/your culture. I could write pages about this but really, you have to go through it. There's a quote that goes "Every language is a country, and those who speak only one never travel". Forgot from who it is, but I cannot agree more.
3. Follow one of your passions, whatever it is: music, photography, writing, playing basketball...just do it, and do it "seriously". Give yourself the opportunity to -who knows- make something out of it. Too many people -myself included- shove them to the side because "there's no money in that" or "it's not that important". Yes it is: it's what you like in life. It's the rest that isn't that important.
4. Party. The day when you start getting tired at 11PM and/or don't know with whom to go to a club because Friend A is with his wife and Friend B is on a business trip will come quick. And yes, soon you won't have that many people you want to party with.
5. Don't get into serious relationships before you're 26-27 at least. Play the field. There's a reason we feel those urges: it's because they're real, and you don't want to feel stuck in a relationship and start hating your girl/yourself. The worst that can happen is that people say you're "immature", but it's better to be sure of being "immature" on your own than maybe "immature" in a couple. Put a condom ALL THE TIME. No matter how bad she is and even if she begs you to go raw. PUT THE GODDAMN CONDOM ON
SERIOUSLY, PUT IT ON BREH
6. Don't care what people say about what you do. Seek advice, listen to critics, but use tham as fuel for your own thoughts on what to do. If you want to do something that FEELS right, do it. Your very parents might hate you for it, but you're living YOUR life, not theirs. Another quote: "People who mind don't matter, and people who matter don't mind". It's true: if people REALLY love you, they'll love you regardless of what you do. So the people you lose along the way weren't really worth it in the beginning. And yes, that may include some of your oldest friends.
7. You WILL lose friends, so be open to making new ones.
8. Be curious. Go that exhibition you walk by, open that book with the strange cover, listen to that mixtape no one is talking about. You never know.
9. Be critical. Try to think how people from the other side of an argument think, understand their point of view. I said "understand", not "agree with it". Understand WHY some people are for the death penalty and some are against it. Always try to go deeper than the first explanation people give. Go deeper behind your OWN opinions. It will make YOU think about your position: maybe you'll change, maybe not, but either way you will now REALLY know why you have this opinion instead of another, and it will make it easier for you to actually discuss those ideas, instead of resorting to "That's just how it is/That's how WE do it/You're a -socialist-communist-traitor-terrorist-ignorant-infidel-demonic-barbaric". Seek the company of people who DO NOT have the same opinions as you have: you may learn from them, or they may learn from you. Also: question everything, especially those who "know what's right for this country/state/city/you" and those who base themselves on "moral" grounds. Politics is not about "morality", it's about politics.
10. Take time for yourself. This may contradict some of my own points, but take time off. You don't HAVE to always be working/reading/studying/partying/listening to music. Your brain needs some rest too. Allow yourself to be bored. This might sound obvious (or strange) to you now, but if you start doing stuff -even that you like- don't go into overdrive.
11. Listen to your feelings. I know in this world you gotta be "a real n***a" and a "strong man" and all of the other clichés, but you got feelings too. Don't bury them, because they don't go away: they blow up when you least expect them to. Live your life, not the life your family/friends want for you.
12. Don't take yourself seriously. Make fun of yourself. It's a sign of high intelligence, self-esteem and good understanding of yourself.
13. Laugh and smile. Really though: life is much easier that way, and it usually smiles back.
14. Respect is earned, not demanded. Act in a respectful way, and take the high road if people STILL don't respect you: you shouldn't care about them.
15. Understand that no matter what you do, some people will hate you. And not necessarily those you might think of nor for the reasons you may think of.
16. Racism exists, and goes in all directions. If you don't like racists, don't become one.
You're on the right path if you're asking for advice breh
11. If at some point between 22 – 27 you feel like you’re six years old again, lost and alone at the San Diego Zoo (it’s a big-frickin-zoo), frantically searching for a familiar face – hold tight, you’re experiencing a bit of a Quarter-Life Crisis. Stay put. Pray a lot. And in no time someone will call your name across the loud speaker to tell you where you can be found.
16. Life will never feel like it’s “supposed to”. Being twenty-something can feel like death by unmet expectations. However, let me be so brash to say that you are right now, at this moment, exactly where you need to be. But you’ll only be able to see that five years and thirty-eight days from today.
20. Great ideas alone mean nothing. Your ability to persevere through 16 major setbacks, a lack of passion, forgetting why you started this great idea in the first place, and all the people who allude that your great idea is actually quite terrible — well, that means everything.
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a business is more likely to go to someone with ground. that could be McD's, lowes, walmart, kroger...dont matter.
knowledge being dropped