It's projection when they do that, no different from the dudes always calling others gay and yelling no homo constantly.
Black women have developed an obsessive love/hate relationship with cac males, but this has been going on since slavery. They've always been open to them, even during Jim crow, BW/wm relationships were the most common IR.
Your last part speaks to how Black women have operated as overseers historically and now serve in a counter insurgent role to prevent a reemergence of Black patriarchy through non-stop child abuse of their sons and brainwashing with liberal theory.