I never understood saving up 3 months worth of checks to buy a ring for bytch who might someday tell me my moms aint shyt and take half my shyt. Chime in with your thoughts
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I saw a video not too long ago about the entire idea of an engagement ring being something engineered by DeBeers, right down to the 3 month salary rule. Apparently, prior to the 1930s, I think, it was not a standard practice to give diamond engagement rings.
Also saw a video on how weddings, as many people have them now, were reserved for royalty/aristocracy/folks with money to show off to those without it. Common folk had simple ceremonies with family and no white dress.
Sadly, I think the idea of both are so ingrained in the culture now, you could try explaining this logically to your lady and she might still expect both.
To answer your question, though, I would rather have that money in some kind of account or investment, not a piece of jewelry.