1. I do have kids, my two oldest daughters live here. One thing I forgot to mention is that Wake public schools (WCPSS) is one of the best large school districts in America. On the whole it's outstanding, and I forgot to mention this is an advantage it has over Meck schools in Charlotte...
My daughters live on the Southside and go to one of the better elementary schools on that side, Creech Elementary. It's 48% black, 33% Hispanic, and the white kids (12%) are the lowest performing demo at the school, according to greatschools:
Explore Creech Road Elementary in Garner, NC
It's the 20th-ranked elementary school of 130 elementary schools in the county:
Elementary Schools in Wake County School District, 1-25 - Cary, NC | GreatSchools
Now, I don't know much about private schools but I can tell you that you aren't gonna find any here that are plurality black. I'm also not familiar with the charter schools here, but in general I believe there are enough good schools in the county that you could find a strong public school here...
I also don't know much about the year round schools either, other than only about 12% of the schools in the county are on a year-round calendar, and that the year round schools get like 2 week breaks every quarter, in addition to the normal holiday breaks...
Among public districts with 100,000+ enrollment, Wake is one of just 4 districts with an A-grade----->and one of just two of them that aren't in a suburban county, the other being the Cypress-Fairbanks ISD in Houston...
Your wife wants Philly, depending on how you all prioritize interests, Philly public schools are not even close to as high performing as Raleigh on balance...
There are a number of schools here, plenty, that would fit your daughter's interests in band, sports, dance, or a combination of the three!
2. So, you aren't going to find many walkable areas here, this is the South after all. Avenues are multi-lanes both ways and wide. However, there are areas that aren't optimally walkable, but are more walkable than the city on average...
You want to live near shopping and dining, the most semi-walkable areas are in North Raleigh which has the most entertainment options. I live in North Hills, one of the largest neighborhoods in the city, which is rife with shopping and dining. It is somewhat walkable, and borders the major mall in the city (Crabtree, outside and to the west if the neighborhood), while also bordering other semi-walkable areas. Again it's not
truly walkable anywhere down here but its close enough here...
North Hills as a hood is upscale and mostly upper middle class, and is about 10% black, 16% Hispanic, 69% white. But black people are clustered in the peripherals of the neighborhood, near the northwestern, western, and east/northeast fringes of North Hills...
North Hills directly borders blacker hoods to the east, like Brentwood (24% black) and North Shore (50%), and those neighborhoods border Mini-City (45% black) and Triangle Town (33%). These are all pretty diverse and somewhat walkable areas...
The thing to know about Raleigh, is it's segregation gradient follows an east/west pattern. Basically the eastern sides of the city are where most black people live---->east of Six Forks in North Raleigh, east of Saunders in South Raleigh. So if you want to live around black people, your strongest bet is staying to the east...
The city areas basically break down like this (ordered from blackest to least black):
EAST RALEIGH
46% black (32% white, 17% Hispanic, 3% Asian)
SOUTH RALEIGH
40% black (35% white, 16% Hispanic, 6% Asian)
DOWNTOWN RALEIGH
24% black (61% white, 8% Hispanic, 3% Asian)
NORTH RALEIGH
19% black (61% white, 12% Hispanic, 4% Asian)
WEST RALEIGH
8% black (80% white, 3% Asian, 3% Hispanic)
But broken down slightly further, illustrates the racial pattern I mentioned because the North and South sides of the city are big and split into NE/NW, SE/SW:
1.
Southeast Raleigh
61% black (18% Hispanic, 16% white, 2% Asian)
2. East Raleigh
3.
Northeast Raleigh
28% black (49% white, 14% Hispanic, 5% Asian)
4. Downtown Raleigh
5.
Southwest Raleigh
21% black (56% white, 10% Asian, 10% Hispanic)
6.
Northwest Raleigh
13% black (73% white, 7% Hispanic, 4% Asian)
7. West Raleigh