Man puts hands and feet on his daughter’s boyfriend for being in her room in the bed with her. Drama ensues. Right or wrong?
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Uchiha God
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I think I've read too many stories of dads trying to discipline their daughters' boyfriends and it ending up in tragedy.
Ultimately, you're only really responsible for your daughter, I don't have kids, but I'd like to think I'd be able to establish a relationship with a potential daughter wherein she understands the risks in having boyfriends at a young age, and I wouldn't be allowing them to come/stay over. You need to stress safety and consequences to your kids.
Putting hands on other people's kids - or just putting hands on people in general - can often come with consequences that cannot be walked back
Ultimately, you're only really responsible for your daughter, I don't have kids, but I'd like to think I'd be able to establish a relationship with a potential daughter wherein she understands the risks in having boyfriends at a young age, and I wouldn't be allowing them to come/stay over. You need to stress safety and consequences to your kids.
Putting hands on other people's kids - or just putting hands on people in general - can often come with consequences that cannot be walked back
Belize King
I got concepts of a plan.
Boundaries are set. Young man overstepped the boundary. Consequences ensued.
Today's children are shielded from consequences. If he were my child, a discussion with Dad would happen. I would verify, my son was told not to go in the room. I would verify the daughter understood the boundary as well. If all parties are on the same page, my son learned a lesson. He and I would discuss what happened and how to move forward.
The daughter's father and I would have a discussion off to the side. He will not put hands on my child ever again. I am the person to dispense punishment. He calls me first and I reprimand my child. Don't do it again.
Today's children are shielded from consequences. If he were my child, a discussion with Dad would happen. I would verify, my son was told not to go in the room. I would verify the daughter understood the boundary as well. If all parties are on the same page, my son learned a lesson. He and I would discuss what happened and how to move forward.
The daughter's father and I would have a discussion off to the side. He will not put hands on my child ever again. I am the person to dispense punishment. He calls me first and I reprimand my child. Don't do it again.
Toe Jay Simpson
Searchin’
He should have slapped her too, you already see the boy soft he aint gonna do nothing. Ol little “thats him over there” type nikka
Need to disclipine the daughter, too many other guys out there that would do the same. she'll end up finding them too. You can't discipline them all, but you can make sure she doesn't bring them home anymore.
verbalkint
I see you niccas...
That mom gonna be caring for her grandbaby before she knows it. Lil breh probably lollygagged with his exit and needed some help...
murksiderock
Superstar
You don't put your hands on other people's kids, period!
Belize King
I got concepts of a plan.
Many baby boomer parents say don't do this without explanation. My word is LAW. That doesn't seem to be effective enough. My Wife was told to never have a boy in her room. She got caught up. My brother in law pistol whipped the boyfriend and her mom whooped her at the age of 16.I think I've read too many stories of dads trying to discipline their daughters' boyfriends and it ending up in tragedy.
Ultimately, you're only really responsible for your daughter, I don't have kids, but I'd like to think I'd be able to establish a relationship with a potential daughter wherein she understands the risks in having boyfriends at a young age, and I wouldn't be allowing them to come/stay over. You need to stress safety and consequences to your kids.
Putting hands on other people's kids - or just putting hands on people in general - can often come with consequences that cannot be walked back
Who beats 16 year olds? How does that even happen? I was confused when I heard the story.
Last time my dad put hands on me, I was eight. Physical punishment can only go so far. That's slave mentality in my opinion. There are better ways of getting your point across. You are raising future adults who have to navigate life without you.
RickyDiBiase
The Sword of Jesus of Nazareth
my son will mack on any shorty he wants, and I wish a fat back fukk like him would put his hands on my childWith that said, mfers need to stop recording shyt like this and start putting cases on people. Learn to keep shyt in house so we don't have goofies not in the situation offering they 2 cents when it ain't needed.
This ain't current affairs.
O.T.I.S.
Veteran
Understand both sides
Lesson here… don’t do shyt that you're not willing to accept consequences for.
For one, i’m sure he did know the rules but I’m also sure that FATHER should know him enough by now to be having him all up in his house and in his daughters room.
If he even allowed him to go in there he is just as at fault and unless that kid is just a habitual line stepper, he should've just told him to go and no more nikkas in his daughter's room.
On the other hand, she does have a point. Putting hands on someone’s kid is a no-no these days, especially for sitting in a bed. Safe to say no one will be chilling at anyones house now
Lesson here… don’t do shyt that you're not willing to accept consequences for.
For one, i’m sure he did know the rules but I’m also sure that FATHER should know him enough by now to be having him all up in his house and in his daughters room.
If he even allowed him to go in there he is just as at fault and unless that kid is just a habitual line stepper, he should've just told him to go and no more nikkas in his daughter's room.
On the other hand, she does have a point. Putting hands on someone’s kid is a no-no these days, especially for sitting in a bed. Safe to say no one will be chilling at anyones house now
The man is in the right
If he has to yank you out of his daughter’s room after telling you not to be there then so be it.
And none of that means he didn’t discipline his daughter as well. Both things can be true. Anyone saying “he should’ve handled his daughter” is correct, but we can’t assume he didn’t.
He removed the boy immediately is all we know.
If he has to yank you out of his daughter’s room after telling you not to be there then so be it.
And none of that means he didn’t discipline his daughter as well. Both things can be true. Anyone saying “he should’ve handled his daughter” is correct, but we can’t assume he didn’t.
He removed the boy immediately is all we know.
Splakavellie504
Superstar
Two words...Ike Turner 
Field Marshall Bradley
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Depends on the situation… but in general, you should do your best to refrain from it
Typical piece of shyt parenting on both sides.
The father raised a daughter that would have a dude get in her bed under her parents' roof.
The father don't want to acknowledge his daughter trash because he raised her to be trash, so instead of disciplining her and himself for being a trash father he take it out on that dude.
The mother of the dude raised her son to be stupid to do some shyt like that. Then, have the nerve to not let him suffer the consequences of his actions based off the poor parenting he received. She should have been slapped too.
The father raised a daughter that would have a dude get in her bed under her parents' roof.
The father don't want to acknowledge his daughter trash because he raised her to be trash, so instead of disciplining her and himself for being a trash father he take it out on that dude.
The mother of the dude raised her son to be stupid to do some shyt like that. Then, have the nerve to not let him suffer the consequences of his actions based off the poor parenting he received. She should have been slapped too.
You trespass on a man's property he got the right to kill you . Moms response shows exactly what the sons problem is. She is shielding him from accountability and consequences. Thats just setting him, and likely her with how she putting her hands in grown men's faces, up for worse.
You dont want people putting hands on your kids then you teach them not to violate. Man told you to stay out. You went in anyway. Blatant disrespect in that mans house. Unacceptable. Its one thing if they on the streets or the rule wasnt clear. But if you in my house and I done already let you know what it is all bets are off.
. Moms response shows exactly what the sons problem is. She is shielding him from accountability and consequences. Thats just setting him, and likely her with how she putting her hands in grown men's faces, up for worse.You dont want people putting hands on your kids then you teach them not to violate
. Man told you to stay out. You went in anyway. Blatant disrespect in that mans house. Unacceptable. Its one thing if they on the streets or the rule wasnt clear. But if you in my house and I done already let you know what it is all bets are off.