Outside of my parents, I'm ready to cut off my family

[MalikReloaded]

I understand why I have uncles and aunts that have moved away that I've never seen before. I have 12 aunts and uncles. I only know 5 because the rest left.

I'm a sane person in a super dysfunctional family. And it's easier to move 1,000 miles away and never see these nikkas again than to put up with them. Can't stand anyone with the exception of my mom and my dad. This thanksgiving weekend just reminded me why I want to move across the country

 

[Mrl HiGrnd]

Just wait til one of them dies then you realize how selfish you're being. You only get one family breh. Life ain't the Jeffersons accept your family as who hey are, respect them, ignore their bullshyt and try to actually learn from them. No real man runs away from his problems

 

[Barnett114]

He belongs to the PAWG's family now

 

[knickscrusaderm]

Just wait til one of them dies then you realize how selfish you're being. You only get one family breh. Life ain't the Jeffersons accept your family as who hey are, respect them, ignore their bullshyt and try to actually learn from them. No real man runs away from his problems

Potent .

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

Family is family and you can love them, but you don't have to be around nor entertain them. Don't let nobody guilt trip you into thinking you wrong for not wanting to be near some fam. A lot of times they worst than people in the streets

 

[MalikReloaded]

Just wait til one of them dies then you realize how selfish you're being. You only get one family breh. Life ain't the Jeffersons accept your family as who hey are, respect them, ignore their bullshyt and try to actually learn from them. No real man runs away from his problems

I could care less.

I can start my own family.

 

[VICVALLIN]

outside of my mom and my siblings (and really not even them too much), i don't really fukk with my family like that. too much ignorance. my wife and i moved away nearly 2 years ago and neither of us have a desire to go back. if the people in your circle, relatives or not, bring nothing positive to the lives of you or your family (wife and chidlren, if you have them), then i see no problem with cuttin them outta ya life.

 

[Hope]

Just wait til one of them dies then you realize how selfish you're being. You only get one family breh. Life ain't the Jeffersons accept your family as who hey are, respect them, ignore their bullshyt and try to actually learn from them. No real man runs away from his problems

Everyone's situation is different and everybody don't live the way you do. You sound judgmental and don' know what has occurred between him and his family members or know who he is as a person.

From my personal experience, I aint see or call a single member of my "family" thanksgiving, and I had a peaceful, happy day. I'm learning to love myself today and enjoy life. I come from a very dysfunctional family too, which means, I'm also a sick person. But I can break the cycle. And I'm learning to change my ways to help my parents out regardless of what happened in the past. So I love and respect my parents today despite the abuse, neglect, and very poor parenting decisions.

As for extended family, fukk them is my motto. I hope they find peace and health, but that's about it. I have parents, and a great family who are not blood related, and things are looking up.

To love me, is to know me. Maybe somewhere down I may try to reconnect, but we all need our space. I know suffered too much to be around sick people willingly. But everyone is different. Some people just had to let go of family members because the situation is life or death.

 

[Killer Instinct]

Family is family and you can love them, but you don't have to be around nor entertain them. Don't let nobody guilt trip you into thinking you wrong for not wanting to be near some fam. A lot of times they worst than people in the streets

This. Family or not, everybody isn't good for you.
A smart person should know how to filter them out and respond appropriately. All negative energy should be cut out.
You can love people from a distance.

 

[MalikReloaded]

Family is family and you can love them, but you don't have to be around nor entertain them. Don't let nobody guilt trip you into thinking you wrong for not wanting to be near some fam. A lot of times they worst than people in the streets

I don't feel guilty. It's easy to talk that shyt when your family is normal. My family is dysfunctional, ratchet, crazy, close minded, chaotic. Both my sisters are HS school dropouts that got pregnant by 17. My brother was a drug dealer who was locked up 75% of his life before getting killed. It gets worse with my cousins. I'm the only half way normal one. My sisters look at me like i'm weak because I got an education and wasn't thugging like my brother (who got murdered) or their jailhouse baby fathers. One time we got into an argument and they told me my brother would think I was a bytch....like I'm supposed to want to live up to a nikka that got killed selling drugs. This move to D.C. can't happen any sooner. But that might not even be far enough If I can help it, I wanna be 1,000 of miles away. This is not even anger talking. I been feeling like this forever. I really just never want to see them again outside of short visits.

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

I don't feel guilty. It's easy to talk that shyt when your family is normal. My family is dysfunctional, ratchet, crazy, close minded, chaotic. Both my sisters are HS school dropouts that got pregnant by 17. My brother was a drug dealer who was locked up 75% of his life before getting killed. It gets worse with my cousins. I'm the only half way normal one. My sisters look at me like i'm weak because I got an education and wasn't thugging like my brother (who got murdered) or their jailhouse baby fathers. One time we got into an argument and they told me my brother would think I was a bytch....like I'm supposed to want to live up to a nikka that got killed selling drugs. This move to D.C. can't happen any sooner. But that might not even be far enough If I can help it, I wanna be 1,000 of miles away. This is not even anger talking. I been feeling like this forever. I really just never want to see them again outside of short visits.

it be like that, I ain't even mad nor do I blame you because I've been through it with some fam.

 

[desjardins]

Do what you need to do to be happy fam.

Have a real frank conversation with them and if they don't change then bounce.

 

[MalikReloaded]

Everyone's situation is different and everybody don't live the way you do. You sound judgmental and don' know what has occurred between him and his family members or know who he is as a person.

From my personal experience, I aint see or call a single member of my "family" thanksgiving, and I had a peaceful, happy day. I'm learning to love myself today and enjoy life. I come from a very dysfunctional family too, which means, I'm also a sick person. But I can break the cycle. And I'm learning to change my ways to help my parents out regardless of what happened in the past. So I love and respect my parents today despite the abuse, neglect, and very poor parenting decisions.

As for extended family, fukk them is my motto. I hope they find peace and health, but that's about it. I have parents, and a great family who are not blood related, and things are looking up.

To love me, is to know me. Maybe somewhere down I may try to reconnect, but we all need our space. I know suffered too much to be around sick people willingly. But everyone is different. Some people just had to let go of family members because the situation is life or death.

That's how I feel. I just want to start again with my children somewhere far away and do things correctly. Raise them in an environment free from dysfunction and all the issues my family has.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I don't know why y'all are trying to force him to love his family.

That's the thing that annoys me about this society, you have to "love" people because its politically correct. If you can't stand them, regardless of their status in society you shouldn't be forced to love them. A family is an organization, its not an obligation.

Don't force yourself to feel a way that you don't, or tolerate things that you don't except. You'll find happiness this way and you can gear your energy towards those that you do genuinely care about.

 

[Wildin]

@MalikReloaded

you can be alright if you dont surround yourself with family. If you plan on starting your own family it will be tough. You will need a broad who is 100% cool with your situation before ya'll settle down. bytches get pregnant then all of a sudden want to go ancestry.com and start putting together family trees, including yours talkin bout "Well if you die I want our child to know his uncles, cousins, aunts, grandma, grandpa, etc." Even if she is cool with it, you gotta deal with explaining the situation to your own kids.

Kids are curious as a motherfukker. Picture yourself now talking to your 2 future kids

You: "Hey! You dont push your brother. You dont treat family like that. I dont treat my brother like that"
Your seed: "You have a brother?"
You: "Yea, he's your uncle"
Your seed: "Where does he live?"
You: "Near grandma"
Your seed: "How come we never see him?"
You: "Go play somewhere"


My boys kid is in kindergarten 3 weeks in he brings home a family tree homework assignment.