Speak on this situation and tell me your thoughts

[Mr210]

my girl tells me about some guy she used to work with a few years ago hitting her up on facebook, asking her what she was up to, etc. He also asked if she was married. She says she is doing good, that she isnt married, but with someone that she loves and wants to marry. His response is "oh ok I guess good for you....it should have been me" or something to that like. She asked me why men are like that and i explained it to her. Anyways she tells me all this and then says she deleted his message and when i asked she says he hasnt tried to hit her up again.

however; when i look at her facebook( i have a dummy account) i can see her friends list and she added him that day. Why would she add him if they arent and werent ever good friends and after he pretty much told you he had feelings for you. She didnt tell me she added him, I want to confront her, but a few months back she found out I was snooping.

should I just let it go....I mean i can see when she adds friends because it shows up on her wall which is the only thing public

 

[Born2BKing]

my girl tells me about some guy she used to work with a few years ago hitting her up on facebook, asking her what she was up to, etc. He also asked if she was married. She says she is doing good, that she isnt married, but with someone that she loves and wants to marry. His response is "oh ok I guess good for you....it should have been me" or something to that like. She asked me why men are like that and i explained it to her. Anyways she tells me all this and then says she deleted his message and when i asked she says he hasnt tried to hit her up again.

however; when i look at her facebook( i have a dummy account) i can see her friends list and she added him that day. Why would she add him if they arent and werent ever good friends and after he pretty much told you he had feelings for you. She didnt tell me she added him, I want to confront her, but a few months back she found out I was snooping.

should I just let it go....I mean i can see when she adds friends because it shows up on her wall which is the only thing public

Hmm I would probably check her for adding him to be honest. She might have done it before he confessed his feelings. Either way, you may share that girl.

 

[ROFL_GUY]

"that shoulda been me"

got her intigued and thinkin enough that she added him..

advice:

 

[TheNig]

I would confront her and when she pulls the "you don't trust me" gig. Just say "what's your point". That shyt shuts females down everytime.

 

[intruder]

Nothing wrong with having an ex in yout FB friends list.


My facebook page is full of exes. Some i still have feelings for. Some i dont. Some in relationships. Some still single.

The key is self control... which i dont always have... but those that have a man i make sure to respect their relationships and just keep my distance. Nothing wrong with saying hello every once in a while. But gotta make sure you restrict your conversations to certain topics.

Not saying i wouldnt smash those that are in relationships cause i have BUT i let THEM initiate it.

 

[dr. pill biden]

He probably added her first so he could reconnect and send her a message to get at her. Most people accept people they know or knew in real life. Not that deep.

 

[Regular_P]

You're about to share that girl. Time to move on.

 

[Sharp]

listen, you messed up a little bit, but you can get back in track.

Never ever allow a woman to talk to you about another dude. She didn't want the answer to that question. She wanted to know if u would get mad and to gauge if she could remain friends with him without tripping.

You should have told her, why are you talking to me about another dude? Dont entertain women when they do that. You should have checked her so that he never feels comfortable talkin about an ex or any dude around u. Then you should have followed up by, "I hope I guys aren't friends or still in contact, especially if want this relationship to work"

You can still pull it off, but u can't let her know u snooped. tell her that last line and watch how she moves. Then check back a day or two later to see if she removed him. If she didn't remove him, u have to discipline her. This means she is blatantly disrespecting you by going against your wishes.

 

[Mr210]

He probably added her first so he could reconnect and send her a message to get at her. Most people accept people they know or knew in real life. Not that deep.

nope because she has several pics of me on her facebook and when she told me about it i assumed he was already on her friends list so when i asked her well didnt he know you were already in a relationship....she responded he wasnt on my friends list he just messaged me. so that tells me she added him after he sent the message