Not my exwife breh.... fukk that chick, besides giving me my kids.
So there may be a custody battle brewing....
- Thread starter Steve Piffler
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She's just scared that he'll be away and exposed to things she doesn't approve of. I think most mothers feel that way about their kids when they are still small children.
Just mention to her that she should consider making the boys share a room until she can get enough money to buy a bigger place.
Just mention to her that she should consider making the boys share a room until she can get enough money to buy a bigger place.
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on top of all the sentimental feelings that came from her having my first born, I think one thing that is making it tough is the fact that she is the baddest I've ever had. Looks, body, and swag are on some
shyt. We actually only split up a little over a month ago so everything is still relatively fresh. I ain't gon sit here and front like I've completely moved on from her because then I'd just be lying to myself. I'm all good UNTIL I see her, especially when she be lookin fine as hell and then I get a lil down and depressed but I'm pretty sure that's normal 
it'll go away soon enough..and on the 'moving wiser' tip. mane, i COULDN'T HAVE BEEN more cautious. i'm 27...TWENTY SEVEN! and I've got one child...I've been smart about it, but I'll admit that I could have been smarter about this one. my judgment was thrown in the bushes
because I was blinded by the sex and lust, straight up...sex was on some other worldly incredible type shyt 
and we BOTH "fell in love" in a short time. looking back, i was "in lust" more than anything...but hey, what happened, happened...gotta live with it and do what i gotta do 
i learned my lesson though for real...until meagan good comes around, i'm not going back down that road again. gotta get back to myself and 
on these hoes 
MooseMouthMthafuga
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on top of all the sentimental feelings that came from her having my first born, I think one thing that is making it tough is the fact that she is the baddest I've ever had. Looks, body, and swag are on some
and on the 'moving wiser' tip. mane, i COULDN'T HAVE BEEN more cautious. i'm 27...TWENTY SEVEN! and I've got one child...I've been smart about it, but I'll admit that I could have been smarter about this one. my judgment was thrown in the bushes
It's better when they move on to the next dude.To me, it's worst when they stay single after the break up because they tend to get lonely, horny, broke etc and wanna rebound back to you.That just prolongs the madness and stresses you the fukk out.
I'd rather have the reality of me and her being a item shattered right away.When me and my baby moms first split, that first month was horrible.I was thinking "maybe we can work it out" and we kept pulling on each other, just causing more pain.
But when she met her new dude, It was better for the both of us.It's a lot easier to get over her once you go over to her crib and see another buff back nikka walking around looking all cozy and shyt with his shirt off and house slippers on.
I just focused on stacking paper and working out.After a while, you'll probably start to feel like you dodged a bullet.Especially when her new boyfriend pops up at your house one day like " She's a crazy, unappreciative bytch
"...........
But that's just my story
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I just focused on stacking paper and working out.After a while, you'll probably start to feel like you dodged a bullet.Especially when her new boyfriend pops up at your house one day like " She's a crazy, unappreciative bytch
"this shyt right here nikka, this shyt right here, this shyt is the truth nikka"
i fukked up though in the sense that, while me and baby mama ain't run in the same circle, our circles were like
TheBigBopper
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christ, and men still want to get married 
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Of The World, Craig!
christ, and men still want to get married
Eh..it's an intriguing situation honestly. Everybody, men and women, will ALL feel like getting married and settling down at SOME point in their lives. There is an infinite amount of constantly changing variables that influence how you feel and think about something at any given moment. (that notion can be applied to a lot more than just marriage as well)
Honestly, it wasn't that long ago when I was the "Man, I'm not ever gonna settle down and get married." and "I don't ever want kids, that ain't for me" guy. Then those "changing variables" I mentioned came in to play and my thought process changed completely and I was convinced that I wanted to settle down and have a family. I've realized it, came to terms with and accepted the fact that not only was I not ready to be in a serious relationship, but I damn sure wasn't ready to have a family. There are things in life that happen that you can't change, and you have to accept them for what they are or you will destroy yourself by internalizing it. In my case, I learned my lesson the hard way. It's a tough pill to swallow but...you HAVE to accept it, take it as a life lesson, move on and next time you'll have a better understanding of what you want and what you're ready for. Life's a trip man..it changes every day and whatever you may think you know or may think you are prepared for, life always has its way of letting you know what's up and who runs shyt. Hate it or love it, that's life..
sidenote: me and my BM weren't married..we dated for 3~ years. we DID talk about marriage and that eventually we would get married when we could afford it and when the time was right. .... like my man said a couple posts earlier, dodged a bullet on that one...
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ThatKidBlackHippy
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I hope it works out breh, try to have a face to face conversation with her about this when she isn't angry or emotional I guess.
Steve Piffler
I got them CERTS
we are alright now. i'm helping her find a spot that she could afford. i realized that when she told me about her issues with finding a place, she didn't want me to SOLVE the issue for her. she wanted me to listen. she was only venting to me. but being the logical man that i am 
, i started shooting solutions at her. that's not what she wanted. so now, i don't offer my advice or help to her at all unless she EXPLICITLY asks for it. i have noticed that she is afraid. i told her today that we need to sit the kids down and talk to them about what's going on (they don't know yet....or so we think 
). that does 2 things: lets the kids know so that they can start to process what's going on and that makes this whole situation REAL. nobody wants to talk to their kids about such a horrible situation, knowing that it could possibly devastate them. so if we do have this conversation with the boys, there is NO turning back.
i hate to see this go down, but i have finally come to grips with it and i'm taking the approach to it....it is what it is...
, i started shooting solutions at her. that's not what she wanted. so now, i don't offer my advice or help to her at all unless she EXPLICITLY asks for it. i have noticed that she is afraid. i told her today that we need to sit the kids down and talk to them about what's going on (they don't know yet....or so we think ). that does 2 things: lets the kids know so that they can start to process what's going on and that makes this whole situation REAL. nobody wants to talk to their kids about such a horrible situation, knowing that it could possibly devastate them. so if we do have this conversation with the boys, there is NO turning back.i hate to see this go down, but i have finally come to grips with it and i'm taking the
approach to it....it is what it is...we are alright now. i'm helping her find a spot that she could afford. i realized that when she told me about her issues with finding a place, she didn't want me to SOLVE the issue for her. she wanted me to listen. she was only venting to me. but being the logical man that i am
i hate to see this go down, but i have finally come to grips with it and i'm taking the
Women are ALWAYS on this.
They don't understand that to men you only share problems like this when you want answers. Not to just talk about it.
After years, my girl still doesn't always get it, and I don't always get it, have a hard time figuring out when I should just listen or put my 2 cents in