There is this house or this emotion known as anger, and Its seemingly attractive to most who happen to pass by. The attraction it can have on the mind can be likened to the attraction of a warm flaky apple pie with an aroma that gives off a tingly cinnamon spice sensation to the nostrils of a person with a sweet tooth and a love for spicy food. 9 out of 10 times that person will enter that house and inquire of that apple pie. And I admit, Im amongst the many who is no stranger to that sweet tooth and I do happen to have a serious love for spicy food too..
For some time I had made the house of anger my dwelling place and the effort to leave seemed to be energy wasted I remained. The door appeared to be locked sort of speak. So I searched all over for a key and eventually found one, but it was a fake it was a toy key and was ultimately useless I constantly felt aroused to anger. From there on I decided to try and find out for myself whats involved in the houses make up so that I may best make an exit
The house of anger can be said to involve the thought of being offended with a desire to retaliate or provoke in some form. Usually when someone is angry they are not just angry, but are angry with something or someone. Theres an association or an extension that takes place. One may associate their anger to an object like a wall or table by hitting it or something like that. Or one puts his anger on to someone else, thereby in most cases exciting anger in another. Which means essentially exciting the spirit of violence in another. A domino effect would not be far reaching to say the least, you put your anger on him, he puts his anger on her, and she puts hers on another and so on setting off a chain of similar events. Doesnt this aspect alone show that being consumed in anger can really cause unfavorable disruption in a persons life and others?
Many of us know the answer to this question. We are aware of how disturbing anger is, but regardless there are people who are frequently making a visit to that house. They are easily excited. Functioning there has become an uncontrollable habit for them. They move through life constantly being upset, conflicting with this or that and are hardly ever at ease. So how is one to deal with such a disturbance? Can it be dealt with by enforcing the will to be kind, peaceful or whatever else? Enforcing will only suppress anger. The anger will still be there, just suppressed operating under the radar. Suppressing or enforcing the will is questionable as to whether itll deeply solve anything.
An effective way of dealing with anger involves braking the point of association. To isolate it, that is, to be consciously aware of the sensation of being angry, to watch the thought without association. This comes about when one sees that anger can only survive if it is associated with something (whether its with oneself, others, a wall ect.) When a person realizes that the house of anger needs an occupant to work on it or else it otherwise withers away, they are likely to pack their bags and vacate the house.
Realizing this is the challenge, although it doesnt have to be. It is only a challenge when one is lacking a deep seated intent to be free of the hold of anger (Not to suppress it, or willing to be generous or anything like that). Lacking the intent for a lot of us is common; for I may feel that anger has a way of causing unfavorable disruption but am just too lazy to do anything about it. Or, I may simply think nothing of the effects of anger, as if its nothing to be cautioned seriously its a normal thing.
Although not all anger is to be cautioned as something extremely terrible.. It should be properly handled regardless, that is, handled in the sense of being noticed or watched. For It is liable to be very disruptive when its the other way around .whenever anger has a handle on you; whenever you are bound inside the house of anger.
Source: The House of Anger | Healthy Arousal
For some time I had made the house of anger my dwelling place and the effort to leave seemed to be energy wasted I remained. The door appeared to be locked sort of speak. So I searched all over for a key and eventually found one, but it was a fake it was a toy key and was ultimately useless I constantly felt aroused to anger. From there on I decided to try and find out for myself whats involved in the houses make up so that I may best make an exit
The house of anger can be said to involve the thought of being offended with a desire to retaliate or provoke in some form. Usually when someone is angry they are not just angry, but are angry with something or someone. Theres an association or an extension that takes place. One may associate their anger to an object like a wall or table by hitting it or something like that. Or one puts his anger on to someone else, thereby in most cases exciting anger in another. Which means essentially exciting the spirit of violence in another. A domino effect would not be far reaching to say the least, you put your anger on him, he puts his anger on her, and she puts hers on another and so on setting off a chain of similar events. Doesnt this aspect alone show that being consumed in anger can really cause unfavorable disruption in a persons life and others?
Many of us know the answer to this question. We are aware of how disturbing anger is, but regardless there are people who are frequently making a visit to that house. They are easily excited. Functioning there has become an uncontrollable habit for them. They move through life constantly being upset, conflicting with this or that and are hardly ever at ease. So how is one to deal with such a disturbance? Can it be dealt with by enforcing the will to be kind, peaceful or whatever else? Enforcing will only suppress anger. The anger will still be there, just suppressed operating under the radar. Suppressing or enforcing the will is questionable as to whether itll deeply solve anything.
An effective way of dealing with anger involves braking the point of association. To isolate it, that is, to be consciously aware of the sensation of being angry, to watch the thought without association. This comes about when one sees that anger can only survive if it is associated with something (whether its with oneself, others, a wall ect.) When a person realizes that the house of anger needs an occupant to work on it or else it otherwise withers away, they are likely to pack their bags and vacate the house.
Realizing this is the challenge, although it doesnt have to be. It is only a challenge when one is lacking a deep seated intent to be free of the hold of anger (Not to suppress it, or willing to be generous or anything like that). Lacking the intent for a lot of us is common; for I may feel that anger has a way of causing unfavorable disruption but am just too lazy to do anything about it. Or, I may simply think nothing of the effects of anger, as if its nothing to be cautioned seriously its a normal thing.
Although not all anger is to be cautioned as something extremely terrible.. It should be properly handled regardless, that is, handled in the sense of being noticed or watched. For It is liable to be very disruptive when its the other way around .whenever anger has a handle on you; whenever you are bound inside the house of anger.
Source: The House of Anger | Healthy Arousal