The PEDO topic is CLEAR...YET very decisive. How DID (or do) you navigate these waters as an adult?

[DatNkkaCutty]

These were my guidelines and the way I moved, comin up (with reasoning)...

First and foremost...I always had a thing against older nggas messin w/ younger females comin up. I remember hangin at the park as a teen (where everyone congregated) to hoop, fight, or pop shyt. Females hangin at the park crazy too, cuz that's where all the dudes were at. This is where...I first started seein older nggas (grown ass men) hollerin at our young (impressionable) counterparts...

My immediate thought...."This ngga must be a clown...and can't pull bytches his own age..."

I'm 14/15...already imagining, how I can't wait to knock down big titty...big booty older bytches...

WTF would you want wit a young ass broad when you could have older jawns. We didn't have that option at our age...
So logic told me...these nggas gotta be lames.

That always stuck w/ me. I was always a little taller...w/ some facial hair, early...so I was always baggin females, somewhat older than me, or around my age. The only gray area I saw...was around age 18....

Personally...I dealt w/ a couple females that were 17 (a year younger than me). Might've spoke to one or two around the age of 16...but never hit. We might refer to now, as "grooming" at the time.

Everything else was older tho...and those were the ones, I was infatuated with pipin.

Nonetheless...I would've been considered an adult at 18, where I'm at. I'm certain...I knew dudes talkin to females as young as 15-16 at that age...with "no fux given" about hittin a 16 yr old...

Fast forward...by 19-21...everything was my age...definitely older. By this point...you can definitely (physically too) tell the difference, between a young adult and a chick thats HS, or college age. I'm not even entertaining anything questionable at this point, nor have the desire to be around younger hoes...

From this point forward...is where you begin to see the seperation, amongst dudes...

I'm hittin females in their 20s...and grown ass women, while some nggas I see, are still entertaining younger hoes...

It's usually the same couple scenarios. The ngga usually got nothin goin on of substance...only small trinkets...young bytches would be impressed by. A car but no crib...more access to drugs and alcohol...more experience. Usually no mouthpiece...and can't pull older hoes. Young thots...fall for anything.

I know some older dudes are attracted to younger females...but the H.S. to college-age crowd (even young-mid 20s ((for me...I'm early 30s)), if that's all your really pullin) is suspect status...

Young hoes throw it all day (as an older handsome breh). I'm flattered...but I'd never entertain, takin it down. I would've felt ashamed at 19-20, to show up to a crib...and see peers my age or older, and I'm knockin down a lil sister or cousin... Nggas are weirdos.

Be attracted to H.S. built bytches...when theres full grown stallions out here you inadequate...insecure fakkit...

 

[Loose]

Even at 17 I couldnt rock with 14 year olds. I can't imagine it as a fully grown ass man

 

[DatNkkaCutty]

A grown man is the extreme weirdo case...but exactly. I felt funny, even at that age...when there was barely an age/maturity gap...

 

[Doctor Wily]

These were my guidelines and the way I moved, comin up (with reasoning)...

First and foremost...I always had a thing against older nggas messin w/ younger females comin up. I remember hangin at the park as a teen (where everyone congregated) to hoop, fight, or pop shyt. Females at the park like crazy too, cuz that's where all the boys/men were at. This is where...I first started seein older nggas (grown ass men) hollerin at our young (impressionable) counterparts...

My immediate thought...."This ngga must be lame...and can't pull bytches his own age..."

I'm 14/15...already imagining, how I can't wait to knock down big titty...big booty older bytches...

So that always stuck w/ me. I was always a little taller...w/ some facial hair, early...so I was always baggin females, somewhat older than me, or around my age. The only gray area I saw...was around age 18....

Personally...I dealt w/ a couple females that were 17 (a year younger than me). Might've spoke to one or two around the age of 16...but never hit. We might refer to now, as "grooming" at the time.

Everything else was older tho...and those were the ones, I was infatuated with pipin.

Nonetheless...I would've been considered an adult at 18, where I'm at. I'm certain...I knew dudes talkin to females as young as 15-16 at that age...with "no fux given" about hittin a 16 yr old...

Fast forward...by 19-21...everything was my age...definitely older. By this point...you can definitely (physically too) tell the difference, between a young adult and a chick thats HS, or college age. I'm not even entertaining anything questionable at this point, nor have the desire to be around younger hoes...

From this point forward...is where you begin to see the seperation, amongst dudes...

I'm hittin females in their 20s...and grown ass women, while some nggas I see, are still entertaining younger hoes...

