Spending money on a date and not smashing is a L, but can it be a W in the end?

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I've been thinking about this, and I get it. Dudes dropping $70 on a female and he get ghosted, while the guy prior smashed for free. Hurts the ego when the man is eating desert and leftovers.


I wouldn't pay for dates all the time. But then I thought, hell, that $70 possibly saved me a lifetime headache. Finding love already ain't easy, but if $70 is all I need to know if a woman, that's a small fee.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

with your same logic, couldn’t you know if a woman is worth your time for free?

 

[Neuromancer]

with your same logic, couldn’t you know if a woman is worth your time for free?

Probably. You'd have to define worth and then determine if a woman has that before you even got to a date.

 

[Piff Perkins]

Easy: your dates should be stuff you want to do anyway and not contingent on the other person. For instance if you take a date to your favorite restaurant, or the best restaurant in town, you're going to enjoy yourself no matter what. Too much of dating is focused entirely on the other person but shyt works a lot better if you view dates as an excuse to do things you enjoy.

 

[OperationNumbNutts]

Some of my best experiences were on free dates like walking in a park. The food dude is a real phenomenon.

 

[Concerned Citizen]

In the grand scheme $70 isn’t a lot of money at all but I’m an old married nikka so I don’t know what kind of cadence you young bulls are on because it can add up over multiple girls through the months. In my optioning the best bet is not approaching ransoms only some chick you already have some foundation of familiarity with them weed them out from there. I’d want to know a woman prior to spending $70 on her not spend $70 to get to know her.

My future wife and I went to a comic book store and a record store on our first “date” but had been just hanging out and talking like actual people prior to it. I got her an album she wanted and she got me a couple of comics I was interested in. This was was like 2005 though and the times were a lot less demonic then.

 

[ViShawn]

You may find a cool spot or try something then realize you may not like it. Not every date ends in smashing.

 

[VertigoKnight]

I find these days the easiest way is just meet for a coffee or go for a walk. That way there is no pressure on either side.

If the whole idea is to see if you and this other person have chemistry face to face it shouldn't take $70 and you may realise in person you don't actually want to smash. The chemistry could be off.

If a chick gets her back up about not being taken for dinner or expensive drinks. Then you've probably dodged a bullet. And saved money. What is eating food going to prove to you both that a coffee and no pressure won't?

 

[In The Zone '98]

Go on an early date, so you can hit your rotation if it doesn't work out.

 

[2 one 3]

I’m suppose to go to sizzler today on a lunch date

 

[International Playa]

I prefer activity dates with some cocktails. Alcohol helps lubricate to slide the panties off


Less pressure & fun environment.

 

[MoveForward]

Imagine spending $10k on an engagement ring, $30k+ on a wedding, and, having a kid or two. During this marriage: You’ve purchased a home that you pay a lion share of the bills for, you’re still paying for dates, birthday gifts, V Day gifts, Christmas gifts, anniversary gifts, random gifts, a trip or two every year while still getting the same ole tired p*ssy with the same moves she has been using since the first time y’all fukked.

You’ve also gotten to watch her get fat and age this process. Also, contrary to the lies these bytches like to tell, that p*ssy gets looser after a couple of kids, so that once tight box, ain’t even gripping like it used to. Then after 5 or 10 years this bytch wakes up and decides she wants a divorce. Now you lose your biggest asset and have to move into an apartment, all of those gifts, dates, and trips is money down the drain. As a matter of fact, that nice Tiffany necklace and charm that you bought is going to be tickling the next nikkas balls that she met off of a dating app while she tops him off during your divorce proceedings.

Well atleast I got my kids out of the deal… Nah nikka, this separation was your fault, the kids low key hate you fam. They will only call you when they need shyt and when you say no, throw the divorce in your face. Any bad decision that they make will now be because “you didn’t treat mom right” and couldn’t spend enough time with them. They dgaf that you give their mom $10k+ in child support every year.

Had you invested the money that you’ve spent during this relationship into a mutual fund, you’d literally be a millionaire.

Dating is a lot cheaper. I recommend that you keep dating and spending that lil $70 every now and then for a date. It’s rare that you don’t end up fukking a chick that you take on a couple of dates. Learn how to date affordably, take her to a Mexican spot for tacos and margs, hibachi, meet at the gym one day, do a wine tasting for two, sip and paint, let’s go meet up and shoot pool. You have to ebb and flow how you spend your money. Save the big date for after you fukk… Women just like to be out and few even know about expensive restaurants.

 

[Scaaar]

Easy: your dates should be stuff you want to do anyway and not contingent on the other person. For instance if you take a date to your favorite restaurant, or the best restaurant in town, you're going to enjoy yourself no matter what. Too much of dating is focused entirely on the other person but shyt works a lot better if you view dates as an excuse to do things you enjoy.

That's the exact approach to take. I find it weird how dudes are too focused on what the next mad did or didn't do. At this point y'all are better off asking him on the date and comparing notes. It's obvious that you're not focused on the female in front of you lol

 

[Roger king]

If a man can control his lust he has won half the battle already, sexual discipline is critical

 

[Commish]

OP..

I personally don't agree with the title of your thread...

First, if your reason for taking a woman out is to smash, but don't smash, then perhaps it is an L for you..

But, taking a woman out and not smashing isn't necessarily an L...

A lot of things to consider..

For me, when I met my lady, she actually paid for the date. I attempted to pay, but she insisted on paying. However, I didn't come to the date empty handed. I brought her a gift as a nice gesture and a token of my appreciation.

Now, what I did to this woman wasn't done with other women, so don't take it as this being standard when I meet and greet women...

Another thing..

Some men don't have the intention of smashing every woman they meet. Some men have discipline. Some men need to know if said woman is worth dealing with before smashing..

It comes down to intent..

If your intention is sincere and genuine, then there is a good chance that the outcome will be good. If not, then the outcome may not be good...

Food for thought..