Predatory behavior of women isn't discussed as much.

[ViShawn]

One of the most common things I see mentioned online is women talking about how when they grew up they were always warned about men's sexuality, potential predatory behavior, and the capacity for violence some men have, especially in romantic relationships.

I see this in many "gender war" conversations but also in much of the cultural zeitgeist right now in conversations like "man vs bear" or the idea that we should "believe all women".

I grew up for part of my life around a lot of women and I'll say I was warned about women. First as a young black boy in the south to avoid white women and how they can ruin you. We even see now with the Shannon Sharpe situation that although the girl was 19, it seems like it gives validity to these warnings I got as a child.

I also got warned in my teen years about "fast" women as well as in my 20s in my career about how women can "trap" you, especially if they can see you have a good career etc.

I would also like to elaborate on predatory sexual behavior which isn't talked about. Some see it as a badge of honor having sex with an older woman, but now we see Black men coming out saying that they had a sexual relationship with an older woman when they were barely a teenager. Tech9, Lil Wayne mentioned this. Let's not forget that R Kelly had a sexual relationship with an older woman ages 8 - 13. This is dismissed and we aren't seen as potential victims not only because we are male, but the idea of Black men being violent, predatory, etc.

I wish this was talked about and it frustrates me to no end. Women are seen as perpetual victims but we don't talk about how a woman can ruin a man's career, be vilified or killed due to a woman. America has a history of this too. Why isn't this talked about more? Furthermore why isn't talked about more in Black male spaces as much?

 

[Buckeye Fever]

Yep.

They deserve the same smoke men get.

Both are disgusting, no matter how legal.

I'm more of a morals guy anyway

 

[Kasgoinjail]

True

 

[Luke Cage]

As a black man, if you get sexually abused by another man. That's cause for ridicule. #terrycrews"why didn't you whoop his ass then?"
if you get sexually abused by a women, thats cause for being told to stfu. "tf are complaining about? Wish that was me" #Every thread in here about school teachers slamming ass with students.
Nobody cares about black men's mental health very much.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I mean dudes brag about smashing grown women at 14. Nobody cares

 

[ViShawn]

As a black man, if you get sexually abused by another man. That's cause for ridicule
if you get sexually abused by a women, tf are complaining about? is the general response
Nobody cares about black mens mental health very much

Definitely. Ive seen this also with physical abuse too. Ive been attacked by two women and I know I didn't get the same support around it compared to if I were a woman.

Also I'm very sensitive to abuse because my mother was also a victim.

Regarding sexual abuse I have even realized that there are close male friends of mine that were abused, whether by an older man or woman, which shocked me.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

I mean dudes brag about smashing grown women at 14. Nobody cares

Nobody cares because American men, by and large, aren't trained or taught how to actually handle or process these occurrences. And it's not an easy aspect of a culture to un-tether ones self from.

And it'll never change because unfortunately most men in American don't take shyt seriously outside of money and prestige. So the issue will never be solved.

 

[ViShawn]

Nobody cares because American men, by and large, aren't trained or taught how to actually handle or process these occurrences. And it's not an easy aspect of a culture to un-tether ones self from.

And it'll never change because unfortunately most men in American don't take shyt seriously outside of money and prestige. So the issue will never be solved.

This is true. I'm wondering do you think this is dismissed more as Black men due to us being seen as more hyper sexual (and therefore our humanity not seen as much vs other marginalized groups) ?

 

[lowkey0z]

double standards

shyt's even worst now a days with the lack of sex/relationships most dudes are getting now a days, makes for horrible decision making when dealing with women, and most women know this and take advantage of it - - fukked up, but nikkas just gotta be up on game

 

[RickyDiBiase]

This is true. I'm wondering do you think this is dismissed more as Black men due to us being seen as more hyper sexual (and therefore our humanity not seen as much vs other marginalized groups) ?

It's dismissed in general in the broader American society

You're not going to fund a study or survey or organization helping with Hispanics or Asians being abused

You'll find some that are white male centered- that no pays attention to or gives any consideration of

See, this is why I never took the whole "redpill/manosphere" trash "speaking to male issues" seriously because if they were the least bit sincere, they very well could've highlighted this issue and thus be given benefit of the doubt

But they were never genuine in helping people in the first place.

But back to your question, by and large black men or not, young men being sexually abused by women isn't going to be taken seriously within our lifetime, because there's no one actively trying to make it an issue

And it'll fall on deaf's ears like a lot of major societal issues we currently face because this is not a country of serious people.

 

[Ski Mask]

Eh it is what it is only time people gonna feel sorry if it was an ugly woman or she got pregnant by it. And even then you gotta brush that shyt off.

Cause going to someone saying a attractive woman forced herself on you is like someone saying a rich person forced a million dollars on them.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

Eh it is what it is only time people gonna feel sorry if it was an ugly woman or she got pregnant by it. And even then you gotta brush that shyt off.

Cause going to someone saying a attractive woman forced herself on you is like someone saying a rich person forced a million dollars on them.

Then on top of that, it's no like these teachers who get caught fukking male students don't get sentenced.

I'm old enough to remember that nutty bytch Mary Kay Letourneau

 

[ViShawn]

Then on top of that, it's no like these teachers who get caught fukking male students don't get sentenced.

They just get moved to another school or it's settled out of court.

 

[Piffery]

I mean dudes brag about smashing grown women at 14. Nobody cares

Everyone contributes to this, putting the blame only on the boys brainwashed into endorsing their abuse leads nowhere.

I said this in another thread, so just reposting it here:


It's not just due to that, the blame goes abound.

Honestly I was worn out by the praise/validation people received for claiming only or mainly men invalidate the sexual abuse of boys by saying things like "nicccceee"; so I collected and sent Josef these screenshots as a means of proving that wrong/showing that when you select from progressive spaces (where I usually see this discussion), people are only noting the women who have the language to genuinely or performatively offer understanding/empathy to male victims- I.e not the women irl/historically who also told the boys they were lucky, shouldn't complain, or abused boys themselves.







(And I could have sent far more).



Another disgusting thread:

https://x.com/whatislife125/status/1734336479239753754?t=Wgm_yqoiKKGu2KcDbipp7Q&s=19

(Damn the images are gone but the reactions are still there)



My last post in this thread gets into hard numbers around the sexual abuse of boys and societal wide beliefs that are shared across gendered lines, as well as blocks in effectively tackling the issue.

 

[Da_Eggman]

I'm personally tired of being look at as just some sexy piece of man meat by these so-called women