My Advice To Married Couples After Divorcing My Wife Of 16 Years By Gerald Rogers.

[Sad Bunny]

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had

1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3. Fall in love over and over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4. Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5. It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

http://afterjujuman.wordpress.com/2...vorcing-my-wife-of-16-years-by-gerald-rogers/


I'm not even this big of a simp

 

[The Frozen One]

I'm not even this big of a simp

fukkk that shyt .. this fakkit is a straight simp ..

 

[Sad Bunny]

i think he makes good point. You gotta understand not every relationship is the same. Maybe the way it ends have the same red flag and signs. But people have different experiences during the relationship. He was with his wife for 16 years. So he knows a thing or two. Maybe he wishes he did those so his marriage didn't fail. Only he knows that.

I think he's trying to say that don't be surprised if she leaves you, you could be the best husband in the world and do all the right things, but that doesn't mean she'll stay with you. If you love yourself and are happy with yourself and you didn't get too complacent during the relationship you shouldn't have any issues moving on and finding the next best thing.

yeah but read the rest breh

 

[Remote]

Well...

1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

Ok.

2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

Is this supposed to allude to not cheating? Or perhaps more accurately, closing your heart off to other women? How does a human being function that way? If you can't control who you fall in love with, how can you possibly "protect your heart" and reserve it for only 1 woman? Seems to me things happen organically and you can't control that.

3. Fall in love over and over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

Why does this feel a lot like #2?

4. Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

Now hold on a second. Always see the best in her? Clearly people shouldn't focus on the negatives, but digging your head in the sand with a heartless bytch is how you get blindsided. I don't agree with this one at all. Maybe you overlook certain things that can get on your nerves. But always seeing the best is like going through life with blinders on. One has to be realistic.

5. It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

This is getting dumber. If you're in a relationship with someone, the whole point is for you two to change and grow together. Expecting her not to change and loving who she was at 25 when she's 40 is batsh*t insane.

This is horrible advice.
Who wrote this?

 

[No_bammer_weed]

obviously written by someone who is going through excruciating heartbreak over the dissolving of his marriage, and completely blames himself for it. He's in the throws of mental breakdown, and this piece was the result.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

why would i take advice from someone who failed?

 

[I'm Billy FUCO!!]

 

[Remote]

why would i take advice from someone who failed?

You mean like all the people who read Steve Harvey's book?