Is my Nigerian friend in a financially abusive relationship?

[ddAriana]

Cliffs:
- My friend is engaged to a guy in Nigeria and she's Nigerian American
- She met him when she was visiting her parents that live in Nigeria
- When she goes to visit him she pays for everything
- Guy doesn't even have a high school education, barely is literate and recently lost his job
- He told her he is looking for a woman to buy things for him because he has a hard life but promised her one day he will work if she takes him to America
- She thinks she's in love because he is her first boyfriend and feels bad for his situation
- She says she won't bring him to the US but he is literally draining her bank account

I really don't know what to tell my friend. She is really in love with this guy. She is a really pretty girl she can get a decent guy in America. Why would she let this man do this to her? We have all been trying to stop her from getting married to him. The only thing I'm gonna add is that my friend used to get no male attention when she was younger/went through an awkward phase but now she glowed up and looks good but is still dating the same type of gutter men she used to date when she was looking a hot mess. I think she needs therapy.

 

[BlackMajik]

 

[Mike Nasty]

She is a really pretty girl she can get a decent guy in America

Either this line is BS or every other line in the post is BS.

 

[ddAriana]

Either this line is BS or every other line in the post is BS.

She isn't ugly. We don't understand why she is doing this. This is usually what desperate women that can't get a man do she don't look like those women from 90 day fiancé. She was really obese when she met him and now lost weight but said she stays with him because he liked her at her worst. Anyway never mind. I already know the answer to this question but this is a sad story.

 

[Betty Draper]

Very strange for a Nigerian man to be taking from a woman, he probably doesn’t love her. When a Nigerian guy loves you, he spends on you. Anyway, from your post it seems like your friend is in some type of abusive relationship. It sounds like low self esteem too. Why subject yourself to dating a broke, illiterate man who only takes but doesn’t give?

 

[Betty Draper]

Either this line is BS or every other line in the post is BS.

You’d be surprised, there are beautiful women taking all types of shyt from low grade men. They usually have low self esteem, so attract predators who can smell a victim a mile away.

 

[BigMan]

what time of shyt is this

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

WHAT?!
None of this computes in my world.

 

[BezO]

My experience with women judgin' their friends' looks is that y'all sometimes judge everything EXCEPT the actual women. Her clothes, shoes, weave, make up, nails, etc.

If she's not tellin' you stories about men tryin' to holla, or if you ain't seein' men holla when y'all out, she might be ugly and/or fat.

 

[Luna]

First off, if she's tricking, she's not being abused. She needs to take accountability if shyt hits the fan and she realizes she's not dating prince charming. She's not being held hostage and it sounds like he's doing something for her emotionally. She has to figure this one out

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

How is she Nigerian yet gets caught up with a Nigerian scammer? What a crazy world we live in.

Try to introduce her to someone better. That maybe the only way to get her right.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

First off, if she's tricking, she's not being abused. She needs to take accountability if shyt hits the fan and she realizes she's not dating prince charming. She's not being held hostage and it sounds like he's doing something for her emotionally. She has to figure this one out

Thank you. Every time something doesn't go a woman's way doesn't make it abuse.

 

[Rawtid]

Your friend isn't in any kind of relationship, she's just dumb.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Y’all naijas scamming your own people now or are American Nigerians akatas to you ?

 

[Yo Mama]

Saddly you might have to watch it play out. Its hard to tell a person who is "inlove" that the object of their affection aint shyt and they listen.