It's usually the same couple scenarios. The ngga usually got nothin goin on of substance...only small trinkets...young bytches would be impressed by. A car but no crib...more access to drugs and alcohol...more experience. Usually no mouthpiece...and can't pull older hoes. Young thots...fall for anything.

I know some older dudes are attracted to younger females...but the H.S. to college-age crowd (even young-mid 20s for me...I'm early 30s) is suspect status...

Young hoes throw it all day (as an older handsome breh). I'm flattered...but I'd never entertain, takin it down. I would've felt ashamed at 19-20, to show up to a crib...and see peers my age or older, and I'm knockin down a lil sister or cousin... Nggas are weirdos.

Be attracted to H.S. built bytches...when theres full grown stallions out here you inadequate...insecure fakkit...

Easy cause I was knocking down more p*ssy in my 14-17 years than i did from 18-30.

I experienced what I needed to experience and moved on , & never looked back. However I've been way more active and knocking down chicks in thier 20s 30, 40s the last 8 years than I did in my teens and 20s combined.

I was too busy chasing a check to worry about young p*ssy like that.

 

[BlackDiBiase]

i'll you what at 35 i would be ashamed to be with a 21 year old. but lets be real, that would be trilllll

 

[murksiderock]

The spectrum is fuzzy around 18, here's my take:

18 year olds aren't full developed mentally or physically you don't automatically level up in maturity the day you turn 18, alot, if not most, of your peers are still under 18, the things you enjoy still cater to a mostly under-18 crowd. You can be 18 and as long as a chick is high school age (14), I dont really have an issue with you messing with her. 14-17, that's not a reach if you're 18...

So the whole "18 is grown" culture we have here is bullshyt to me, nobody over 25 views them as grown, and rightfully so. Lotta 18 year olds are still in high school, and me personally I dont hold an 18 year old accountable for adult decisions or behavior because they aren't adults...

To me, I think most people see a slight bump in maturity in their age-19 year. Its significant enough to see a shift, but not this grandiose leap. We gotta remember 19 year olds are still teenagers. Lotta their social circle is still teenagers too...

19 year olds should be moving away from high school shyt but I'm not tripping if a 19-year old is messing with a girl in high school. Now, 14 is too young, there is a major gap from 14 to 19, and maybe 15 is really too young too. But 16 or 17, that's high school age and I'm not tripping about that...

No 19 year old should be waiting around the school for last bell to get the girls though. That is odd. I knew this 19-year old from the area who was digging out my 16-year old homegirl way back. Only funny thing I'll say is him posting up at the high school, but 16 to 19, I dont really have a problem with that...

20 and your early 20s does become different. Lotta 20-year olds are entering their junior year in college studies,your peer group has changed to mainly being of people out of high school now. I still think it's a little bit of a gray area and is circumstantial. You're only just now not a teenager, alot of your peers are still teenagers, and there are 17-year olds starting freshman year at college. Youre only 3 years older than her and she's in college, you not supposed to be attracted to her?

So 17 is game for me if I'm looking at a 20-year old. Even if they in high school, provided you didn't meet the chick by preying on high school girls (that's why I say its circumstantial, no 20 year old should be hanging with high schoolers or posted up waiting for school to let out)....but if you meet the 17-year old in some other circumstance, I'm not really tripping...

I have two daughters, 2 and 1, and I could completely change as a person between now and then, but if my 17-year old daughter met some 20-year old in a situation where dude wasn't lurking high schools, and the young man had a good thing going for himself, I wouldn't be opposed to it, but he'd have to check every box. Because again, the possibility exists that my 17-year old daughter could be in college and I'm not about to tell her to not be attracted to college age dudes, or that they shouldn't be attracted to her...

21 is a grey area too, I'd lump it in with 20. Exception being I'm not approving no 21-year old dating my high school daughter, he too far removed. But 21 still be around mad teenagers and you're on your last leg of teenage tendencies. If he's dating a high schooler she better not be younger than 17, I wouldn't like that for my daughter but if it was another guy/girl I wouldn't think it's ridiculous...

Age-22 year is when I notice the major shift from most things teenage to adulthood. So I don't consider anybody an adult until they 22. And obviously I'm not a scientist and everyone matures a little differently, but I'd say 22 is the big leap. Lotta collegiate kids graduate at 22, most people face their first adult responsibilities that year (not living with paid for housing or guardians or other support), and your peer group at 22 is pretty much no teenagers...

22 is massively different from high school and anybody 22 and older lurking for high schoolers is undisputedly a pedo, because even if high school girl is 18, she still has the characteristics of a high schooler. That's a no for me...

