We Never Get Over Our Traumas

[Hathaway]

We never do. Addictions. Traumatic experiences. Some of us learn to tap into our inner strength and overcome these things but they never go away.

Addicts. Those who manage to overcome addictions are never truly free from it. They still have cravings. They just learn how to resist. I met a woman who told me she was a thief for 15 years but she found Christ and became a missionary. One of the sweetest women I ever met. I could never see her as a thief. But I never left anything valuable around her. I never expected her to steal from me but just the thought that those feelings could resurface kept me weary.

Traumatic experiences. We fall victim to them mentally and psychologically. Develop bad habits from them. Develop addictions from them. But many of us learn to grow past them. But we never heal from that trauma. Never. I never understood that. How someone could say they were molested by their father for 7 years but they found healing from that. How? How can that hurt and pain ever go away? I understand that time can soften some of those wounds but that hurt will never fade. Maybe some people are just stronger than I am.

I tried to "heal" and "let go" of my past traumas and addictions but I found it to be impossible. You just learn to cope with it and not let it overtake you.

 

[get these nets]

OP
If the human body can heal from severe illness and broken bones, why couldn't the psyche recover from traumatic experience?

 

[RickyDiBiase]

I live with the shame of inflicting trauma onto others everyday. Even as a man of the lord, I feel like my actions and deeds onto others will be the reason I will stand before the almighty as a weak man. Due diligence brehs, you don’t owe those who’ve done you harm forgiveness

 

[JasoRockStar]

We never do "get over" traumas. When you "get over" something, you return back to the way you were before the incident ever happened. For example, say that your partner cheated on you in the past and you're now able to trust in her fully, not get insecure when she has male friends, not have your mind race when she's late coming home, not feeling temptation to check her phone.

I would call that getting over your past traumas. But if you have to adjust the way you do things, the way you think, the way you view the world around you; you just simply learned from the trauma. You didn't get over it because it's still influencing the person you are today. It's baked into your being and you can't separate from it.

 

[Fiji Water]

Depends what you mean by "get over". You can definitely accept reality and walk your path with less baggage. Everything casts a shadow and you've got to integrate it, not deny it.

 

[lurker emeritus]

be mentally weak brehs

 

[Huda2daf]

I live with the shame of inflicting trauma onto others everyday. Even as a man of the lord, I feel like my actions and deeds onto others will be the reason I will stand before the almighty as a weak man. Due diligence brehs, you don’t owe those who’ve done you harm forgiveness

You say this as a man of the lord?

 

[Wildhundreds]

Everyone breathing is dealing with something.. Some are just better than others in dealing with it.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

You say this as a man of the lord?

Being a follower of the lord is already in itself one of contradiction in of itself my breh in Christ. Its in the bible.

 

[CopiousX]

be mentally weak brehs

 

[RareHunter]

I live with the shame of inflicting trauma onto others everyday. Even as a man of the lord, I feel like my actions and deeds onto others will be the reason I will stand before the almighty as a weak man. Due diligence brehs, you don’t owe those who’ve done you harm forgiveness

We do owe forgiveness my brother. Even the breh you are responding to must forgive. (Ignore the fact the words are bolded. Idk why it’s bolded and won’t leave).​

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Ephesians 4:31-32​

31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.
32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Matthew 6:14-15​

14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins

Luke 22:34
13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Luke 17:3-4​

3 So watch yourselves. “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.
4 Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”


Matthew 5:22
judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall. say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

 

[Stuntone]

Op is right. It's not neccesarily a bad thing. Doesn't mean it will ruin your life going forward, but it will effect your thinking. Your traumas and triumphs are part of your DNA and some get passed down to your seeds. Just like some animals come out the womb running for the lives. It's coded in them. Their parents passed it down to them. If your parents live a chaotic life, you will come out built to survive in a chaotic world. Doesn't mean you will live in one.

Everything good and bad that happens to you is pretty much like a sentence or chapter in your personal book of life. It all is part of you. Every scar mentally and physically. People like to believe they get past certain events, but it's not true. Lying to yourself makes it way worse in the long run.

 

[semicko82]

Agree with OP.

 

[Wildhundreds]

Op is right. Your traumas and triumphs are part of your DNA and some get passed down to your seeds. Just like some animals come out the womb running for the lives. It's coded in them. Their parents passed it down to them. If your parents live a chaotic life, you will come out built to survive in a chaotic world. Doesn't mean you will live in one.

Everything good and bad that happens to you is pretty much like a sentence or chapter in your personal book of life. It all is part of you. Every scar mentally and physically. People like to believe they get past certain events, but it's not true. Lying to yourself makes it way worse in the long run.

Certain events make people who they currently are, good or bad. I seen people in here quoting bible verses, and the story of Joseph confronting his brothers who threw him into captivity. Telling them what they meant for evil, it turned out to be for the good because he eventually saved the entire nation if Israel from famine..

Only when you can confront your trauma, and talk about it with no guilt, is when you truly delivered from it.. At that point you're no longer "lying" to yourself because you've over came it without holding any grudges.

 

[Hathaway]

OP
If the human body can heal from severe illness and broken bones, why couldn't the psyche recover from traumatic experience?

The mind is another animal. It's more fragile than the body. You can have a person who is in the best shape of their life physically but if their mind is gone, how strong are they really?