Sex Without Women (Article is Safe For Harlem)

[Canada Goose]

Down through the ages, one thing united these mass-produced forms of pornography: the understanding that no matter how exciting, they were always and only a pale imitation of the real thing. Any traveling salesman who checked into a motel with his copy of Playboy would rather have had a human being on his arm.

But then the internet arrived.


What a testament to man—how noble in reason, how infinite in faculties!—that he continued doing anything else after the advent of online porn. Plenty of women, of course, consume and enjoy or create and profit from porn—people of every sexual orientation and gender identity do. But the force that through the green fuse drives the flower (and the money) is heterosexual male desire for women. And here was porn so good, so varied, so ready to please, so instantly—insistently—available, that it led to a generation of men who think of porn not as a backup to having sex, but as an improvement on it. They prefer it.


Where would this take us? Well, now we know. The heterosexual man can now have what many see as a rich sex life without ever needing to deal with an actual woman.

Sex has the ability to create or strengthen a bond between people, and—no matter how many precautions you might take against this terrible outcome—you could find yourself emotionally attached to a person you have sex with. Before online porn, men had an obvious incentive to put up with the stress of dating, and they developed the social skills necessary to close the deal: enough resilience to ask a woman out, and then a second woman, if the first one rejected them; the drive to locate a clean shirt; and the skill to make conversation over two orders of chicken piccata. It could be awkward; it could be a nightmare. But whether the resulting attachment lasted half a century or a single week, one thing was certain: While the relationship was going on, they were not a statistic in the loneliness epidemic. They were humans in a world made for humans.


But who needs to spiff up now? Porn will never reject you or look at you with a pitying gaze. It’s always there, it never disappoints, and you never have to dig through the clothes hamper for something that smells okayish. As Michael says in The Boys in the Band, one good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to look your best.



The internet’s biggest by-product is loneliness; porn isn’t special in that regard. You and I weren’t made to live this way; we barely are living this way. Many of the traits that make us human—our compassion, our ability to devote sustained thought to a problem, our capacity to fall in love and to sacrifice for the people we love—are meaningless to the algorithms that rule us. They’ve deformed us. Every time I hear a middle-class young woman make the utilitarian argument for why she makes sexual videos on OnlyFans—because she can make in two hours of work what would take her 40 hours to earn waitressing—I think, Here it is at last: end-stage capitalism. The phase in which nothing has any value or meaning other than its sale price.

Link to full article: Sex Without Women

https://www.cnn.com/2025/03/22/health/video/smr-men-watching-too-much-porn

 

[Canada Goose]

Watching online porn has become most adolescents’ first sexual experience. The average 14-year-old boy today has seen more hard-core porn than all of the American fighting forces in the Second World War

 

[lowkey0z]

imma keep it 100, that thread title is insane, can't even wrap my head some shyt like that

 

[Yapdatfool]

In a chapter called “Some Desires Are Worse Than Others,” Emba writes that broadband porn has normalized anal sex and choking during sex among Gen Z and young millennials. Her view is that these trends fuel our dehumanization of each other and can cause women disproportionate discomfort and pain.

 

[Easy-E]

"Caitlin Flanagan"

I'm sure she's gonna talk about the systemic issues in youth development that are causing young men to be anti-social, along with the economic pressure they still face in relationships and dating.

Right?

MF can't afford a house--they not gonna care about raising a family.

Some of excerpts read like "men need to do better" bs we read/hear already.

And the problem still is here.

 

[Striving For Greatness]

i need a tesla bot fine shii editon

 

[Roid Jones]

With access and technology it will only get worse. I remember as a teen getting bored of mags and videos and wanting the real thing. I can't imagine what I would have been like growing up today.

 

[RhodyRum]

Gooncells unite.

 

[Fill Collins]

I make money off these people

Porn just becomes annoying when you're supposed to write about it

 

[Lucky_Lefty]

That just mean us OIF/OEF vets set a benchmark that’ll never be surpassed.
to the brehs and brehettes who rubbed one out for freedom