What makes someone a pleaser, or a selfish lover?

[86\*/98]

I was reflecting on my past sexual exchanges and partners, and I realized the pleasers don't share the same general personality traits as the other pleasers, the same goes for the greedy women. So what makes someone tick behind closed doors?(sans a traumatic experience)

 

[KinksandCoils]

A pleaser is someone who does the things (within reason) is concerned about making sure you enjoy every bit of it. And a selfish lover to me is one who won't do things they don't like even if u want it. A selfish lover should not always be critized though. If they don't want to do something because of religious beliefs or whatever you can't really be too mad.....it's worse to have a lazy lover. The type that won't do any foreplay and just wants to just go straight to the sex every time.

 

[86\*/98]

A pleaser is someone who does the things (within reason) is concerned about making sure you enjoy every bit of it. And a selfish lover to me is one who won't do things they don't like even if u want it. A selfish lover should not always be critized though. If they don't want to do something because of religious beliefs or whatever you can't really be too mad.....it's worse to have a lazy lover. The type that won't do any foreplay and just wants to just go straight to the sex every time.

Thanks for your post, but I was looking for the coli opinions on how one comes to be a pleaser, or a selfish lover; not so much how those different types, move in the bedroom.

 

[KinksandCoils]

Thanks for your post, but I was looking for the coli opinions on how one comes to be a pleaser, or a selfish lover; not so much how those different types, move in the bedroom.

Oh sorry

 

[Marco Zen]

To me it's never been that serious to analyze. Sometimes I'm selfish, sometimes ima pleaser.

Sometimes the sex is hotter fukkin with a pleaser and the same with a selfish ho


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[Remote]

Women in general are less giving in sex because the roles are different.
By and large...

Sex is about release/dominance for men.
It's about submission for women.

 

[HoloGraphic]

They take more than they give or vice versa. Some people are naturally doms or subs. Some can switch it up tho.

I hate star fish bytches that just lay there and take it. Show some enthusiasm.

 

[YaBoy]

I'm a pleaser because hearing her moan & watching her body convulse when I'm pleasing her (whatever that may be) is just

 

[86\*/98]

To me it's never been that serious to analyze. Sometimes I'm selfish, sometimes ima pleaser.

Sometimes the sex is hotter fukkin with a pleaser and the same with a selfish ho


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No, it's not serious, I just like making educated guesses, and hearing other people do the same, on why someone moves this way, as opposed to that way.

They take more than they give or vice versa. Some people are naturally doms or subs. Some can switch it up tho.

I hate star fish bytches that just lay there and take it. Show some enthusiasm.

So you don't think that certain life experiences have any effect on how someone moves during sex, and it's all nature?

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

I'm a pleaser, I like to make my man happy, without him having to ask. But also, as @Raul said, men tend to naturally prefer to dominate, so it works out in a good balance.

Why this is the case though... I guess because in my eyes, for a relationship to be successful, you have to aim to please your partner in all aspects of life. When you find someone that shares the same ideals, it's harmonious.

 

[HoloGraphic]

So you don't think that certain life experiences have any effect on how someone moves during sex, and it's all nature?

Life experience is a part of it, most definitely. But nature is where it starts too. It's where a females initial confidence comes from.
A girl with an hourglass figure would probably WANT to use all dat ass. While a plain jane, fence post bytch would probably think 'giving him the puss and letting it happen is good enough'. Her life experiences start with her body and her self image.

Inexperience can be the reason why a girl freaks out or holds it in also. Sex is the art of giving.
Experience makes it much hotter when she know how to control a man and fukk you back. So I don't mind that a girl has had partners before me.



Some girls are very about their first experiences, but want your love and attention. I don't got time for that. I know a chick like this at work, shes a 3/10 snow bunny with a bf out of town. 99.9% sure she's a virgin. (only cause she hasn't told me for sure, but I know she is) She's telling me how much she likes me and gets mad when I don't text her back or show her affection. She is inexperienced and doesn't know that her feelings for me are connected to her unbloomed flower.

Should I penetrate and make her a woman? I hardly think she's worth the effort even for that tight tight.
I'm looking at another starfish situation, with an ugly chick who is going to catch feelings, snitch to her bf and make work awkward.

Am I a pleaser or selfish by sharing my experience points with her and leveling her up?

 

[innocentdevil]

Selfless people outside of the bedroom tend to be pleasers in the bedroom....also someone that has a submissive personality are likely to be pleasers

I think anyone that has an ego are most likely to be selfish lovers because they think you are there to please them and that's it

 

[DreadHead P]

if we talking sex, if they can without being concerned whether their partner came they are selfish

 

[1thouwow]

It's the only time I let my girl come first