If she 18 and not in high school we pass, but anyone in high school is off limits 100%...

 

[Family Lives Matter]

I'm 30 years old I'm not fukking with a woman under 26.

People who want young girls are fukking weirdos

 

[Tflasha]

Got a 32 yr old homie getting played by a 19yr old as we speak

 

[JackRoss]

Got a 32 yr old homie getting played by a 19yr old as we speak

The game has passed him

It happens to the best of us

 

[murksiderock]

So for myself, I was locked up 17-20...

When i got outta prison, first women I messed with were 25, 21, and 18; my first year out I was 20. There was a girl who lied and told me she was 16 or 17, turned out to be 14 (almost 15 if I recall correctly, but again she told me she was 16 going on 17, which woulda made her barely three years younger than me), I found out and just casually bushed her, didn't make a big deal about it, stopped hearing from her after a few days. Heard she was pregnant like a year later...

I didn't have the developed thoughts I have now at that time, and yes, I did feel funny talking to a (what I thought) 16-year old. So she wasn't a focal point or someone I really pursued, me at that age i probably woulda hit her if it came down to it, but I wasn't flaunting it or chasing her and she certainly wasn't the only chick I was talking to...

When I found out she was 14 it changed everything and couldn't keep talking to her...

Also when I was 20 the 18 year old I messed with, had a 16-year old niece, who was a dropout, had a daughter already (with like a 25-year old), and hung around us. I didn't talk to her but had an almost-threesome with them---->got them to kiss, sucked her titties before they came to they conclusion shyt was incest...

So yes, at that age I probably woulda hit, and I knew she was 16, but at 20 that didn't seem inappropriate considering she wasn't even in school and already hanging with grown people...

So that was my age 20 year, I remember this 40-something chick liked me but couldn't bring herself to really give it to me, and in retrospect I see why. Imagine being 45 and fukking a 20-year old. Not happening...

@DatNkkaCutty I feel you on the age thing. I don't consider anyone an adult until 22, so anything under that is kinda off limits to me, but I do and have noticed the scale changes the older you get. Most women date and prefer older men, and while there's a huge gap from 17 to 22, once someone hits the late 20s, 26-27 or so, the maturity gap lessens, particularly considering women mature faster than men, and mature more rapidly when they get outta high school...

So while I wouldn't favor it for myself, if I see a 24 year old woman with a 37 year old guy, it isn't the worst thing...

I don't really desire to be with a woman younger than '93 (unless it's my daughter's mom), that chick would be 26 now. And that's the youngest, because I've found there is too much I DON'T have in common with women who didn't grow up in the same bracket as me. '93 would be the youngest, '92 is more the line though because a woman born in '92 is the youngest age I woulda been in high school with, so we woulda been more or less brought up in the same atmosphere and era...

I also go 3-4 years older than me tops, as far as the women I would pursue fir a relationship. Because those would be the women I have most in common with, it's about finding comparability. If she was born before '85 i can't see it, if she was born after '93 I can't see it...

Now I'm not saying I wouldn't smash a young lady older or younger than that, but that's not the ideal relationship I'm looking for, she'd have to be literally spectacular to make me reconsider my 8-year window...

 

[aXiom]

Y’all nikkas on some other shyt.. jumping through hoops trying to label men as weirdos for something that’s natural.. that is.. being attracted to a younger woman.. that’s literally what our brains are wired to do.. sort out the optimal female candidate to reproduce with..

I’m 33.. anything 21+ is game.. should i turn her down so I’m not labeled as a weirdo by nikkas who don’t get p*ssy anyway?

If you have a daughter, or younger female relatives do right by them and put them up on game early.. the best you can hope for is that they listen to you and have their priorities in order when they get to that age.. that’s all you can do.. but these chicks out here fukking.. you can either fukk them, whine about other nikkas fukking them, or just keep it moving.. one of these 3 things requires the least of amount of energy..

Worrying about what other nikkas do with their dikks... gatekeeping p*ssy is what’s hot now? the fukk raised you nikkas?

 

[DatNkkaCutty]

You can be 18 and as long as a chick is high school age (14), I dont really have an issue with you messing with her. 14-17, that's not a reach if you're 18...

 

[BrothaZay]

If you can actually be in a full relationship with someone born the next decade after you, you're a weirdo

 

[murksiderock]

I don't see that as a reach, bro. It's not ideal but 18 you still think and act like a teenager, still have teenage social circle...

For the record, I didn't know 18-year olds messing with 14-year olds, but I know it happens and I'm not really tripping on that...

 

[Ain't That Something]

fukk all that shyt. If she 18 and legal play ball