I'm hardly worthy of giving advice but remember there's a difference between "letting things go" and "letting go"
letting things go = hakuna matata, don't worry be happy
letting go = stop caring about yourself, and creating an aura of hostility around you on some "fukk the world" thing
-how would a girl be chasing after you if you never put yourself in a position to interact with anyone?
-how would you ever be happy about yourself if you help yourself?
and if this is truly about girls then shame on you. they are pretty stupid tbh, even the smart ones.
example: have this casual thing with a girl, she goes completely cold on me. have read about this before, they just get a shiny toy and move along. today i see an uncharacteristic whiny tumblr post about her "friend" not come over to comfort her after a problem or whatever - you know where this goes. and like clockwork, so shameless
later she's messaging me out of the blue carrying on as if this were _ months ago. if I relied on someone else like that i'd have a. been a wreck after she stopped being so friendly b. would get played running back to how things were before
cant let someone else validate how you feel about yourself breh